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<v Joanne Lockwood>Hello, everybody, and welcome to the very first podcast in my

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<v Joanne Lockwood>no new show called Inclusion Bites. In this series, I'll be

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<v Joanne Lockwood>interviewing a number of amazing people simply having a conversation

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<v Joanne Lockwood>around the subject of inclusion, belonging, and generally making the world a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>better place for everyone to thrive in. Would like to join me in the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>future, then please do drop me a line to jo.lockwood@seachangehappen.co.uk.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>You'll be at a catch up with all of the shows on iTunes, Spotify, and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>all the user places. So plug in your headphones, grab a decaf, and let's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>get going. Well, today, I have the absolute honor and privilege

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to be joined by Dr Lynda Shaw. I first met Lynda at

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a mess musical, at the Professional Speaking Association, and was recently

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<v Joanne Lockwood>amused by her entertaining the audience in a musical comedy sketch playing

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<v Joanne Lockwood>in the triangle in a different dialect. I asked Lynda

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to describe her superpower, as she said, her superpower

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<v Joanne Lockwood>is always loving change while the rest of us try to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>resist change, this is something Lynda does to great effect.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And today, we're gonna tackle the topic entitled

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<v Joanne Lockwood>It's the brain stupid. So Dr Lynda Shaw, good

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<v Joanne Lockwood>morning. How are you? Good morning, Joanne. Really good. Thank you. How are

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you? I'm fantastic. Thank you. Really looking forward to this. We planned this a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>couple of months ago, and I'm really, really excited to, finally have the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>opportunity to catch up. So do you want to tell me and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the listeners a bit more about yourself? So who is Dr Lynda

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Shaw? Yep. I'm, I've got a doctorate in neuroscience.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>My, specialty is unconscious processing of emotion,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and it's morphed into, other things as well.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Basically, because I had 3 businesses before I went back to academia,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and I've got a psychology in my background. So, my biggest

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>business, I had 2, 20 staff and 2000 members of a health

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>club. So I sort of get what it's like

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>to manage people to understand

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>how to motivate them, how to dis how to create decent

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>decision making processes, how to judgments, all of those things

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that the cognitive brain does. So my discipline is cognitive

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>neuroscience. So I basically am a specialist in how the brain

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>changes behavior and behavior changes the brain.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And because of that, what people don't realize

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>is just how much control they really have.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>They can control their behavior to a certain extent, not completely,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but to a certain extent, more than they realize if they just were aware

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>of it, understood how to do it, how to,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>how to change willingly. So that's what I rang on about when I go

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>around to companies and senior people in on in the city and such

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>like. So it's almost like saying to yourself,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>before something comes out your mouth before a thought becomes locked in, how

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<v Joanne Lockwood>can I change that thought? How can I reframe that? How can I nudge it

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<v Joanne Lockwood>into a different orbit maybe? Yeah. I mean, as soon as

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you, create a different way of thinking on a particular

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>topic or a particular person or particular object, you'll actually

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>rewire the brain. You've lead our new neural pathways and new

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>connections, new synapses, new dendrites, new everything. So it

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and then if you keep rolling that thought, you

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>will strengthen it, and it will become your default thought instead of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the more destructive one. So if we Yeah.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So, you know, we are we can do that, and we do it all

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the time. But what people don't realize is they can do it deliberately.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And by doing it deliberately, you have that you're in more in control of your

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>destiny, which is really cool. So I I heard

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<v Joanne Lockwood>recently that most of the biases we have are learned.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Okay. We we do have some protection type biases, some subliminal

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<v Joanne Lockwood>reptilian buses, but we do learn a lot of biases, over the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>course of our lifetime, don't we?

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Wellbeing has come from heuristics.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Heuristics is a method the brain uses to,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>create shortcuts to lay down information because

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we we are bombarded with this cacophony of stimuli

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>all the time, and the brain can't cope with it. So it relegates everything

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>all of this huge amounts of data. Now, if I said to

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you, if this was, is this a four sheet of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>brain. And, part of it's conscious

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>processing, and part of it is unconscious processing. How much would

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you say that sheet of paper is conscious processing?

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I'd have to say with a that's the thing I'm slightly educated. So I left,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I just say that probably 80% was probably unconscious and 20%

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<v Joanne Lockwood>A couple of stuff. All the rest is unconscious processing.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So what we do with heuristics is we think

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Okay. That person has, has a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>green skin with things sticking out of his head, must be a Martian, put them

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in the Martian book. That person has,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it's speed of efficiency for the brain to operate. But then

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we get these biases, because they were all of a sudden thinking, well, that means

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the Grinch, or it could be, you know, that dog is

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>biases are, are not very, very helpful

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in terms of being accurate because we stereotyped

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people, immediately into, because they've got that accent,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that must mean they're ABC. In a box. It's stereotypical.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So, it's not helpful because we get that wrong, but

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>equally, it's helpful because it enables us process so much

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>information so quickly. So the heuristics are great,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but the side effect of the biases And the site, the

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>biases are the things that we're trying to tackle so much in commerce now, which

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>is a very difficult thing to tackle. And,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it's it's a conundrum. It's it's actually a really big problem.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I heard somewhere that, the the, if you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>like, this unconscious brain is really fast, whereas the conscious

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<v Joanne Lockwood>brain is quite slow and expensive in terms of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>brain cycles. It costs more process things consciously

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>It's it's it's fairly true. We've got to be careful of these

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>grant statements in neuroscience, the pop the popular press get hold of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>this stuff. I mean, may I give you an example of what it's like to

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>be a neuroscientist to give you to give you context? Okay.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So we have an idea. And we've got our little idea,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and we think, okay, this is a really good idea. I want to research this

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>before. So our little idea becomes this great big

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it. We've realized then I'm going, okay. My dear's sound. I could do

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And then we think, right, I'm going to design my experiment now. So we open

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>results, And then we they finally take hold, not quite finally.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>They're being brought back down to those tiny results in about

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>half a page. And then we open it up again, in our discussion,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>looking back at the literature review. So we're now Lockwood we've now

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>goes out there to the, to, the enlightened ones. And then

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>because it goes wrong. So so you get this lovely

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>somebody says, oh, that's gonna fit my business model. I'm gonna say I can make

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Wellbeing, Mike, I'm I'm on a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mission to stop this. It's not I'm not gonna stop it, but I will

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>enlighten everybody I because, so we have to be very careful of grant

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>statements when it comes to neuroscience. It's a very serious

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>science, but it's an embryonic science. It's brand new in science

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So I I believe that when we get the next generation of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>neuroimaging equipment, we will probably unlearn

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<v Joanne Lockwood>we've been living in a world of kind of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>fake news is it in terms of what we believe about the brain, and we've

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<v Joanne Lockwood>had all these, you know, I, you know, you hear that Myers Briggs is is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>is as interesting as horoscope and you hear the introvert extrovert,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the binary parallels that we thought they were before and the and the brain

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<v Joanne Lockwood>is far more complex. So are we even now saying that men aren't for Mars

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and women aren't for Venus anymore? Is is there no male brain, female brain, or

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>labeling like this, it's it's the brain isn't that simple. We're

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>simplifying it too much. We are products

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So, therefore, we can't just say a male. I mean, I I know that it

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>girls are little tomboys in the playground. I know that little boys who would rather

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>It's, how do we talk about the so called male and female

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>really good documentaries on on mainstream television here in the UK,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>protected with. We don't need to be But it's the way we're programmed as

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>parents and as teachers and carers. So I think to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>It's almost, I think it's quite

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<v Joanne Lockwood>demeaning often to women to say, well, the female brain is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>different to the male brain. Therefore, you can't be as effective as a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>man. And it's almost like it's almost like creating 2nd class of citizen

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<v Joanne Lockwood>week. Men men don't quote. Women do quote. And then that's the

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>engineers of of men, mathematicians on men. What

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and plenty of female engineers out there, but it's this you know, and one of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>my kids, so when they were at university, one of their friends was done on

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>engineering course, she was the only girl in the auditorium. You know, in the

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah. You know, that's it. And I did some covert of research in a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And, yeah, I was talking to some people that was like, because I work on

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<v Joanne Lockwood>they said, well, it's not our problem so much. Society's problem,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and I said, well, hang on a minute. If you're running a business, you've gotta

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<v Joanne Lockwood>well, we can't do anything in society. And that that's a challenge

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<v Joanne Lockwood>The schools are now doing a fantastic job. I I I speak to a lot

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<v Joanne Lockwood>of pair and the schools are putting a lot of effort into making sure that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>boys and girls feel equally aspirational. But, of course, you come home, you

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I'm looking forward to the day when we do not discuss gender at all.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yes. Amen. Yeah. Yeah. I'm look yeah. I'm really am looking forward to that

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>day. I'm looking forward to the day when somebody gets a job on their

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>merit. On their capability and their experiences so

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>far. I'm looking forward to that. I'm a mother of a son and a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>somewhere. Yes, we do, but surely we

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>are doing the same as we did with the other with the opposite

