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<v Joanne Lockwood>Today is episode 28 with the title

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Finding the Magic and I have the absolute honor and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>privilege to be joined by Mark Lee. Mark described himself

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<v Joanne Lockwood>as a reformed accountant and magician. When I asked

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Mark to describe his superpower, he said that it is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>his ability to create acronyms on the fly.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Or is that TCAOTF, I wonder?

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Hello, Mark. Hi. Jo. Hi, Jo, thanks for having

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<v Mark Lee>me. Absolute pleasure. Jo, Mark, tell me,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>finding the magic, what does that mean to you? It

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<v Mark Lee>it probably relates back to, as a teenager,

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<v Mark Lee>my first foray into business was as a children's party entertainer.

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<v Mark Lee>And I then continued as a as a magician at parties and

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<v Mark Lee>functions, And it's always been my hobby, if you like.

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<v Mark Lee>Other other teenagers, 20 somethings were going to football or rugby

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<v Mark Lee>or sports events, and I was going to kids' parties and

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<v Mark Lee>entertaining them using magic. And, it's always been a part

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<v Mark Lee>of my life. I've been a member of the Magic Circle for

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<v Mark Lee>over 20 years, and I'm now treasurer of the Magic

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<v Mark Lee>Circle. So I get to combine my my professional

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<v Mark Lee>experience as a chartered accountant with being

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<v Mark Lee>a passionate magician as well. And

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<v Mark Lee>I I look back and I realized that I hid my

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<v Mark Lee>passion in magic from my clients over the years, although my

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<v Mark Lee>colleagues knew about it. And I was always doing tricks in the pub or in

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<v Mark Lee>the office, in between client work, obviously.

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<v Mark Lee>But I kept it secret from clients because I was always concerned it might adversely

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<v Mark Lee>impact my professional credibility. And since I

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<v Mark Lee>left practice, after I qualified as chartered accountant, I was a tax adviser

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<v Mark Lee>for many years. And then about 15 years

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<v Mark Lee>ago, I decided, having been made redundant for the second

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<v Mark Lee>time, I'd focused instead the rest of my career on doing those

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<v Mark Lee>things. I really enjoyed speaking, writing, and mentoring.

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<v Mark Lee>And I learned that one of the key

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<v Mark Lee>things you need to do as an independent person, and indeed it's probably

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<v Mark Lee>true for all of us, is to share a bit about yourself. People

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<v Mark Lee>don't just buy you because of your technical experience. And

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<v Mark Lee>I'm much less shy about revealing my interest in magic

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<v Mark Lee>now. Indeed, there's invariably a trick or 2 in in my talks while I'm on

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<v Mark Lee>stage even though my audiences are accountants. And I

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<v Mark Lee>frequently point out that if they want to be better remembered, referred, and recommended,

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<v Mark Lee>they need to reveal something of themselves. That doesn't mean they have to

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<v Mark Lee>become magicians, though, but everybody should find the magic,

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<v Mark Lee>in their own career, background, experience, passions,

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<v Mark Lee>life, loves, family, or whatever.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yep. Brilliant. I mean, we talk, you know, in D&I circles

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<v Joanne Lockwood>about bringing your whole self to work. So you you are actively hiding

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<v Joanne Lockwood>an element of who you are or were, for

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<v Joanne Lockwood>fear of embarrassment, shame or stigma or something that you felt it would damage

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<v Joanne Lockwood>your professional credibility. That's really kind of interesting, and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>it's magic. Yeah.

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<v Mark Lee>I think I had it's also a function of a couple of bad experiences

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<v Mark Lee>that I had. One was I turned up at an turned up at an

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<v Mark Lee>interview in the days before the Internet. So there was no profile of me

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<v Mark Lee>online. There was no photo of me on the CV, and I sat

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<v Mark Lee>down, in front of the senior partner of a large firm of accountants, and

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<v Mark Lee>he did that thing he'd been trained to do to try and put the

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<v Mark Lee>candidate there is. So he scanned down the CV, and he

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<v Mark Lee>looked at the interests bit. And now under interests, I put

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<v Mark Lee>magic, member of the magic circle. And I to this

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<v Mark Lee>day, I remember him looking up and looking at me

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<v Mark Lee>going, I see you're a magician. I think that says a lot

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<v Mark Lee>about you. I don't recall where the

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<v Mark Lee>conversation went from that, but I do know I didn't get the job. And I

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<v Mark Lee>always wondered if that was because he perceived that maybe I was good at deceiving

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<v Mark Lee>people and that maybe that was why he shouldn't recruit me.

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<v Mark Lee>And I think that may have had an impact as to

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<v Mark Lee>me, keeping it, hidden for a

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<v Mark Lee>while. And then the other experience that many, many

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<v Mark Lee>years later, I've been headhunted, it was before I was

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<v Mark Lee>headhunted, by BDO, Large for accountants.

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<v Mark Lee>I worked at another sizable firm. And

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<v Mark Lee>because I shared the magic with colleagues and friends and with journalists and I was

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<v Mark Lee>making a bit of a name for myself in in the accounting world as a

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<v Mark Lee>commentator. And in those days, there was a a publication,

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<v Mark Lee>which is now only available online, accountancy age, which we used

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<v Mark Lee>to joke was a bit like the sum of the accountancy world. No

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<v Mark Lee>offense to the serious publication that it is these

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<v Mark Lee>days. But the back cover always had a a

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<v Mark Lee>taking stock page, which is a bit like sort of accountancy

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<v Mark Lee>rate version of private eye, poking fun at,

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<v Mark Lee>you know, stuffy old accountants. But they always had a feature on

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<v Mark Lee>accountants who were a little bit unusual, who had an interesting

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<v Mark Lee>3 times. And I remember one occasion,

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<v Mark Lee>I walked into my largest client's office, the finance

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<v Mark Lee>director, with a couple of, colleagues. And as I walked

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<v Mark Lee>in, I could see that on the notice board behind him

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<v Mark Lee>was pinned the latest back cover from accountancy

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<v Mark Lee>age with a picture of me doing a magic trick circled

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<v Mark Lee>in big red ink and an arrow pointing at

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<v Mark Lee>it going, should we take tax advice from this guy?

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<v Mark Lee>I went, oh my god. And I they they

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<v Mark Lee>knew me well enough. It was a wind up. But

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<v Mark Lee>for that split second, I had thought that I

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<v Mark Lee>damaged not only my credibility, but risked the client,

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<v Mark Lee>to the firm. And I think that also made

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<v Mark Lee>me a little reluctant to share the magic too

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<v Mark Lee>much with, with clients for for far too long

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<v Mark Lee>looking back. Because the other thing I've learned as I've got older and

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<v Mark Lee>wiser is most people love magic. Most people

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<v Mark Lee>like the entertainment side of it. It's always about being entertaining. It's never about

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<v Mark Lee>being clever or I can do stuff you can't do. It's about entertaining with

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<v Mark Lee>magic. And most people like it, love it, and it might well have helped

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<v Mark Lee>cement more client relationships than I would have lost. So I I think it's

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<v Mark Lee>a huge mistake when I look back. Yeah.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I'm I'm almost sat here speechless listening to that story because

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<v Joanne Lockwood>for it to carry that kind of stigma, but then I think the word the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>way you described it was magic could be

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<v Joanne Lockwood>your practice of being deceitful, misleading people. So

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I suppose it is a bit of this paradox between a trusted

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<v Joanne Lockwood>accountant and a magician. I mean obviously we often want our tax

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<v Joanne Lockwood>advisers to magic our tax away, but we want to do it

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<v Joanne Lockwood>in plain view. So had this one before today.

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<v Mark Lee>No? No. No. No. Sorry. Tongue very firmly in cheek. Ah,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>okay. Let's magic away my tags.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I see you have your wand. I mean for those this is a podcast but

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Mark has actually sat there with a bookshelf behind him and on the bookshelf is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a magic wand sort of strategic who plays just ready to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>magic people's accounts. Well well, I I I haven't been in practice for many,

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<v Mark Lee>many years, but there is

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<v Mark Lee>often a a magic wand behind me just because it it prompts conversation.

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<v Mark Lee>And, also, for those people who like to study bookshelves, almost

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<v Mark Lee>all of the books on on the shelf are business related,

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<v Mark Lee>lead generation, marketing, the sort of things that I talk to

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<v Mark Lee>firms of accountants about from a strategic perspective or coaching and

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<v Mark Lee>mentoring, which I do with individual accountants,

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<v Mark Lee>particularly those running around practices. But if you look carefully, you will

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<v Mark Lee>also see the Paul Daniels adult magic book. And,

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<v Mark Lee>also, I've I can't remember why I put it there, but I've got the, I'm

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<v Mark Lee>sorry I haven't a clue, anthology there as well,

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<v Mark Lee>just to show that I'm not all about the serious and the heavyweight.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>It's it's really interesting. This has sparked a memory that I've forgotten all about.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I did my first magic

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<v Joanne Lockwood>gig when I was about 8 or 9 years old.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And my parents were very keen at the time for me not to be paid

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<v Joanne Lockwood>because they didn't want to make me a professional magician at ages of 8

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or 9. Oh my goodness. It was my it was my I think it was

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<v Joanne Lockwood>8 or 9, maybe 10. I was very young. I remember it was our

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<v Joanne Lockwood>they they knew that I was I did some magic tricks. Jo I had my,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>was it hanky panky magic? Box?

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I forgot all about it until he mentioned I forgot all about it Jo that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>they knew I did sort of this magic, I used to get magic, these magic

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<v Joanne Lockwood>boxes, it was a hanky panky magic accessory, I used to have a blue one

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and a green one, there's a like a bigger one you Joanne get, all the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>little things, Jo I was quite into at the time. And they asked me

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<v Joanne Lockwood>if I'd be a magician at their their children's party next door, there's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>about 8 or 10 kids, I remember doing it practicing all these little tricks and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>yeah obviously fluff them up a little bit but yeah I my audience were

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<v Joanne Lockwood>yeah Jo I did my my first magic gig probably the age of 8 or

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<v Joanne Lockwood>9. Well, Jo idea why I didn't pursue it it just it

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<v Joanne Lockwood>was one of those things I did and it dropped away, went up maybe in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>my teenage years. Well, I I did my first gig for my

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<v Mark Lee>sister when I was about 13, and then

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<v Mark Lee>I got a booking for a cousin's daughter, when she was gonna

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<v Mark Lee>and I I absolutely no idea. And so I

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<v Mark Lee>said, how does 25 p an hour

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<v Mark Lee>face. It might not sound like much, but it's 25 p more than I'm being

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<v Mark Lee>And then I realized, hang on. The children's party is only 2 or 3 hours.

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<v Mark Lee>And we we agreed to round it up to a pound. So my

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<v Mark Lee>my first professional fee was 1 pound. Still remember

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<v Joanne Lockwood>But I but, well, not to show your age. Back in those days, it was

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a paper pound, wasn't it? Yeah. Yeah. It probably was. It was one of these

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<v Joanne Lockwood>big, big paper pounds. Yeah. Yeah. No. It was the 5 it was 5 or

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<v Mark Lee>something that big, and I don't remember those. Yeah. I'm only a few years old,

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<v Mark Lee>aren't you? But you know,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I used to work with somebody well, I worked for Coots Bank

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a fellow there who was, he was in a magic circle, a magician,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and he would always do magic

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<v Joanne Lockwood>randomly as during the day. I was in IT

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or in computing so there's a lot of time sitting around watching stuff load or

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or maybe installing things Jo there's always a lot of time to kill. And I

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<v Joanne Lockwood>met one weekend we're doing this major upgrade and he taught me how to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>balls, but he taught me to juggle in the in the luncheon so I know

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I know the theory now I've just got to practice it to make it work.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>But yeah. It's like all these things isn't it? Practice practice makes

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and playing the saxophone Joanne my 2 want to be able to do skills. I

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<v Mark Lee>Joanne can understand that? I I always feel a little bit alienated when people start

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to juggle Jo there are different things, you're right. I think it should be some

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<v Mark Lee>Again, yeah, when I initially started going to business

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<v Mark Lee>it was prop it became less important to to be doing

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<v Mark Lee>less important to me to be doing magic, to be remembered.