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the north gender. Did you know I did a documentary with Karen Brady on

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>channel 5 new? No? Okay. We

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>sorry. I'm cracked. Tell me if you just want me to be quiet, Jo. Oh,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that's good. I get very excited.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>15 minutes a final hour frame. Definitely. Yeah. Care for it.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Okay. We we did this we did this program. I set

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>different employment agencies, half old guys, half old girls. We split them

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Half the CVs had the name of the applicant

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and the photograph, half of the CDs had no name and

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>gender they were because of that. With them,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>without, and we swapped it around for the second group. So we mixed it up

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>The brief was they didn't know why they were there, but the brief

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>on one applicant for a first interview in

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>an engineering firm as an IT expert.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Traditionally so called a male role, engineering firm,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>IT, and that was it. I think it was

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>95 percent of the result, 95%

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>of them chose men. Even with

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And when we told them that there was a bias going on, they were mortified.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Because they're recruiters. They understand what bias means. And they just

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>say, no. No. No. No. No. What was it? Well, why did you choose that

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>person? Well, because they've got a better degree was more suitable. No.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>They've all got suitable degrees, every one of them. And but it

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>turned out that it was the language in the CVs that

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that gave them the idea of which gender it was. So the

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>female CVs were words like team building, and,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>things like that, that looks the more cohesive, type

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>those words. And that that gave a clue as to what the recruiters

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>were looking at. And it was quite enlightening

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that, and they were really upset with themselves. And

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>argued big time pushed back. Yeah. But,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it, it was true. You know, but people will have biases. You know, the only

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people that don't have biases are dead people. So, you, you

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>know, so it's not a bad thing. We just need to be aware

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>of them and work with them sensibly. Yes. I

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<v Joanne Lockwood>mean, the whole, meritocracy in recruitment and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>opportunity is a whole new topic, which I'm I'm planning on tackling the other

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<v Joanne Lockwood>day, but, I often find merit pushing meritoxi

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<v Joanne Lockwood>forward is an excuse to keep the status quo because what we're saying

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<v Joanne Lockwood>is based on the based on the merits we've decided, this is the best

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<v Joanne Lockwood>person, but we often don't include in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that merit autocracy scoring other skills that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>are maybe more appropriate to the workplace, about collaboration, about teamwork, about

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<v Joanne Lockwood>So often we're building the meritocracy with male bias in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>mind, and that that's that's the challenge I have with meritocracy. And, yes, we'd all

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<v Joanne Lockwood>love to be equal, but I think some people need

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<v Joanne Lockwood>equity, which means give them a leg up to give them equality, if you like,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or equal chance. So Yeah. Yeah. So that, yeah, I think currently

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<v Joanne Lockwood>meritocracy is almost an excuse to keep status quo.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And sometimes I I feel that a diversity hire,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>whether that's gender ethnicity is somehow somehow seems

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<v Joanne Lockwood>2nd best. I'm hiring for diversity,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>not for the best person, but I have to hire someone who's different.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>They won't be as good. So you're almost pre bias in person to be

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<v Joanne Lockwood>not as good as the obvious candidate. And, anyway, that's a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that's a topic for all of you in the future. Unless you've got

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>some Sorry, Jeremy. You've just really touched on something that's

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>really interesting there. If we are,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we're actually going to become dinosaurs because things are

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>changing so rapidly, we really have got to think

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in in much more creatively, with with much more

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>innovation. So In actual fact, if we've got a job speaker, we're looking

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>for a certain type of person and we're trying not to be gender biased or

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>any bias whatsoever, maybe we're looking at the rock, maybe obscapes,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>not correct. Oh, completely. Completely. It's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a whole whole recruitment industry, and it is is shaking itself up.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Is based on a CV, which is a historical document. And

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<v Joanne Lockwood>could start writing CVs on computers. Before that, we used to fill an application

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<v Joanne Lockwood>People Wellbeing at video interviews, again, video interviews could have their own

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<v Joanne Lockwood>sound, the way they all these other facts kicking. But yeah, it's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I think the the more forward looking companies now are being more

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that the second round, there's always there's always that affinity, but as you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>already know, that person has capability. So you're more likely to you're more likely

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to welcome everybody whereas first system of CV is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>someone or or what it is a whole load of factors that CVs often are

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<v Joanne Lockwood>written by professionals to get people jobs, not actually to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>do the job. And, often, the the interview process is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>mode of the game, if you're like, rather than actual actual game footage.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>So, yeah, it's, it I think the forward looking companies are starting to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>address the way they recruit, the way they attract. The whole

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<v Joanne Lockwood>candidate experience, and also understand that the step is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>about their brand and about their, what they're offering people in terms of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>flex ability and the skills they need because they don't want

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the hierarchical businesses in the past. They want more neural

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<v Joanne Lockwood>networks, and that requires different skill sets, which can't always pick up in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a CV. Absolutely. There's a lot you can't pick up in a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>CV. But, of course, as soon as you get somebody in front of a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>only them. So they'll be looking with their with their buyers views as well,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you know, it's one of the big different. To be honest with you, when I

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>go into companies, one of the things I talk about is if you have got

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>an interview panel, or a board or whatever is that you

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>come to a point of agreement that you are

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>do, the others pointed out to you. Yes. I'd just

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>say, hang on a minute. Little Jiminy cricket here. We're all watching on your

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>shoulder. You just did X Y Zed. The problem with that

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>of where everybody consents to the same thing.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And, you know, you actually are looking after one another, so you are not

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<v Joanne Lockwood>again, look at some of the forward looking companies, they're they're a lot more

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<v Joanne Lockwood>some of those are done blindly, and some of those are done,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>as I say, just using objective based questions. So, you know, find the error in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>capability than a 5 minute interview, which really,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I think people are saying now that an interview and a CV and application

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<v Joanne Lockwood>video only gets you a month or 2's head start. It's the actual the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>person that's gonna thrive after the 3 or 4 months, when they've they've picked up

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the job, they've picked up the opportunity.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And, they're actually enrolled I think what we

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<v Joanne Lockwood>tend to do is we we tend to go for the person who's got the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>extrovert personality or the or the person more like us

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or the more like the person just left or the other people in the team.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And that's that's when we're right at the job set, we often think of the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>person we want to hire, and then we match everybody against that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>person other than the actual needs of the role.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>But, yeah, that that's that's that's the way the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>world is moving, and it slowly in some areas, but people organizing

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<v Joanne Lockwood>are really focused on that. Yeah. I think it's it's all about group membership.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>You know, we, we identify with people like us, and

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we need our group membership, and we will fight for our group.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>As you've seen everywhere, absolutely, every week, just listen to the news

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>anytime, and you will find people fighting for their group that they feel

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>a member of, and anybody out side of that group is a threat.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And that's, you know, that's evolutionary psychology going on here. You know,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>everybody outside that, and and for very good reason, when we were in

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Little Villages, and we were being invaded all the time and raided and

404
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>stuff and, you know, raped and pillaged and all of those things going

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>on. So, but so our group membership is very,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>very important to us. So it's the, I think

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the way to get help to get over it is to for

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people to appreciate the differences of

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>other groups. So there needs to be a a move

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>forward to to appreciate. So we're raising

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>awareness, and then we start to appreciate how those

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>differences are valuable, So set set a break

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<v Joanne Lockwood>uniqueness, set a break differences. It makes

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the whole bigger by enriching it with different experiences,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>different thoughts, different different ideas. Yeah. I agree. Yeah.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Absolutely. Absolutely. And then what you've got is but to be honest

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>with you, you raise awareness, but people will still

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>ignore it if they feel threatened. So you won't actually

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>change anybody's mind unless you can stimulate

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>curiosity. Because with curiosity, we

421
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>learn. You know, sure we learn the times table by road,

422
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you know, just boring, boring, dram it in, but most of us

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>learn by being curious. And children, especially, like, they're

424
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>sponges. They're everything they're in in awe, and they're in wonder of

425
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>everything that going on, and they're learning huge amounts of data

426
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>every single day. And just by being sponges and curing,

427
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about what the, what's going on in the world. So if we can stimulate that

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in adults, but raising awareness of what's going

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>on, Finding that curiosity to then appreciate

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the differences there are and then being curious about what that person

431
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>contribute, or those people can contribute, all that group contribute

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>to what you're doing. That's a good way forward, I

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think. Yeah. Are are we now living in society

434
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<v Joanne Lockwood>where people aren't being as curious as they once

435
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<v Joanne Lockwood>were with, maybe there's too much information, too much strong opinion,

436
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<v Joanne Lockwood>mean, it's just to look at some of the the hot topics of the of

437
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<v Joanne Lockwood>the world in the UK. So we've got the, the Brexit debate. We've

438
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<v Joanne Lockwood>got climb change. We've got some of these other debates that are going on where

439
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<v Joanne Lockwood>we have, anti vaxxes and and and people who are

440
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<v Joanne Lockwood>adamant that vaccines, cause, autism,

441
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<v Joanne Lockwood>etcetera, etcetera. So we've got all these really strong opinions, and people seem to

442
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<v Joanne Lockwood>set up camps on opposite sides of the opposite hills and

443
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<v Joanne Lockwood>just start throwing grenades and and rocks and stones at each other and aren't

444
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<v Joanne Lockwood>just So you're not with this carnage of where the center

445
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<v Joanne Lockwood>ground is almost like dangerous where

446
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<v Joanne Lockwood>you have to have an opinion, and think we saw it with with

447
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Brexit. Once you'd entrenched into a camp, it was very hard to

448
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<v Joanne Lockwood>to get into the middle ground and have a conversation. And is

449
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<v Joanne Lockwood>that the media? Is social media? Is that is that just the way society's evolved?