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<v Mark Lee>So the these days, it figures in my talks,

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<v Mark Lee>often as examples of how to be better remembered, referred, and recommended, how

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<v Mark Lee>always say, look. It's a rule of the magics. You've heard as part of the

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<v Mark Lee>introduction, I'm treasurer of the magic circle. And it's a rule of the magic

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<v Mark Lee>circle, that if you're on stage, you have to perform a magic trick. Would it

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<v Mark Lee>And that's why there will always be, you know, 1 or

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<v Mark Lee>2 tricks during the during the talk, not so that they will remember

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<v Mark Lee>me as a magician, but hopefully, they remember well,

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<v Mark Lee>they do remember it was entertaining and the the magic, they enjoyed.

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<v Mark Lee>It it often includes a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Because, Matthew, it's all about the setup, isn't it? You you do

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<v Joanne Lockwood>something very early on. Well, I would say it's all about I would say it's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that's that's how I Yeah. It's it's like a good good a well structured

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<v Mark Lee>talk, a well structured routine, well structured talk with a lot of

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<v Mark Lee>similarities. And a lot of the skills I bring

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<v Mark Lee>to speaking on stage, or even on camera

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<v Mark Lee>have evolved from the fact that I was speaking that most difficult of

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<v Mark Lee>audiences, from a very early relatively early age as a

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<v Mark Lee>talk to 20, 30, 40, 50 kids or 100 on couple of

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<v Mark Lee>is really not a challenge. Particularly, I found as, like, a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>In my in my in my naivety, I I would say the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the women, dare I say, wear accessories. Oh, history.

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<v Mark Lee>Historically. They were looking good, yeah, catching a bullet in their mouth, having the knife

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<v Joanne Lockwood>thrown at their head. I mean, that's that's beyond magicians, but it's all kind of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that entertainment thing. Thank thank goodness chain things

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<v Mark Lee>changed enormously. I think it's 2020, 25 years ago,

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<v Mark Lee>the Magic Circle allowed women to join in their own right.

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<v Mark Lee>for other women who aspire to be in

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<v Mark Lee>magic. And Britain's Got Talent's also been very good at it. We've had a huge

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<v Mark Lee>And also just in terms of diversity, just this

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<v Mark Lee>year, one of the finalists, was a guy called Richard Essien. He's

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<v Mark Lee>Yeah. I'm I as you said before, I recognize that I

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<v Mark Lee>could be seen as just another old white bloke. For for

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<v Mark Lee>some years, not just in the the magic

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<v Mark Lee>circle, but I'm I'm on the members of commercial board of the Institute

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<v Mark Lee>Chartered Accountants, England and Wales, you know, me through

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<v Mark Lee>For some years, I've recognized the importance of

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<v Mark Lee>organizers, of events

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<v Mark Lee>recognize that the default choice of an old white bloke is not

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<v Mark Lee>is not is not necessarily the right route to go. And

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<v Mark Lee>we before we started recording, we were talking about unconscious bias.

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<v Mark Lee>And one of the reasons why that happens in my experience

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<v Mark Lee>is because most old white blokes who are organizing things only

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<v Mark Lee>know old white blokes and spreading their

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<v Mark Lee>spreading their wings. So I'm delighted to have introduced women, people of

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<v Mark Lee>color to be speakers. It means I don't get as many gigs as I might

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<v Mark Lee>have done. But, frankly, I might just as well be losing

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<v Mark Lee>ourselves to the historic approach that has always been adopted in the

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<v Mark Lee>past. And, also, sometimes it's nice to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>have someone else entertain you and enlighten you for a change and not always be

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the one that's doing the performing. It's nice sometimes take a backseat and,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>see younger people come through. Absolutely. I, I, I can't

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<v Mark Lee>abide any unfairness or abuse of power.

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<v Mark Lee>And I think that is a function of something that I very rarely talk

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<v Mark Lee>And it I don't wear it on my sleeve. I don't,

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<v Mark Lee>to I I believe the expression expression I only heard in recent

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<v Mark Lee>Jo I I people don't assume that I would be a subject of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>of the impact, as you say, of racism, sexism and the need to be inclusive.

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<v Mark Lee>I'm sure that's absolutely right. I I love the statistic that,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yes. And that's because nobody's got more than 2, but there are some people with

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<v Mark Lee>And I'm not sure why I thought that was

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Which I also thought was quite an which I also thought was quite an interesting

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<v Joanne Lockwood>So yeah you're not practicing accountants anymore but you obviously through

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<v Mark Lee>done, but it it has evolved enormously. When I

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<v Mark Lee>when I first qualified, the the the small firm accountants I

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<v Mark Lee>worked with, I think the women almost

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<v Mark Lee>exclusively were secretaries or receptionists.

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<v Mark Lee>Then, certainly, there would have been a tiny minority of,

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<v Mark Lee>of women trainees. I've just remembered there there

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<v Mark Lee>was at least one, because we've just

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<v Mark Lee>time with time of recording, we just passed the anniversary, 40th anniversary of

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<v Mark Lee>losing John Lennon. And I remember Roger Scott, the

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<v Mark Lee>Capitol Radio DJ, and we must have had this playing in the background. We were

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<v Mark Lee>doing the audit of a a British Legion club, and

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<v Mark Lee>I was there as a manager with a a a younger

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<v Mark Lee>lady who was a trainee. I remember Roger Scott saying and, of course, we

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<v Mark Lee>always we always remember where we were when we heard the sad news of John

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<v Mark Lee>Lennon's death just like we did just

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<v Mark Lee>like we did when

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<v Mark Lee>sorry. I have no idea where the thing is coming from. I'd stop it if

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<v Mark Lee>I could. That works. Yeah. Just like we did when

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<v Mark Lee>we heard that, Elvis had died or JFK. I don't think I would

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<v Mark Lee>have remembered if if Roger Scott hadn't hadn't announced that. But there

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<v Mark Lee>was a young lady with me, so we must have had trainees there. And I

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<v Mark Lee>was I then worked at a a very large firm accountants, then called

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<v Mark Lee>Touche Ross. It's now Deloitte. And I remember the first female

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<v Mark Lee>partner there was pregnant, and

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<v Mark Lee>I believe she was out of the office at the time of the

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<v Mark Lee>birth for less than a month in terms of both before

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<v Mark Lee>and after. Possibly because at that time, she

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<v Mark Lee>was concerned about the impact on her career if she took

427
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<v Mark Lee>what we now recognize to be quite reasonable maternity leave.

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<v Mark Lee>And a huge change my son works for KPMG,

429
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<v Mark Lee>and not only did they give maternity leave, they give paternity leave

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<v Mark Lee>there, amazingly generous, things that just wouldn't have happened 30,

431
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<v Mark Lee>40 years ago. And I look at the people I'm

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<v Mark Lee>connected with on LinkedIn, you know, the 211, 12000

433
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<v Mark Lee>connections I have there, many of them are in

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<v Mark Lee>fact, the majority of them are probably accountants. There's a huge number

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<v Mark Lee>of women and many who who are accountants or

436
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<v Mark Lee>bookkeepers or tax advisers. Many of them making a point,

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<v Mark Lee>not only of the fact that obviously they are a woman, but also

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<v Mark Lee>that they've got attitude and well, clearly, they are

439
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<v Mark Lee>different to the the stereotype. The the sad

440
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<v Mark Lee>thing is that stereotype,

441
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<v Mark Lee>goes back as far not just of the Monty Python

442
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<v Mark Lee>classic sketch about the accountant who wanted to be a lion tamer

443
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<v Mark Lee>but wasn't allowed to be because he was too boring. There was also a classic

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<v Mark Lee>2 Ronnies sketch, with mister Simpkins from

445
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<v Mark Lee>accounts whose kids were known as Simpkins and Simpkins, and

446
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<v Mark Lee>that also really took the mick out of accountants.

447
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<v Mark Lee>But even back in those days, that stereotype,

448
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<v Mark Lee>which has persisted in many people's minds, it's not necessarily

449
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<v Mark Lee>about the accountants all being boring. It's the fact that a lot of

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<v Mark Lee>people consider the accounting and bookkeeping work to be

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<v Mark Lee>boring. Therefore, if somebody likes or chooses to do that

452
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<v Mark Lee>work, by definition, they must be boring. I don't buy that. I

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<v Mark Lee>don't accept that, and I encourage accountants to stand out from the crowd

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<v Mark Lee>and show that that they're not boring either. Because

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<v Mark Lee>people, you know, people want their accounts and books and and tax work

456
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<v Mark Lee>done, But, generally, they want it done by

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<v Mark Lee>somebody they can relate to and who relates to them and will help them, support

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<v Mark Lee>them, encourage them, and advise them beyond just doing the

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<v Mark Lee>compliance paperwork. And too many people Yeah. I completely

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<v Joanne Lockwood>agree. I mean, my As a small business person myself, I've

461
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<v Joanne Lockwood>run small businesses for 25, 30 odd years. So

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<v Joanne Lockwood>an accountant to me is more than just that compliance asset, yeah it's just

463
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<v Joanne Lockwood>the bookkeeping, the fact terms, company formations, statutory accounts, all that kind of stuff,

464
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<v Joanne Lockwood>it's just a minority. It's the it's that watching eye, that consultancy

465
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<v Joanne Lockwood>element that accountancy bring and how they

466
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<v Joanne Lockwood>understand your business or have an appreciation of other businesses and then can

467
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<v Joanne Lockwood>use that expertise to come to yours and advise you and

468
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<v Joanne Lockwood>signpost you or mentor you. And I think that's the power, certainly from a

469
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<v Joanne Lockwood>small business perspective. Of course, it should be. But many small businesses don't

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<v Mark Lee>appreciate they can get all that from an accountant. If they've had a bad accountant

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<v Mark Lee>in the past, they may move to another accountant who operates

472
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<v Mark Lee>in much the same way, but it's cheaper. Joanne that they don't know what more

473
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<v Mark Lee>they could be getting. So going back to the the

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<v Mark Lee>title you chose for this podcast, I'd encourage listeners to look

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<v Mark Lee>at finding the magic in their accountants, and getting

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<v Mark Lee>more from their accountants. But you you have to pay for that. You don't if

477
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<v Mark Lee>you pay monk what is it? You pay peanuts, you get monkeys.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I mean, we're we're professional speakers. We're professional trainers and podcasters and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and, advisers ourselves, so we appreciate our own brand value

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<v Joanne Lockwood>on what we do. So of course we we we yeah, we're the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>converted so we understand about value and what it can

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<v Joanne Lockwood>offer. As you're talking now, I listened about

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<v Joanne Lockwood>is there still a perception amongst clients that a man is a better

484
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<v Joanne Lockwood>accountant, maybe not, maybe women are becoming more

485
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<v Joanne Lockwood>successful, they're holding high up more senior positions in accountancy,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>but is there still this incumbent male

487
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<v Joanne Lockwood>crust, if you like, in the clients that where that women are taking this

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<v Joanne Lockwood>seriously? Have you still got to try and break through that? I've I've no idea,

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<v Mark Lee>but I I would say, a, my accountant is is a

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<v Mark Lee>woman. And the

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<v Mark Lee>I think these days, people recognize

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<v Mark Lee>they need to choose somebody to whom they can relate. And

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<v Mark Lee>I've I've often suggested to some of the

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<v Mark Lee>female accountants and bookkeepers I know because you and

495
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<v Mark Lee>I recognize the benefits of having a niche or clarity of

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<v Mark Lee>focus as regards to target audience. And, yeah, it

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<v Mark Lee>doesn't make any difference to an accountant what, you know, what gender their their

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<v Mark Lee>client is. But

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<v Mark Lee>many female entrepreneurs, business owners may

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<v Mark Lee>relate better to a female accountant than they

501
00:31:33.940 --> 00:31:37.320
<v Mark Lee>will to a male accountant. And thank goodness there's a greater

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<v Mark Lee>there's greater choice for them now than there was before.