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Is that how do we how do we get curious again? How do we how

451
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<v Joanne Lockwood>do we reverse what we've done? I think, if

452
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>anybody is so ensconced in their, in their group membership,

453
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they are not going to be curious unless their curiosity is stimulated.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>That could be stimulated by an outsider, or it could be stimulated

455
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>by what another group has done. And,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and and it depends how how much identity

457
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>somebody has with their group, how deep that identity is.

458
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>If somebody has more than one identity, then they

459
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>are going to be more willing to bond to find out

460
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about others. But if people, if somebody has got, you know,

461
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>some religions, well, all religions, some people in them, they become,

462
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they don't want to know about anything else. They are right, and everybody else is

463
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>wrong. And that's so black and white. It just can't

464
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>possibly be true. It just can't be true. And of course, if we can

465
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>get that going, that curiosity you going, then we communicate better. And if we

466
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>communicate better, there'd be far less, anguish and

467
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>anxiety. Oh, yeah.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>We need to put this this this this podcast onto the onto onto the radio,

469
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<v Joanne Lockwood>play it everyone's home and just and get people to on. Let's open our minds

470
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<v Joanne Lockwood>up, but it's it's a really difficult thing to overcome when you're so entrenched.

471
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<v Joanne Lockwood>You you so everything in your life saying you're right.

472
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<v Joanne Lockwood>You're being bombarded with your in group stuff, as you said. And

473
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<v Joanne Lockwood>that sometimes in order to break away from that, you've got to be the brave

474
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<v Joanne Lockwood>one. Step out of your in group and go and go and visit

475
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<v Joanne Lockwood>visit the enemy. You know, it's it's I often talk about it as

476
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<v Joanne Lockwood>a you're either a man in ice fan or a man city fan. You're

477
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<v Joanne Lockwood>either a a bright red or a light blue. You you can't

478
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<v Joanne Lockwood>there's no middle ground. You can't be half half a

479
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Jedi. You can't be half a sith. You know, you're you have to make you

480
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<v Joanne Lockwood>have to snare your colors sometimes, and and that's where people really

481
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<v Joanne Lockwood>struggle to the open minded, isn't it? It is. And it's

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>all again down to group identity. They can't belong to more than

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>one group, but I've never stood. Why? It doesn't

484
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I don't I I I can understand it psych in

485
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in terms of psychology, but I don't understand because you everyone else is

486
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>threat. But if somebody, if that group has proven themselves not to be a

487
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>threat, then, you know, lift yourself up. And

488
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>just start to ask questions and find out what it's

489
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>like to be at that other group.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah, Yeah. I I mean, that that segue is nicely. And just one of the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>things we were talking about the other week, which was around trans identities.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And the way that trans identity and people who are

493
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<v Joanne Lockwood>trans can polarize people into two camps.

494
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<v Joanne Lockwood>There are some who are vehemently transgender

495
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<v Joanne Lockwood>critical who try and base their

496
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<v Joanne Lockwood>understanding of the world based on a fixed binary gender, binary sex,

497
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<v Joanne Lockwood>birth, chromosomes, birth genes, etcetera.

498
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<v Joanne Lockwood>And other people who are more able to see gender as a freely

499
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<v Joanne Lockwood>sense of sense of identity, sense of self, something we've evolved over

500
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<v Joanne Lockwood>our lifetime, and and there's no binary

501
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<v Joanne Lockwood>gender, as such, there's a whole spectrum, which is fluid and it

502
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<v Joanne Lockwood>can evolve and not everyone has to be this

503
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<v Joanne Lockwood>yeah, the gender box of an expectation of a man or the gender box

504
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<v Joanne Lockwood>expectation of a woman. And, there are some people who

505
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<v Joanne Lockwood>seem to want to police people back into their box. I

506
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>know. I know we do. And it's giga box quite interesting.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Last week, I was, I was speaking at a conference. And just before

508
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I had to go on stage, they they broke out in groups.

509
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And, I was that one group stayed in the main room, and

510
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>other groups went to different areas in the building. So I stayed in the room,

511
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>because I knew I was I was wired up and with the mic and everything.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So I stayed there. And, I watched this group. Honestly,

513
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Joe, it was the weirdest thing there were

514
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about 20 of them. And in my imagination, I

515
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>could see, like, particles all coming

516
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>together and entwining and bouncing

517
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>bouncing and doing this and bouncing a bit more and doing

518
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>stuff. And I just thought, this is I I'm very

519
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>interested in quantum physics, but I don't understand it. But,

520
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it's pretty hard. But, but it's like,

521
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>when you talked about when you have a period in our lives where we're more

522
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>fluid, we can be, you know, whatever we wish to be in terms of

523
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>gender or whatever. It was like that. It was, I could

524
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>see all these particles, again, in my imagination, just coming

525
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mingling together, very much influencing

526
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>one another. Very much, leaving your

527
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>template, your footprint, whatever, but equally, then thought to

528
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>myself, okay, in terms of neuroscience, what's going on here? And

529
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in neuroscience and psychology, we try to explain things in very,

530
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>not fixed ways, but certain ways of logic,

531
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>whereas quantum physics is random. You know,

532
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that you get these these particles going on, all of a sudden, they're behaving certain

533
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>way and then they don't. It just they just randomly do something else. And that's

534
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>what people do. Yeah. You know, we we have all these

535
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>psychology theories and neuroscience stuff coming out. And,

536
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>all of these things going on about human brain and the human behavior,

537
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but then they get all of a sudden, they can do something really random. You

538
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>go, where did that come from? Why why would you do that? And it's

539
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>like we are intwined in quantum theory,

540
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in that just for some reason, we do something random, and

541
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it's a very fluid process.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>That's how I saw it. Sorry. I went off on that. I'm

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<v Joanne Lockwood>As you're talking, I'm I'm going back to the intro we had where you

544
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<v Joanne Lockwood>said you embrace change and where you find that other people

545
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<v Joanne Lockwood>don't. Is, and I completely get that

546
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<v Joanne Lockwood>because what I found since I I embrace change

547
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<v Joanne Lockwood>myself, I've almost

548
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<v Joanne Lockwood>become a a change in bracelet because I realized that I've

549
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<v Joanne Lockwood>had to go through an event in my life. Where I changed significantly,

550
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<v Joanne Lockwood>and I impacted those around me. So it's kind of reasonable

551
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<v Joanne Lockwood>for me to want respect who I am for me to be able to embrace

552
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<v Joanne Lockwood>other people's change, whether that or difference of opinion, because if I, if

553
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I'm if I say why not, I'm okay, but I don't get you. That's

554
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<v Joanne Lockwood>almost like saying, well, hang on a minute. If if I if I if I

555
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<v Joanne Lockwood>want any modicum of respect, I have to be out of but everybody has an

556
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<v Joanne Lockwood>opinion. Everybody, everybody's identity, and you say in group

557
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<v Joanne Lockwood>out group, whatever that identity is, whether it's football,

558
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<v Joanne Lockwood>gender politics, you're allowed to have an opinion.

559
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<v Joanne Lockwood>And it's just a way of embracing that opinion and sharing it in

560
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<v Joanne Lockwood>a discussion respectful way rather than

561
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<v Joanne Lockwood>trying to force an opinion on somebody, you know, you're allowed to have it, but

562
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<v Joanne Lockwood>you don't have to necessarily share it. Sometimes you can you can keep your mouth

563
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<v Joanne Lockwood>shut and know when it's, it's not mainstream. So

564
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>But I don't I don't think people realize how they come across sometimes.

565
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I I have I have an this quirk in my

566
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>behavior in that I can actually stand outside of myself

567
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and watch me interact with others. I don't know if you do

568
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that. Do you do that? I I think I'm I'm in space

569
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<v Joanne Lockwood>looking down. Yeah. Watch the gameplay if you like.

570
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I do it when I'm on stage. You know, I I

571
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>can I can be telling a story, and I am watching the re that the

572
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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>me telling the story and the response of the audience, and I'm not in the

573
00:35:45.180 --> 00:35:49.005
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>story are more watching it play out Yes? So that I

574
00:35:49.005 --> 00:35:52.704
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>can work the audience, to communicate with them better.