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<v Mark Lee>And it it shouldn't you know, the gender shouldn't

504
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<v Mark Lee>gender of the accountant obviously shouldn't matter. It's irrelevant. But, frankly, in

505
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<v Mark Lee>the same way, you you mentioned my tax advice network,

506
00:31:53.780 --> 00:31:57.620
<v Mark Lee>which is an online website, lead generation website for accountants

507
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<v Mark Lee>and and tax advisers. And I always point

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<v Mark Lee>out to the members who join, put a photo up

509
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<v Mark Lee>there because you and I, speaking to the tax

510
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<v Mark Lee>advisers, you and I know it shouldn't matter what you look like.

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<v Mark Lee>The quality of your advice is what what matters. But I've I've

512
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<v Mark Lee>had this this network online for 13 years, and there is no

513
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<v Mark Lee>doubt that the advisers in the network who

514
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<v Mark Lee>put up a decent profile photo of themselves with a nice welcoming

515
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<v Mark Lee>smile get more business than those who put no photo up

516
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<v Mark Lee>or just put a logo there or a very poorly

517
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<v Mark Lee>thought thought through profile photo. And, of course, exactly the same is

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<v Mark Lee>true on LinkedIn and and social media as well and

519
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<v Mark Lee>on personal websites. And and, in

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<v Mark Lee>fact, given the the nature of this this podcast,

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<v Mark Lee>I'm reminded also of a conversation I've had when I've been

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<v Mark Lee>mentoring accountants. I had a a black

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<v Mark Lee>guy, accountant who,

524
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<v Mark Lee>let's say, his his name was was

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<v Mark Lee>Steve. And because he it was his first

526
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<v Mark Lee>name was Joanne English name. His surname was a a very African

527
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<v Mark Lee>name. And when I first met him, he didn't have his photo on his

528
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<v Mark Lee>website. And I said, why is that?

529
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<v Mark Lee>And he said, because I don't want to put people off

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<v Mark Lee>because he was conscious of the prospect of racism. So he didn't have his

531
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<v Mark Lee>surname on his website. He didn't have a photo on his website.

532
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<v Mark Lee>I said, did you ever get racists, you know, coming into your

533
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<v Mark Lee>office? He said, yeah. I do. I said,

534
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<v Mark Lee>well, gotta say, Steve,

535
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<v Mark Lee>why don't you put your full name and your photo

536
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<v Mark Lee>on your website so that you don't have to waste your time with

537
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<v Mark Lee>any racists? Because you're not you

538
00:33:55.990 --> 00:33:59.715
<v Mark Lee>know, sadly, they're not gonna change their mind just because they've met you.

539
00:33:59.715 --> 00:34:03.255
<v Mark Lee>If they're a racist, they're racist until they get to know better.

540
00:34:03.555 --> 00:34:07.399
<v Mark Lee>But you're wasting your time with racists by letting them come and see you and

541
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<v Mark Lee>then be find excuses not to engage with you. And

542
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<v Mark Lee>even if they do engage with you, if they are if they're still an if

543
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<v Mark Lee>underlying that, they're still a racist, do you really want them as clients?

544
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<v Mark Lee>And he took my advice on that and on many other things. He's not looked

545
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<v Mark Lee>back. He's gone on to win awards for his accountancy firm. He

546
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<v Mark Lee>credits me with all manner of things, most of

547
00:34:30.815 --> 00:34:34.434
<v Mark Lee>which are entirely down to him rather than me, but I gave him the confidence

548
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<v Mark Lee>to reveal who he really was rather than to hide it.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. I I'm with you on that. I I I'm I'm

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<v Joanne Lockwood>trans, transgender. I made a decision very early on to

551
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<v Joanne Lockwood>be professionally trans rather than hide it, rather than rather say I'm

552
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<v Joanne Lockwood>not, I'm and then be found out,

553
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<v Joanne Lockwood>outed, confuse people at a later date. I

554
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<v Joanne Lockwood>even put it on my CV when I apply for roles.

555
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<v Joanne Lockwood>So I don't want you to I don't want you to interview me and then

556
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<v Joanne Lockwood>go oh actually we're not sure. I'd rather you just walked on by

557
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<v Joanne Lockwood>and put my CV in the in the waste pile. You don't waste my time,

558
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I never get to meet you, I just get rejected like everybody else Jo I

559
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<v Joanne Lockwood>don't I don't need to care about your

560
00:35:21.125 --> 00:35:24.965
<v Joanne Lockwood>discrimination, prejudices, whatever. So I end up working with people

561
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<v Joanne Lockwood>who want to work with me and people seek me out to engage with me

562
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<v Joanne Lockwood>because they like what I do, because of who I am. So it's that bringing

563
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<v Joanne Lockwood>your whole self to work, isn't it? Because of my lived experience, because of who

564
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I am, the insight that I bring, you're saying about your Jewishness

565
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<v Joanne Lockwood>or the insight that people may not know, your magic, your diversity of

566
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<v Joanne Lockwood>thought that you have around your lived experience, you're bringing all of that expertise

567
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<v Joanne Lockwood>into the room not just this tiny little piece, you're able to

568
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<v Joanne Lockwood>share much more and that makes you more relatable

569
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<v Joanne Lockwood>and and people would actually know you if they can trust you

570
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<v Joanne Lockwood>because you are open about who you are. I'd like to think so. I remember

571
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<v Mark Lee>that that conversation with the the friend I'm calling Steve,

572
00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:09.359
<v Mark Lee>was helped by I was running a a roundtable group of,

573
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<v Mark Lee>self practitioner accountants, and there was an orthodox Jewish guy there

574
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<v Mark Lee>who wore a skullcap. And I

575
00:36:17.105 --> 00:36:20.625
<v Mark Lee>hadn't been thinking of him when I said what I said, but he chipped in

576
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<v Mark Lee>afterwards and said, that is why there is a video of me wearing my

577
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<v Mark Lee>skullcap front and center of my website. Because

578
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<v Mark Lee>if somebody is anti Semitic, I don't want them anywhere near

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<v Mark Lee>my office. You know, there's no point me

580
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<v Mark Lee>me hiding it, and then they come in and I've gotta deal with that. That's

581
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<v Mark Lee>not gonna make my day.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. As we're talking about being Jewish, I

583
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I was fortunate enough to be invited to a

584
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<v Joanne Lockwood>conference to speak, in Tel Aviv last summer.

585
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<v Joanne Lockwood>And I I was entertained there was no

586
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<v Joanne Lockwood>fee apart from my expenses and the promise and the promise of a good

587
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<v Joanne Lockwood>holiday while I was there. And so I actually

588
00:37:07.135 --> 00:37:10.515
<v Joanne Lockwood>had a 5 day stay in Tel Aviv. One

589
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<v Joanne Lockwood>day at that one day was conference and they I was I was royally

590
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<v Joanne Lockwood>entertained, taken to the Dead Sea, I swam or floated the Dead

591
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Sea, I went to is it there's a fort

592
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<v Joanne Lockwood>on top of the hill, is it Mashata, Marsada,

593
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<v Joanne Lockwood>that's it, which is actually below sea level, isn't it still, even on top of

594
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<v Mark Lee>a mountain? My knowledge of such things is not not what one might expect.

595
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<v Joanne Lockwood>And over I think I overlooked the Dead Sea or overlooked Jordan you can

596
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<v Joanne Lockwood>see Jordan from the top and it was a Roman fort or something that was

597
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<v Joanne Lockwood>barricaded many many centuries ago Jo we had a

598
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<v Joanne Lockwood>fantastic time and it really surprised me about

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the culture there to learn about the real people's lives because we were spending time

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<v Joanne Lockwood>with real people not just in a touristy way but in a kind of a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>business y sense and also people going out in the evenings with

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<v Joanne Lockwood>families and some of the culture Jo it's really interesting to get to know people

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and just to know their culture as people because often we

604
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<v Joanne Lockwood>see all the media bias, we hear all this stuff that goes on, which you

605
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<v Joanne Lockwood>don't get to know the real people. And

606
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<v Joanne Lockwood>to listen to the stories about how they were living in fear, how they

607
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<v Joanne Lockwood>we went around Jerusalem and I was in Jerusalem

608
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<v Joanne Lockwood>probably 20 or 30 years ago, but this time I went back the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>borders have moved, there was areas Jerusalem couldn't go anymore and if you go to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the Wailing Wall you go to the under to the the tunnels under under the

611
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<v Joanne Lockwood>castle in Jerusalem. There were when you come out the other side, you end

612
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<v Joanne Lockwood>up actually in in the Palestinian part, Jerusalem now,

613
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<v Joanne Lockwood>whereas before you came out into the into the into the Jewish side. So things

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<v Joanne Lockwood>have really changed there. Where am I going with this? So yes,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Jo the Wailing Wall when I went there the first time I went to the

616
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<v Joanne Lockwood>left hand side of the Wailing Wall and it was really interesting this

617
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<v Joanne Lockwood>time to go back to the right hand side and wearing

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a shawl and covering myself up and seeing

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a different perspective on religion and how the women

620
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<v Joanne Lockwood>were versus how you're looking at looking over the wall to

621
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<v Joanne Lockwood>see the see the the bar mitzvahs or the other things going on or the

622
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<v Joanne Lockwood>the other celebrations going on around the

623
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<v Joanne Lockwood>the male Orthodox Jews with their hats and their ringlets and everything else and their

624
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<v Joanne Lockwood>coats so it's really really interesting to understand the culture as a

625
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<v Joanne Lockwood>woman and how that works in Jewish society, how there's a lot

626
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<v Joanne Lockwood>of exclusion of women from a lot of the religious ceremonies, there are a lot

627
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<v Joanne Lockwood>of very men only temples and stuff or where people

628
00:39:36.270 --> 00:39:40.095
<v Joanne Lockwood>pray. So yes it's very interesting to get perspective on on

629
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<v Joanne Lockwood>that culture between 2 genders. Well and and it it it

630
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<v Mark Lee>even goes beyond that because, you

631
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<v Mark Lee>know, some of them them and and I think this is the true across,

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<v Mark Lee>I'm gonna say, many religions. It's certainly true across

633
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<v Mark Lee>both, Islam and and Judaism

634
00:39:59.785 --> 00:40:03.260
<v Mark Lee>that the more observant religious

635
00:40:03.640 --> 00:40:07.080
<v Mark Lee>fanatical one is about one's religion, the

636
00:40:07.080 --> 00:40:10.855
<v Mark Lee>more exclusion there is and the more focus there is

637
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<v Mark Lee>on the male role as as opposed to the the female

638
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<v Mark Lee>role. And the more and this is the and the

639
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<v Mark Lee>limited diversity, there is. The

640
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<v Mark Lee>but even within a religion, and we we see

641
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<v Mark Lee>this with, the Shiites and Sunni Muslims. We see

642
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<v Mark Lee>this across the different levels

643
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<v Mark Lee>of religious observance within the Jewish community, both

644
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<v Mark Lee>in Israel and around the world,

645
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<v Mark Lee>that, effectively, there's discrimination against those