575
00:35:53.080 --> 00:35:55.980
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yes. So, so I so I think,

576
00:35:59.720 --> 00:36:03.075
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>aim, just stand outside of ourselves and watch the

577
00:36:03.075 --> 00:36:06.675
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>show and realize that we are not doing

578
00:36:06.675 --> 00:36:10.035
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>terribly Wellbeing we are doing very Wellbeing what we can then change our

579
00:36:10.035 --> 00:36:13.450
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>behavior. The problem is when it gets really

580
00:36:13.450 --> 00:36:17.290
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>important is when we're in a high state of arousal, when we

581
00:36:17.290 --> 00:36:21.075
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>are really, you know, the emotions are going, and they're in

582
00:36:21.075 --> 00:36:24.055
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>charge, and people get really heated. And,

583
00:36:25.635 --> 00:36:28.775
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and you see it on social media all the time, it's just ridiculous.

584
00:36:29.510 --> 00:36:33.270
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And so you people just, are in that state of,

585
00:36:33.670 --> 00:36:37.349
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>of of emotions, rolling, Wellbeing the brain, rolling the way that you

586
00:36:37.349 --> 00:36:40.355
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>can't actually step up side of yourself and watch the show go on.

587
00:36:40.974 --> 00:36:44.275
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And it just fuels everything to the negative.

588
00:36:45.790 --> 00:36:49.390
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So, yeah, for me, standing outside of myself is really

589
00:36:49.390 --> 00:36:53.170
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>helpful. That's a really good, technique. And I

590
00:36:54.435 --> 00:36:58.195
<v Joanne Lockwood>It's funny. I I I I often say the same thing to people, and not

591
00:36:58.195 --> 00:37:01.315
<v Joanne Lockwood>often do I hear people go, like, oh, I know exactly what you mean, but

592
00:37:01.315 --> 00:37:04.390
<v Joanne Lockwood>to hear you say that, I think, yes. I found somebody else.

593
00:37:05.269 --> 00:37:08.650
<v Joanne Lockwood>And the analogy I often use is the is the the film, the matrix,

594
00:37:09.349 --> 00:37:13.049
<v Joanne Lockwood>at the point where when Neo dies and he wakes up again.

595
00:37:13.349 --> 00:37:17.025
<v Joanne Lockwood>And when he wakes up. He he sees the world as a social construct. He

596
00:37:17.025 --> 00:37:20.865
<v Joanne Lockwood>sees his place in the world, how he can influence it, how he gets

597
00:37:20.865 --> 00:37:24.310
<v Joanne Lockwood>influenced. And then at the end, flies over the city looking

598
00:37:24.310 --> 00:37:27.770
<v Joanne Lockwood>down at the world or the construct of the world.

599
00:37:28.150 --> 00:37:31.609
<v Joanne Lockwood>And I've I kind of found that since I embrace my change

600
00:37:31.910 --> 00:37:35.325
<v Joanne Lockwood>that to be critical about what I'm what the

601
00:37:35.325 --> 00:37:39.165
<v Joanne Lockwood>information I'm feeding critical about the biases I'm hearing be able to

602
00:37:39.165 --> 00:37:42.670
<v Joanne Lockwood>question. So why did I think that? Why do I think why do you think

603
00:37:42.670 --> 00:37:46.110
<v Joanne Lockwood>that? And then almost like trying to come up with a little thought that that

604
00:37:46.110 --> 00:37:49.710
<v Joanne Lockwood>doesn't allow me to proceed until I until I've realized why I'm saying

605
00:37:49.710 --> 00:37:53.185
<v Joanne Lockwood>something Or is that a fact? Is that an

606
00:37:53.185 --> 00:37:56.965
<v Joanne Lockwood>opinion? Is that kind? Is it cruel? What

607
00:37:57.720 --> 00:38:01.559
<v Joanne Lockwood>who told me to believe that thing? What's the media telling me I should believe?

608
00:38:01.559 --> 00:38:05.195
<v Joanne Lockwood>Why do you want me to click that button? And it's almost like, is

609
00:38:05.195 --> 00:38:08.955
<v Joanne Lockwood>having the that extra bit of circuitry in your head that says, just quickly

610
00:38:08.955 --> 00:38:11.915
<v Joanne Lockwood>check it and put it back in again before it gets processed before it gets

611
00:38:11.915 --> 00:38:15.350
<v Joanne Lockwood>locked in. Yeah. I mean, I've got a a a little

612
00:38:15.350 --> 00:38:19.110
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>digital, when I

613
00:38:19.110 --> 00:38:22.730
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>hear information, when I see a situation or whatever,

614
00:38:23.175 --> 00:38:26.695
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I'd check it by saying who says? Yeah. Who

615
00:38:26.695 --> 00:38:30.455
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>says? You know, if somebody tries to light on who says? Yeah.

616
00:38:30.455 --> 00:38:34.119
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And they go Well, you know, because that, you know, the

617
00:38:34.119 --> 00:38:37.960
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>stuff that people come out with is just a it it it is their

618
00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:41.495
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>perceptions based upon their experiences so far. And,

619
00:38:42.135 --> 00:38:44.235
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>which is why it's so unique because

620
00:38:46.375 --> 00:38:49.990
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we perceive the living based on experiences that have gone before, so they are

621
00:38:50.230 --> 00:38:53.990
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>completely unique. It's this massive pyramid going on. So what I do,

622
00:38:53.990 --> 00:38:57.610
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I double check, and who says? And it just stops people in their tracks,

623
00:38:59.030 --> 00:39:02.825
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>because nobody, yeah, if you're going to quote some kind of

624
00:39:02.825 --> 00:39:06.585
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>research going on, then, clearly, the authors of the researcher who said, but

625
00:39:06.585 --> 00:39:10.030
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that's not what people are talking about. They're talking about an

626
00:39:10.030 --> 00:39:13.630
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>opinion or an idea or an perception that is

627
00:39:13.630 --> 00:39:17.170
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>based on something that is, as I say, unique. So

628
00:39:17.425 --> 00:39:21.205
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>pulling them up short, it says, perhaps some works.

629
00:39:21.825 --> 00:39:25.660
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. Based on what? Yeah. Yeah. It's

630
00:39:25.660 --> 00:39:29.360
<v Joanne Lockwood>it's almost like a Hayward taught school in math mathematics.

631
00:39:29.660 --> 00:39:33.414
<v Joanne Lockwood>It it show your workings out. It's, you may have been answer wrong

632
00:39:33.414 --> 00:39:37.194
<v Joanne Lockwood>at the end, but if someone understands how you got to that answer, they can

633
00:39:37.414 --> 00:39:41.059
<v Joanne Lockwood>they can then piece together your thought process. Don't have to

634
00:39:41.059 --> 00:39:44.099
<v Joanne Lockwood>necessarily just disagree with you, but they can see what you're trying to think at

635
00:39:44.099 --> 00:39:47.859
<v Joanne Lockwood>the same time. Yeah. And even even though math is your right

636
00:39:47.859 --> 00:39:51.675
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>or your wrong, you you get marks for the, what are you worked it out?

637
00:39:51.975 --> 00:39:55.655
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. Exactly. So, you know, it's, so, yeah, absolutely

638
00:39:55.655 --> 00:39:59.000
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>agree with you. Really good. Just able to see at the same date the same

639
00:39:59.000 --> 00:40:02.599
<v Joanne Lockwood>evidence and draw a different conclusion based on their

640
00:40:02.599 --> 00:40:05.260
<v Joanne Lockwood>perspective, their biases, their groups. But

641
00:40:06.295 --> 00:40:10.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>then you have a discussion about where where they diverge based on this data.

642
00:40:10.135 --> 00:40:13.015
<v Joanne Lockwood>So you thought that at that point. I thought this at this point. So why

643
00:40:13.015 --> 00:40:16.600
<v Joanne Lockwood>do you think that? Do I need to adjust my

644
00:40:16.600 --> 00:40:20.440
<v Joanne Lockwood>thinking, or should I help you adjust your thinking, or do we just say, okay,

645
00:40:20.440 --> 00:40:24.105
<v Joanne Lockwood>that's a fundamental theology type disagreement. We

646
00:40:24.105 --> 00:40:27.945
<v Joanne Lockwood>can't we can't rationalize that one, but we can understand why we people think

647
00:40:27.945 --> 00:40:31.565
<v Joanne Lockwood>that. I think also people take themselves too seriously.

648
00:40:32.880 --> 00:40:36.720
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah. I do. Hello. You know, I, but my I and my

649
00:40:36.720 --> 00:40:40.400
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>work is serious. I love my work, and I do good stuff with what I

650
00:40:40.560 --> 00:40:44.375
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>with the results I get with clients and so on, but I've to take myself

651
00:40:44.434 --> 00:40:48.214
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>seriously, it's not it doesn't serve anyone. No.

652
00:40:49.770 --> 00:40:53.610
<v Joanne Lockwood>The triangle in in a DJ is. Yeah. I think we all need to

653
00:40:53.610 --> 00:40:57.405
<v Joanne Lockwood>have our off days and just chill out and and be a be

654
00:40:57.405 --> 00:41:00.685
<v Joanne Lockwood>a be ourselves, be relaxed sometimes, don't we? We're not careful. We we just seen

655
00:41:00.685 --> 00:41:03.985
<v Joanne Lockwood>as this professional or

656
00:41:04.710 --> 00:41:08.230
<v Joanne Lockwood>someone without outside interests, who? Would that be all of us?

657
00:41:08.230 --> 00:41:11.530
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah. And you know full well that you're not going to be liked by everybody.

658
00:41:11.590 --> 00:41:15.205
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Well, that's okay. Sorry. Yeah. I don't, you know, it it

659
00:41:15.205 --> 00:41:18.965
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>doesn't matter. It really doesn't matter. And if

660
00:41:18.965 --> 00:41:22.660
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we worry about stuff that we can't do anything about, and that's just dark,

661
00:41:23.460 --> 00:41:26.579
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>We all do it. Don't get me wrong. I'm as guilty as the next person,

662
00:41:26.579 --> 00:41:29.880
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but I talk so I'm talking to myself here. There's a mirror going on.

663
00:41:30.339 --> 00:41:34.175
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So I, you know, we, we, we do. We need to lighten up.

664
00:41:34.175 --> 00:41:37.635
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. Be far more accepting and lighten up and not

665
00:41:37.694 --> 00:41:41.500
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think that we are because we Touplings with our perceptions,

666
00:41:41.720 --> 00:41:45.560
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we are always the central player. Whatever we

667
00:41:45.560 --> 00:41:49.245
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>see, we are the central player. So we

668
00:41:49.245 --> 00:41:53.085
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>take ourselves too seriously. Yeah. That's the expression I

669
00:41:53.085 --> 00:41:56.925
<v Joanne Lockwood>heard was, strong opinions lightly held. I can't remember

670
00:41:56.925 --> 00:42:00.609
<v Joanne Lockwood>who said Nice. I think it's nice to have a an opinion.

671
00:42:00.609 --> 00:42:04.369
<v Joanne Lockwood>It's nice to know who you are, what you stand for, but holding

672
00:42:04.369 --> 00:42:08.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>it lightly enough that you're willing to listen and adapt and

673
00:42:08.135 --> 00:42:11.974
<v Joanne Lockwood>improve your algorithm if you like. Yeah. I think that's actually where

674
00:42:11.974 --> 00:42:15.755
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the schools can come in is to, encourage more debating societies.

675
00:42:16.940 --> 00:42:20.240
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Because we we are losing the art of

676
00:42:20.300 --> 00:42:23.900
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>arguing sensibly our corner and then letting the audience

677
00:42:23.900 --> 00:42:27.735
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>decide which can, which foot they've got in, in which camp. I can remember, I

678
00:42:27.735 --> 00:42:31.415
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>was once that, consciousness is my favorite topic full time, right, it's

679
00:42:31.415 --> 00:42:35.150
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mostly tip terrible ever so hard. It's like the last frontier. And I

680
00:42:35.150 --> 00:42:38.369
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>was at in Tucson at the consciousness, a conference.

681
00:42:38.829 --> 00:42:42.425
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And, I was sitting in, in in the audience, and

682
00:42:42.565 --> 00:42:46.185
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>one, there were 2 neuroscientists on this stage. 1 was arguing

683
00:42:46.325 --> 00:42:50.130
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>for Freud, the other was arguing against. Now neuroscientists

684
00:42:50.430 --> 00:42:54.050
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and Freud do not work together. Okay. It's a bit like oil and water.

685
00:42:54.990 --> 00:42:58.805
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>But the way the guy talked

686
00:42:58.805 --> 00:43:02.245
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about Freud and persuaded the audience that we still needed to

687
00:43:02.245 --> 00:43:05.945
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>consider Freudian theory in our neuroscience work,

688
00:43:06.210 --> 00:43:09.970
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>He won. Because of the way he argued it and it

689
00:43:09.970 --> 00:43:13.410
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>was calm, it was logical. He got really good

690
00:43:13.410 --> 00:43:16.945
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>evidence and, he he won, I I

691
00:43:16.945 --> 00:43:20.785
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think if you're very good at debating, you could say persuade somebody, the

692
00:43:20.785 --> 00:43:24.480
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>sky's green. You know, so, sorry, there goes my

693
00:43:24.480 --> 00:43:28.080
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>phone in the background. So you can actually persuade somebody in is sort of in

694
00:43:28.080 --> 00:43:31.924
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>agreement with purple spots. So if you're really good at argument, that

695
00:43:31.924 --> 00:43:35.444
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you will persuade people. Now that could be right or wrong. Don't get me wrong,

696
00:43:35.444 --> 00:43:39.285
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but then I'm talking right or wrong again, then that's wrong,

697
00:43:39.285 --> 00:43:42.700
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>if you see what I mean, because it's not, it's not black and

698
00:43:42.700 --> 00:43:46.079
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>white. It's, there's this lovely ambiguity about

699
00:43:46.780 --> 00:43:50.495
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>life. So, yeah, So I think the schools

700
00:43:50.495 --> 00:43:54.335
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>could help us not to be, to be better at understanding one another if

701
00:43:54.335 --> 00:43:57.849
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they taught debating skills. I suppose

702
00:43:57.990 --> 00:44:00.570
<v Joanne Lockwood>the modern society, young children,

703
00:44:01.670 --> 00:44:05.270
<v Joanne Lockwood>teenagers, they're kind of brought up in a world of wanting to be

704
00:44:05.270 --> 00:44:08.964
<v Joanne Lockwood>liked wanting to get self

705
00:44:08.964 --> 00:44:12.184
<v Joanne Lockwood>gratification or gratification. This is a selfie. It's a Snapchat filter.

706
00:44:13.200 --> 00:44:16.500
<v Joanne Lockwood>There's a lot of mental health issues, as we know, about children who

707
00:44:16.960 --> 00:44:20.560
<v Joanne Lockwood>are are bullied by not by people actively blocking them or

708
00:44:20.560 --> 00:44:24.295
<v Joanne Lockwood>dislike them on social media. And this is kind of the the the

709
00:44:24.295 --> 00:44:28.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>modern generations way of of social contact is that the

710
00:44:28.135 --> 00:44:31.410
<v Joanne Lockwood>in groups and out groups are a hyper magnified

711
00:44:31.710 --> 00:44:35.550
<v Joanne Lockwood>through these these social media outlets, aren't they? Yeah.

712
00:44:35.550 --> 00:44:39.150
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Absolutely. Absolutely right. And I mean, the the social media is just, I

713
00:44:39.150 --> 00:44:42.885
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mean, the children and anybody just cannot get away from anybody

714
00:44:42.885 --> 00:44:46.345
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>decides to be a bully. And, and I

715
00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:51.200
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>really use the word hate, but I hate

716
00:44:51.200 --> 00:44:54.730
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>bullies. Absolutely categorically hate

717
00:44:54.730 --> 00:44:58.244
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>bullies. There is never, ever, ever, any excuse

718
00:44:58.385 --> 00:45:02.065
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>ever to bully someone, never. And of course, the

719
00:45:02.065 --> 00:45:05.720
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>kid now are in their rooms, you know, aren't far

720
00:45:05.720 --> 00:45:09.420
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>too late on various social media networks or, or whatever they're doing.

721
00:45:09.825 --> 00:45:13.505
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And, they can't get away from the bullies. They can't get away from those who

722
00:45:13.505 --> 00:45:16.965
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>are who are feeding them with self doubt and low self worth.

723
00:45:18.065 --> 00:45:21.210
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>And, it's serious dangerous, and I think horrific,

724
00:45:22.150 --> 00:45:25.910
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>really horrific. Yeah. There's an oxymoron, and what it sounds like an oxymoron, and

725
00:45:25.910 --> 00:45:28.970
<v Joanne Lockwood>is it you should be intolerant of intolerance

726
00:45:29.945 --> 00:45:32.985
<v Joanne Lockwood>That's kind of knocks you more on its own way, but what it's basically trying

727
00:45:32.985 --> 00:45:35.965
<v Joanne Lockwood>to say is that anybody who steps out of what is considered

728
00:45:36.985 --> 00:45:40.440
<v Joanne Lockwood>polite normal society, whatever normal is, or the social

729
00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:44.119
<v Joanne Lockwood>construct of the rules we've created. Anyone steps outside of that should

730
00:45:44.119 --> 00:45:47.545
<v Joanne Lockwood>not be tolerated, but they're intolerant. Which is where we talk about religious,

731
00:45:48.244 --> 00:45:51.765
<v Joanne Lockwood>fanaticism, some of the the terror attacks. We can't be

732
00:45:51.765 --> 00:45:55.460
<v Joanne Lockwood>tolerant of that even to know that person, you have to

733
00:45:55.460 --> 00:45:58.520
<v Joanne Lockwood>almost allow them to express their religious freedom or their their view

734
00:46:00.825 --> 00:46:04.664
<v Joanne Lockwood>but we can't be tolerant of that person in this society. And at that point,

735
00:46:04.664 --> 00:46:08.505
<v Joanne Lockwood>ladies, it's like, it's bully. It's it's it's that they're they're

736
00:46:08.505 --> 00:46:12.340
<v Joanne Lockwood>sitting out to harm the many and they're not the one that at at

737
00:46:12.340 --> 00:46:15.940
<v Joanne Lockwood>being harmed if you like. I actually have a

738
00:46:15.940 --> 00:46:19.695
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>problem with the word tolerate. So do I hate it hate it. Yeah.