646
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<v Mark Lee>who don't do everything. Yeah. I

647
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<v Mark Lee>I went to a a Jewish secondary school,

648
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<v Mark Lee>because my parents had limited ability to teach me very

649
00:40:56.120 --> 00:40:59.905
<v Mark Lee>much about the religion. And I

650
00:40:59.905 --> 00:41:03.585
<v Mark Lee>remember I came away feeling I'd been discriminated against because we didn't

651
00:41:03.585 --> 00:41:07.099
<v Mark Lee>belong to an orthodox synagogue grouping. Now bear in

652
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<v Mark Lee>mind, in the UK, there are sort of 4

653
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<v Mark Lee>different levels of belonging to a Jewish, to a

654
00:41:14.925 --> 00:41:18.765
<v Mark Lee>to a synagogue group, or or you might not belong to 1

655
00:41:18.765 --> 00:41:22.385
<v Mark Lee>at all. But even those who bill actually,

656
00:41:22.445 --> 00:41:26.250
<v Mark Lee>there's possibly more than 4 or 5 of won't bother boring you with

657
00:41:26.250 --> 00:41:29.790
<v Mark Lee>them. But even those that belong to a ostensibly orthodox

658
00:41:30.010 --> 00:41:33.355
<v Mark Lee>group may not be practicing in an orthodox

659
00:41:33.655 --> 00:41:36.395
<v Mark Lee>way following all the laws. It's just what they've done traditionally.

660
00:41:38.215 --> 00:41:41.900
<v Mark Lee>But because I didn't belong to that group, I had

661
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<v Mark Lee>religious studies teachers who and I still remember, who

662
00:41:45.420 --> 00:41:49.200
<v Mark Lee>looked down on me because my family had chosen a different level

663
00:41:49.805 --> 00:41:53.485
<v Mark Lee>of of practice and observance. And I think that that

664
00:41:53.485 --> 00:41:57.105
<v Mark Lee>turned me off the whole thing for for quite a while. So

665
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<v Mark Lee>And and I I've equally heard that, that

666
00:42:01.410 --> 00:42:04.470
<v Mark Lee>there well, if I know, there are plenty of black Jews

667
00:42:05.295 --> 00:42:08.974
<v Mark Lee>around the world, not just in not just in Israel, but in the

668
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<v Mark Lee>UK and, and America and elsewhere

669
00:42:12.815 --> 00:42:16.390
<v Mark Lee>who suffer discrimination not you know, they they

670
00:42:16.390 --> 00:42:20.010
<v Mark Lee>suffer discrimination, a, because they're black

671
00:42:20.310 --> 00:42:24.105
<v Mark Lee>racists, also because they're white, anti semites. But, sadly,

672
00:42:24.105 --> 00:42:27.945
<v Mark Lee>they also suffer racism amongst the

673
00:42:27.945 --> 00:42:30.600
<v Mark Lee>Jewish community who

674
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<v Mark Lee>who are

675
00:42:35.400 --> 00:42:38.205
<v Mark Lee>for the same racist reasons that you can be

676
00:42:39.145 --> 00:42:42.685
<v Mark Lee>that apply in any any community. And

677
00:42:43.145 --> 00:42:46.930
<v Mark Lee>like all these things, invariably, it comes down to a lack of education,

678
00:42:46.930 --> 00:42:48.910
<v Mark Lee>lack of understanding, lack of knowledge.

679
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Joanne this is where this word we were talking

680
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<v Joanne Lockwood>about before went live. Intersectionality plays into where someone is

681
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<v Joanne Lockwood>suffering discrimination, a) because they're black, b) because they're

682
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Jewish, and c) because they're a different ethnicity of

683
00:43:03.465 --> 00:43:07.210
<v Joanne Lockwood>Jewishness. And I was I became hyper aware of this

684
00:43:07.210 --> 00:43:10.350
<v Joanne Lockwood>when I was when I was in Israel about how the Filipino

685
00:43:10.970 --> 00:43:14.545
<v Joanne Lockwood>Jewish people within Israel tend to be the lower paid,

686
00:43:16.365 --> 00:43:19.985
<v Joanne Lockwood>domestic role type people and there was a different

687
00:43:20.045 --> 00:43:23.750
<v Joanne Lockwood>way of talking about the Russian Jews who were there

688
00:43:23.890 --> 00:43:27.730
<v Joanne Lockwood>and also the people who were born in Israel who had taken

689
00:43:27.730 --> 00:43:31.335
<v Joanne Lockwood>part in national service versus people who had emigrated

690
00:43:31.475 --> 00:43:35.315
<v Joanne Lockwood>there and didn't do national services. There's a whole hierarchy of Jewishness

691
00:43:35.315 --> 00:43:39.029
<v Joanne Lockwood>within their society and bias and discrimination that went on. And I remember

692
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<v Joanne Lockwood>having this fantastic conversation with a rabbi, he

693
00:43:42.789 --> 00:43:46.549
<v Joanne Lockwood>had his skullcap on, he had what I would describe as typically a rabbi

694
00:43:46.549 --> 00:43:50.215
<v Joanne Lockwood>look about him, that my bias sort of this is what I think a

695
00:43:50.215 --> 00:43:54.055
<v Joanne Lockwood>rabbi should look like type prejudice or perception. And we're

696
00:43:54.055 --> 00:43:57.015
<v Joanne Lockwood>having this fantastic chat he said 'yeah I know people think because I'm a rabbi

697
00:43:57.015 --> 00:43:59.460
<v Joanne Lockwood>I want to be really serious and I've got to you know you've got to

698
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<v Joanne Lockwood>talk to me like I'm some sort of, saint but no I'll I'll have

699
00:44:03.299 --> 00:44:05.460
<v Joanne Lockwood>a I'll have a beer with you and have a drink with you and we'll

700
00:44:05.460 --> 00:44:09.234
<v Joanne Lockwood>have a good chat. And it was a really really good I think we've

701
00:44:09.234 --> 00:44:11.795
<v Joanne Lockwood>probably spoke for an hour, hour and a half just just having a real chat

702
00:44:11.795 --> 00:44:15.230
<v Joanne Lockwood>about life, the universe and everything that you do and

703
00:44:15.230 --> 00:44:17.970
<v Joanne Lockwood>completely dismissed any perception I might have about

704
00:44:19.470 --> 00:44:22.825
<v Joanne Lockwood>a person of his position within the faith and it was

705
00:44:22.825 --> 00:44:26.525
<v Joanne Lockwood>just a very relatable fun human being.