739
00:46:19.855 --> 00:46:22.675
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I do. I'd I'd it tolerates sounds arrogant.

740
00:46:23.695 --> 00:46:27.215
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>It sounds like, I'm okay. I will put up with the fact that you're not

741
00:46:27.215 --> 00:46:31.030
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>as good as me. And I just really have a strong

742
00:46:31.089 --> 00:46:34.790
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>problem with that. I don't I think, you know, we talk about tolerating

743
00:46:34.930 --> 00:46:38.315
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in society. No. We show compassion and understanding.

744
00:46:39.255 --> 00:46:42.935
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>We do not tolerate, and we appreciate. We

745
00:46:42.935 --> 00:46:46.559
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>appreciate differences. So I think there's a, it's not

746
00:46:46.559 --> 00:46:50.180
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>just a case of semantics because the words we use have a subliminal

747
00:46:50.240 --> 00:46:53.885
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>effect on our mind. So if you're going to, if you're going to feed

748
00:46:53.885 --> 00:46:56.845
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people with this, with the way I've got to be more of a tolerant society,

749
00:46:56.845 --> 00:47:00.619
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I'm sorry. That makes you an arrogant society. And

750
00:47:00.619 --> 00:47:04.059
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I don't like it. Catching people against our rule set is tolerance. You're gonna say

751
00:47:04.059 --> 00:47:07.740
<v Joanne Lockwood>my rule set is this. You don't quite meet my rule set. Therefore, I'm

752
00:47:07.740 --> 00:47:11.505
<v Joanne Lockwood>gonna allow you in a bit Yeah. But it's still on the outside.

753
00:47:11.505 --> 00:47:14.385
<v Joanne Lockwood>You're still on the out group, but I I I tolerate you as an out

754
00:47:14.385 --> 00:47:18.224
<v Joanne Lockwood>group. Yeah. Yeah. It's it's very condescending. Yeah.

755
00:47:18.224 --> 00:47:21.610
<v Joanne Lockwood>No. I hate the word. It's it's bought from

756
00:47:22.390 --> 00:47:25.770
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>yours. It's we've we've got to come from a place of

757
00:47:26.125 --> 00:47:29.964
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>being curious to understand one another and to appreciate the

758
00:47:30.125 --> 00:47:33.964
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>our differences and appreciate that we've all got a place in

759
00:47:33.964 --> 00:47:37.790
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>this world to contribute to society. That's how I

760
00:47:37.790 --> 00:47:41.630
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>see it. Yeah. You're talking to

761
00:47:41.630 --> 00:47:45.455
<v Joanne Lockwood>the converted. So, yeah, no compete in this. Exactly. See the world.

762
00:47:45.915 --> 00:47:48.635
<v Joanne Lockwood>Whilst I've got you on the line, one one thing I wanted to talk to

763
00:47:48.635 --> 00:47:52.400
<v Joanne Lockwood>you about was around about, so

764
00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:56.240
<v Joanne Lockwood>I often get misgendered by people. And what

765
00:47:56.240 --> 00:48:00.000
<v Joanne Lockwood>I figured out in my limited research is that it's only certain

766
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:03.825
<v Joanne Lockwood>people that do it. So that I break people into, like, kind of, 3

767
00:48:03.825 --> 00:48:07.505
<v Joanne Lockwood>categories. There's people who've known me most of my life. So they've

768
00:48:07.505 --> 00:48:11.105
<v Joanne Lockwood>known both sides of me, and therefore, there's gonna be a lot of legacy, a

769
00:48:11.105 --> 00:48:14.580
<v Joanne Lockwood>lot of history, behind how they know me, what we've done together, the lived

770
00:48:14.580 --> 00:48:18.180
<v Joanne Lockwood>experience, the shared environment we have. So I have an understanding that they're

771
00:48:18.180 --> 00:48:21.565
<v Joanne Lockwood>gonna get it wrong from time to time because it is difficult and I'm not

772
00:48:21.565 --> 00:48:25.325
<v Joanne Lockwood>saying it isn't difficult. There's another group of people who've only known me as

773
00:48:25.325 --> 00:48:29.140
<v Joanne Lockwood>me today, and that group is huge. Within that group

774
00:48:29.140 --> 00:48:32.980
<v Joanne Lockwood>of people who've only known me as Joanne, Joanne, the woman, Joanne, the female,

775
00:48:32.980 --> 00:48:36.645
<v Joanne Lockwood>Joanne's speaker, business owner. There were people in

776
00:48:36.645 --> 00:48:40.405
<v Joanne Lockwood>that group who still misgend

777
00:48:40.405 --> 00:48:44.140
<v Joanne Lockwood>me from time to time, and It's

778
00:48:44.140 --> 00:48:47.900
<v Joanne Lockwood>random. It's occasional. Often when they're referring to

779
00:48:47.900 --> 00:48:51.660
<v Joanne Lockwood>me, so they'll they'll say, they'll look to somebody else and say, he's

780
00:48:51.660 --> 00:48:55.485
<v Joanne Lockwood>fantastic. Oh, sorry. I meant she's fantastic, but there were people who

781
00:48:55.485 --> 00:48:59.165
<v Joanne Lockwood>never get it wrong. And then there's a third grouping, the main grouping

782
00:48:59.165 --> 00:49:02.240
<v Joanne Lockwood>is people I see in a service providing,

783
00:49:04.619 --> 00:49:08.300
<v Joanne Lockwood>position. So that that there is a a steward, a hotel

784
00:49:08.300 --> 00:49:11.925
<v Joanne Lockwood>check-in, serving me on a at a restaurant there, the

785
00:49:12.945 --> 00:49:16.625
<v Joanne Lockwood>cabin service crew, checking people where where

786
00:49:16.625 --> 00:49:20.069
<v Joanne Lockwood>those are the kind of people that sometimes from time to

787
00:49:20.069 --> 00:49:23.829
<v Joanne Lockwood>time through either subliminal message in their brain that's

788
00:49:23.829 --> 00:49:26.170
<v Joanne Lockwood>saying, oh, hello, sir, or

789
00:49:27.655 --> 00:49:31.335
<v Joanne Lockwood>just misgendering that casual way. So it's it's trying to understand. So I've I've

790
00:49:31.335 --> 00:49:35.050
<v Joanne Lockwood>come down to think that it's not always just about the person being say,

791
00:49:35.050 --> 00:49:38.810
<v Joanne Lockwood>ignorant. I hate the word ignorant. Or is it laziness? Is it

792
00:49:38.810 --> 00:49:42.490
<v Joanne Lockwood>their brain just has some pathways in it that they can't override? I mean,

793
00:49:42.490 --> 00:49:45.914
<v Joanne Lockwood>what's your thought? I don't think it's

794
00:49:45.914 --> 00:49:49.755
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>laziness. I think it's just preconditioning. According

795
00:49:49.755 --> 00:49:53.320
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>to their own perceptions, their own upbringing, their own environment,

796
00:49:53.859 --> 00:49:57.700
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and they slip into default. If

797
00:49:57.700 --> 00:50:00.855
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>if it was laziness, I think they would know they're doing it and can't be

798
00:50:00.855 --> 00:50:04.535
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>bothered, but I don't think they do. I think it's something just comes out. It's

799
00:50:04.535 --> 00:50:08.215
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>like that unconscious processing. It's just, you know, the

800
00:50:08.215 --> 00:50:11.760
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>default comes out of their mouths, without without

801
00:50:12.380 --> 00:50:16.059
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>thinking it through. I mean, especially with the 3rd group, who might not even be

802
00:50:16.059 --> 00:50:19.674
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>aware they've done it, okay, all of a sudden, calling you. He

803
00:50:19.755 --> 00:50:22.974
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>thank you. He thank you for your passport, sir. Have a good flight.

804
00:50:23.755 --> 00:50:27.090
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Whatever. They might not even realize they said it, they've just gone on and they're

805
00:50:27.090 --> 00:50:30.770
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>on automatic. So I don't, I don't, I don't

806
00:50:30.770 --> 00:50:34.275
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think it's too deliberate, unless the

807
00:50:34.275 --> 00:50:38.115
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>occasional person is being horrid. But, I

808
00:50:38.115 --> 00:50:40.934
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>don't I don't think it's a talk to liberal. I think it's just the unconscious

809
00:50:41.075 --> 00:50:44.690
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>brain going into default, and they, they've

810
00:50:44.690 --> 00:50:48.450
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>just not been exposed to e enough people who have been tr

811
00:50:48.529 --> 00:50:52.234
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>or a transgender. I think it depends on, you know, what they've

812
00:50:52.234 --> 00:50:55.835
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>been exposed to to that date. And I I I

813
00:50:55.835 --> 00:50:59.270
<v Joanne Lockwood>fully appreciate it. It's it's a very complex thing because that

814
00:50:59.270 --> 00:51:03.030
<v Joanne Lockwood>millisecond perception of who you are that that, you know, how we we we do

815
00:51:03.030 --> 00:51:06.470
<v Joanne Lockwood>all that processing very quickly, and it's made up of so many different

816
00:51:06.470 --> 00:51:10.035
<v Joanne Lockwood>dynamics. It's frame and stature, the

817
00:51:10.035 --> 00:51:13.795
<v Joanne Lockwood>way you move, just from the way you stand or just, the,

818
00:51:14.434 --> 00:51:17.414
<v Joanne Lockwood>the voice

819
00:51:18.460 --> 00:51:22.220
<v Joanne Lockwood>let alone the face the facial dimensions, the

820
00:51:22.220 --> 00:51:25.955
<v Joanne Lockwood>ratios, the hair, size of hand,

821
00:51:25.955 --> 00:51:29.635
<v Joanne Lockwood>size of feet. There's a whole lot of dynamics going on where someone just makes

822
00:51:29.635 --> 00:51:33.420
<v Joanne Lockwood>a snap decision, and it's what you do with that data that varies,

823
00:51:33.420 --> 00:51:37.180
<v Joanne Lockwood>I think, between people. Some people some people kind of look at me

824
00:51:37.180 --> 00:51:40.995
<v Joanne Lockwood>and go, no they don't interpret it at all.

825
00:51:40.995 --> 00:51:44.435
<v Joanne Lockwood>They just they just say, sir. Some people say, I see a woman. You are

826
00:51:44.435 --> 00:51:48.195
<v Joanne Lockwood>a woman. And some people is where it's a bit more complicated where they're sort

827
00:51:48.195 --> 00:51:51.940
<v Joanne Lockwood>of at. They don't want students to evaluate and go, clearly, Joe

828
00:51:51.940 --> 00:51:55.700
<v Joanne Lockwood>is trans. Joe was born this way, and then

829
00:51:55.700 --> 00:51:59.105
<v Joanne Lockwood>their brain almost like flips over it they think too much

830
00:51:59.105 --> 00:52:02.945
<v Joanne Lockwood>almost. Yeah. I think that's right. And I do think, I

831
00:52:02.945 --> 00:52:06.325
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mean, I do believe that society is getting better.

832
00:52:07.270 --> 00:52:11.030
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Our society is getting better, because we're being we're talking about

833
00:52:11.030 --> 00:52:14.710
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it more, we're understanding more. I think it's very hard for

834
00:52:14.710 --> 00:52:18.335
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people who are not exposed to anything like that at all,

835
00:52:18.335 --> 00:52:20.595
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they're gonna come across as more stuck.

836
00:52:22.335 --> 00:52:25.990
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>But the more we we talk about it, the more we become open, the more

837
00:52:25.990 --> 00:52:29.750
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>we realize there are many, many categories of human Wellbeing. If we want to talk

838
00:52:29.750 --> 00:52:33.315
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about categories at all, then I think that that it will

839
00:52:33.315 --> 00:52:37.095
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>become less of an issue, but I think maybe we're in a place of transition

840
00:52:37.155 --> 00:52:40.590
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>in our society at the moment. Yep.

841
00:52:40.590 --> 00:52:43.950
<v Joanne Lockwood>No. Yeah. I think we'll we'll we'll

842
00:52:43.950 --> 00:52:47.790
<v Joanne Lockwood>transition in life. Not as I say every day, but

843
00:52:47.790 --> 00:52:51.585
<v Joanne Lockwood>we we evolve. We go from being an infant to a child, to a young

844
00:52:51.585 --> 00:52:55.025
<v Joanne Lockwood>adult, to a teenager, to, all these various things we have

845
00:52:55.025 --> 00:52:58.565
<v Joanne Lockwood>responsibilities as a as a parent, as a as an employer,

846
00:52:58.785 --> 00:53:02.530
<v Joanne Lockwood>employee, a boss, a a yeah. So we all have these

847
00:53:02.530 --> 00:53:06.210
<v Joanne Lockwood>different hats, different identities. And Oh, it's a

848
00:53:06.210 --> 00:53:09.894
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>generation thing as well. Yeah. Completely. And We all think we're

849
00:53:09.894 --> 00:53:13.654
<v Joanne Lockwood>different, but we're all the same. Yeah. I do I do think there's

850
00:53:13.654 --> 00:53:17.255
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>a generation thing. I think, you know, if if you've got an older

851
00:53:17.255 --> 00:53:20.970
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>generation who has not that society has

852
00:53:20.970 --> 00:53:24.590
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>not openly talked about transgender, transsexual, tran, lesbian, gay, whatever. They've

853
00:53:27.785 --> 00:53:31.625
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So therefore, they're not going to be sure how to handle

854
00:53:31.625 --> 00:53:35.390
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it. Whereas the next generation down, it's more open. It's talks

855
00:53:35.390 --> 00:53:38.910
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about a lot more. It's become the norm, and the youngest generation probably won't even

856
00:53:38.910 --> 00:53:42.675
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think about it. You know, it's just like, for yes, So what's

857
00:53:42.675 --> 00:53:46.515
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>your point, which will be great? So do

858
00:53:46.515 --> 00:53:50.355
<v Joanne Lockwood>you think there's anything, say, I, as a trans person, could

859
00:53:50.355 --> 00:53:54.180
<v Joanne Lockwood>do to help people who may be struggling with this,

860
00:53:54.180 --> 00:53:57.620
<v Joanne Lockwood>what what what technique could I learn to make it easier for people? Do you

861
00:53:57.620 --> 00:54:01.185
<v Joanne Lockwood>have a thought on that? Yeah. I do. I

862
00:54:01.185 --> 00:54:04.485
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>know some people who are younger people,

863
00:54:04.705 --> 00:54:07.985
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and they have, gone through,

864
00:54:08.465 --> 00:54:11.600
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they've changed gender and

865
00:54:12.540 --> 00:54:15.820
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they lack understanding for those who don't understand. They,

866
00:54:16.060 --> 00:54:16.560
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>they

867
00:54:19.775 --> 00:54:23.295
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>expect everybody to, make

868
00:54:23.295 --> 00:54:27.135
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>allowances and inverted commas and use the correct words. We

869
00:54:27.135 --> 00:54:30.290
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>don't say he, she, you say it, we use that stuff, which, you know, you

870
00:54:30.290 --> 00:54:33.670
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>can't, it's very hard to say a sentence like that. It doesn't sound grammatically

871
00:54:33.810 --> 00:54:37.555
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>correct. That's hard in itself. Think there are a lot of

872
00:54:37.555 --> 00:54:41.315
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people out there who want to understand and

873
00:54:41.315 --> 00:54:45.155
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and dot people as equally regardless of what they've chosen

874
00:54:45.155 --> 00:54:48.980
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>to do, but those people, there are some people who

875
00:54:48.980 --> 00:54:52.820
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>are who are intolerant, and they're expecting, expecting

876
00:54:52.820 --> 00:54:56.200
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>more of the society, the society are able to give at this moment.

877
00:54:56.984 --> 00:55:00.045
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So, and this is this is a massive generalization.

878
00:55:00.505 --> 00:55:04.204
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Massive. So I think peep perhaps

879
00:55:04.350 --> 00:55:07.970
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people who want to not be in the stereotypical

880
00:55:08.510 --> 00:55:12.190
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>norm to be a little bit, understanding and

881
00:55:12.190 --> 00:55:15.785
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>help educate those people in what it's like,

882
00:55:16.645 --> 00:55:20.485
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>or why, or whatever, just so

883
00:55:20.485 --> 00:55:23.785
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that they can, you you can, increase the level of understanding

884
00:55:25.270 --> 00:55:29.109
<v Joanne Lockwood>So almost what I'm hearing is so

885
00:55:29.109 --> 00:55:32.715
<v Joanne Lockwood>you would say people who have

886
00:55:32.715 --> 00:55:36.255
<v Joanne Lockwood>limited exposure to different identities, whether that's

887
00:55:36.795 --> 00:55:40.410
<v Joanne Lockwood>gender, race, whatever, they need

888
00:55:40.410 --> 00:55:43.850
<v Joanne Lockwood>help to learn. And to shut

889
00:55:43.850 --> 00:55:47.210
<v Joanne Lockwood>someone down doesn't help Wellbeing. All it does is

890
00:55:47.210 --> 00:55:50.905
<v Joanne Lockwood>create conflict. So it's finding a way

891
00:55:51.765 --> 00:55:55.305
<v Joanne Lockwood>to turn, a potential

892
00:55:55.365 --> 00:55:58.800
<v Joanne Lockwood>accident or a potential over or just some

893
00:55:58.800 --> 00:56:02.340
<v Joanne Lockwood>unconscious slip up into into a a positive outcome

894
00:56:02.560 --> 00:56:06.325
<v Joanne Lockwood>through, I'm sorry, that that that hurt. That

895
00:56:06.325 --> 00:56:09.224
<v Joanne Lockwood>doesn't work for me. Can we have a conversation about it?

896
00:56:09.765 --> 00:56:13.260
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Yeah. I mean, you you gotta be very careful you don't put

897
00:56:13.260 --> 00:56:16.560
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people, they, that they make people feel bad about themselves.

898
00:56:17.660 --> 00:56:21.495
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Because everybody's trying to do the best they can. Most

899
00:56:21.495 --> 00:56:25.095
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>people are trying to do the best they can. So to make them feel bad

900
00:56:25.095 --> 00:56:27.950
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>about themselves, we'll just set up with more of a them and

901
00:56:28.670 --> 00:56:32.369
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. I I I get that. And I think the struggle,

902
00:56:32.430 --> 00:56:36.270
<v Joanne Lockwood>a lot of people who have who are less typical, what, whatever that

903
00:56:36.270 --> 00:56:40.085
<v Joanne Lockwood>I did see maybe is that it could become very, very exhausting where

904
00:56:40.085 --> 00:56:43.865
<v Joanne Lockwood>you're having to do that time and time and time again. So

905
00:56:44.520 --> 00:56:48.200
<v Joanne Lockwood>for for me to meet the chemist one day, that

906
00:56:48.200 --> 00:56:51.660
<v Joanne Lockwood>may be the 5th thing this week. It may be the 3rd thing that morning.

907
00:56:53.295 --> 00:56:57.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>I may be feeling great about myself, and I'm thinking about the day. And

908
00:56:57.135 --> 00:57:00.435
<v Joanne Lockwood>then the airline steward

909
00:57:00.895 --> 00:57:04.619
<v Joanne Lockwood>makes a remark And then that's completely so

910
00:57:04.619 --> 00:57:08.160
<v Joanne Lockwood>for me to then be in in the right firm of mind to say, actually,

911
00:57:08.220 --> 00:57:11.865
<v Joanne Lockwood>can we treat this as a learning exercise? Having

912
00:57:11.865 --> 00:57:15.464
<v Joanne Lockwood>had this experience many, many times, you know, the drips of water, the

913
00:57:15.464 --> 00:57:19.224
<v Joanne Lockwood>microaggressions. So it's some, at some point, someone is to straw the

914
00:57:19.224 --> 00:57:22.750
<v Joanne Lockwood>bricks of the camel's back some of that one person and that that Yeah.

915
00:57:22.910 --> 00:57:26.670
<v Joanne Lockwood>Struggle where you you are having to kind of explain yourself all

916
00:57:26.670 --> 00:57:30.384
<v Joanne Lockwood>the time. Yeah. Absolutely great. But Yeah.

917
00:57:30.785 --> 00:57:34.405
<v Joanne Lockwood>But I think there's an element of of 2 city battles. Yeah.

918
00:57:35.505 --> 00:57:39.269
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I So and I the breath the word battle is completely wrong,

919
00:57:39.410 --> 00:57:43.089
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>but, it's like you've got to choose the times

920
00:57:43.089 --> 00:57:46.915
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that it suits you and the, have you perceived

921
00:57:47.055 --> 00:57:50.815
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>the person to be receptive, to take

922
00:57:50.815 --> 00:57:54.400
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>your message on board? And just choose when it, when it, when it, you think

923
00:57:54.400 --> 00:57:57.520
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>it's going to work at its best, and you're, you're in the right frame of

924
00:57:57.520 --> 00:58:01.040
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>mind to do it. And then, and

925
00:58:01.040 --> 00:58:04.325
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>hopefully, enable that person to be an ambassador,

926
00:58:04.785 --> 00:58:08.545
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>to be able to talk about this to others in a positive light.

927
00:58:08.545 --> 00:58:12.079
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>So you're you're setting up little ambassadors to toggle off

928
00:58:12.079 --> 00:58:15.779
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and spread the word in a positive way. Yeah.

929
00:58:15.920 --> 00:58:18.980
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>I did. Yeah. I think I think the biggest struggle though is the

930
00:58:20.135 --> 00:58:23.895
<v Joanne Lockwood>It it's a one off to you. It's a it's a 50 off to me.

931
00:58:23.895 --> 00:58:27.600
<v Joanne Lockwood>And, essentially, the the the micro the, you know,

932
00:58:27.600 --> 00:58:31.060
<v Joanne Lockwood>the the drip drip effect of it, it it it can become

933
00:58:32.480 --> 00:58:36.175
<v Joanne Lockwood>exhausting. And I think, you know I'm sure. In the same way.

934
00:58:36.175 --> 00:58:39.535
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>Maybe maybe that's why you're you're really at a disadvantage there, Joe, in that you're

935
00:58:39.535 --> 00:58:43.200
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>a professional speaker. Yes. And that's what I do. Yeah. You can

936
00:58:43.280 --> 00:58:46.980
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>say your thing to hundreds of people at any one time,

937
00:58:47.520 --> 00:58:51.109
<v Dr Lynda Shaw>which is fantastic. Yeah. I know. And and that

938
00:58:51.359 --> 00:58:54.954
<v Joanne Lockwood>and that's that I

939
00:58:54.954 --> 00:58:58.714
<v Joanne Lockwood>think a society evolves. And and it's I

940
00:58:58.714 --> 00:59:02.450
<v Joanne Lockwood>use Brett it as a as an example, if if I

941
00:59:02.450 --> 00:59:06.210
<v Joanne Lockwood>can understand the other view, it doesn't matter what my view is. If I can't

942
00:59:06.210 --> 00:59:09.915
<v Joanne Lockwood>understand the other view, I can have more empathy that in a way,

943
00:59:09.915 --> 00:59:13.435
<v Joanne Lockwood>it's incumbent on us all to be educated about

944
00:59:13.435 --> 00:59:17.115
<v Joanne Lockwood>ourselves. Yeah. Because we're all unique. You're

945
00:59:17.115 --> 00:59:20.920
<v Joanne Lockwood>you're you, I'm me. That there'll be something that I don't understand about you. So

946
00:59:20.920 --> 00:59:24.760
<v Joanne Lockwood>you kind of gotta explain it, and that that thing that's different about you

947
00:59:24.760 --> 00:59:27.800
<v Joanne Lockwood>may not be as obvious as the thing that's different about me. So you may

948
00:59:27.800 --> 00:59:31.464
<v Joanne Lockwood>have to explain more, less often. But there's some times where you'll you

949
00:59:31.464 --> 00:59:35.305
<v Joanne Lockwood>maybe have to justify some research, your thoughts. You you know,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>some of the conversation we've had today is challenged. Thinking that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>people have had around neuroscience and the brain for years. And a lot of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>people go, no. No. No. No. I've I've based my whole talk on left brain,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>right brain, and and Myers Briggs, because all this stuff, and and you're

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<v Joanne Lockwood>saying, well, now, actually, that's it's not as simple. And so you're changing other people's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>beliefs. And it, yeah, sometimes you you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>probably find the same. You have to pick your back and see it actually has

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<v Joanne Lockwood>no point arguing with you. It doesn't it's not bad. You know, you you can

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you can do make a, a, an impression of somebody, and you could just think,

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>do you know what? It's just not worth me talking to them. Wasting my

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>breath. And then you'll know your extents, you'll instinctively know

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>that, somebody's actually receptive to learning

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and that's the person to talk to. Maybe this other

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>person will be more receptive in a month's time. Who knows? But

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>at that moment, you know, full word, you're just wasting your breath. So I do

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>think we need to choose who we talk to about

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>what. If I engage rather than battles or or pick our

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<v Joanne Lockwood>conversations here. I agree. I agree. That's been fantastic,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and I I thank you for your time this morning. There anything you'd like to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>just wrap up? It's like, so how do people contact you? How can

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I find out more about your work? Okay. I'm As I

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>say, I'm a specialist in in the art of change or embracing

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>change, which in which covers many behaviors, including habits

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>and all sorts of things that I guide people through. So I'm

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>you can find me at Lynda at drLyndaShaw.com. That's

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>l y n d a, d r l y n d a s h a

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>w. It's really hard to say that, isn't it? And why can't I just have

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>a simple name? lynda@drlyndashaw.com or www.drlyndashaw.com.

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<v Dr Lynda Shaw>That's me. Brilliant. I'll put all those details in the in the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>pop notes and the accompanying this. And

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<v Joanne Lockwood>if, if you've enjoyed this conversation, if you'd like to hear more, then

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<v Joanne Lockwood>please do subscribe. The links again will be in the comments,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and I'd love to hear more. And, of course, if you'd like to contribute

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to a future edition, then please contact me, and I'd love to have you as

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a guest. So for now, Dr Lynda Shaw, thank

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<v Joanne Lockwood>you so much for your time. You've been an inspiration. Thank you very much.