706
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I think I've enriched myself quite a lot around the world, meet different people

707
00:44:31.385 --> 00:44:34.770
<v Joanne Lockwood>and that's the way we change perceptions. Absolutely. Meet different people.

708
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<v Mark Lee>Yeah. Very, very much so. And, yeah, I I

709
00:44:38.609 --> 00:44:42.305
<v Mark Lee>look back. Yeah. The the first trans person I met was

710
00:44:43.645 --> 00:44:47.025
<v Mark Lee>at the Magic Circle, many years ago.

711
00:44:48.550 --> 00:44:52.310
<v Mark Lee>And they're they're a few years older than me. They were quite

712
00:44:52.310 --> 00:44:56.015
<v Mark Lee>angry at the way they'd been mistreated and discriminated against

713
00:44:56.414 --> 00:44:59.875
<v Mark Lee>over their their life, and I had tremendous sympathy

714
00:45:00.654 --> 00:45:04.500
<v Mark Lee>for them. And it was some years later before I met

715
00:45:04.580 --> 00:45:08.040
<v Mark Lee>other trans people either in the magic world or in the speaking world.

716
00:45:10.900 --> 00:45:14.280
<v Mark Lee>And I realized that

717
00:45:15.815 --> 00:45:19.175
<v Mark Lee>not everybody is angry or not everybody I'm

718
00:45:19.175 --> 00:45:22.750
<v Mark Lee>sorry. Not everybody is visibly,

719
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<v Mark Lee>overtly, consistently angry.

720
00:45:28.650 --> 00:45:30.895
<v Mark Lee>And but equally,

721
00:45:33.195 --> 00:45:37.035
<v Mark Lee>yeah, so I'd and and the one of the the the

722
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<v Mark Lee>relate related to that is within the PSA, Professional

723
00:45:40.610 --> 00:45:44.450
<v Mark Lee>Speaking Association. And I mentioned

724
00:45:44.450 --> 00:45:48.195
<v Mark Lee>to my my wife that I, I did know more trans

725
00:45:48.195 --> 00:45:51.875
<v Mark Lee>people than her. She's she's she's met trans people through, her

726
00:45:51.875 --> 00:45:55.329
<v Mark Lee>work in over the years. But, you

727
00:45:55.329 --> 00:45:59.170
<v Mark Lee>know, could that be because they are attracted to speaking and they

728
00:45:59.170 --> 00:46:02.930
<v Mark Lee>are speaking about their experiences and lessons that could be learned or whatever?

729
00:46:02.930 --> 00:46:05.305
<v Mark Lee>I said, that is one of the reasons. However,

730
00:46:06.485 --> 00:46:10.245
<v Mark Lee>2 members of the PSA became members of

731
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<v Mark Lee>the PSA long and and and are not

732
00:46:14.129 --> 00:46:17.840
<v Mark Lee>Joanne, but have children who are transitioning or

733
00:46:17.840 --> 00:46:21.625
<v Mark Lee>who have transitioned. And both had joined

734
00:46:21.625 --> 00:46:25.224
<v Mark Lee>the PSA long before their children

735
00:46:25.224 --> 00:46:28.980
<v Mark Lee>expressed a desire to transition. And what that tells

736
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<v Mark Lee>me is it is far more common than

737
00:46:32.820 --> 00:46:35.080
<v Mark Lee>we might have been led to believe.

738
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<v Mark Lee>And that that was even more eye opening, I

739
00:46:40.445 --> 00:46:43.585
<v Mark Lee>think, than than the number of trans people that I've actually met.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I think I know I think I know the 2 ladies you're talking about who

741
00:46:47.770 --> 00:46:51.210
<v Joanne Lockwood>have trans children. I've had a conversation with both of them.

742
00:46:51.210 --> 00:46:54.785
<v Joanne Lockwood>And often when I'm doing a gig some of the gigs I

743
00:46:54.785 --> 00:46:58.545
<v Joanne Lockwood>do are around trans awareness, so

744
00:46:58.545 --> 00:47:01.525
<v Joanne Lockwood>it's kind of obvious you're going to get people in the audience who've come deliberately

745
00:47:01.790 --> 00:47:05.410
<v Joanne Lockwood>because they want to be educated or they have a trans interest. But often

746
00:47:05.710 --> 00:47:08.990
<v Joanne Lockwood>I do other gigs and it's surprising, you know, I went to Toastmasters for several

747
00:47:08.990 --> 00:47:12.775
<v Joanne Lockwood>years, I met people who had a trans relative or a trans story, I've had

748
00:47:12.775 --> 00:47:16.615
<v Joanne Lockwood>friends in my old life who've got a suddenly when I became open about

749
00:47:16.615 --> 00:47:20.410
<v Joanne Lockwood>myself suddenly people say what my neighbor, my friend, my this so I find

750
00:47:20.410 --> 00:47:24.250
<v Joanne Lockwood>that there's you I think we're only 1 or 2

751
00:47:24.250 --> 00:47:27.770
<v Joanne Lockwood>degrees or one degree away from someone who knows someone who's trans in their family

752
00:47:27.770 --> 00:47:31.265
<v Joanne Lockwood>or in their life So it is more common, the people who have belief and

753
00:47:31.265 --> 00:47:33.825
<v Joanne Lockwood>it's not just around the trans people, it's around the people who know that trans

754
00:47:33.825 --> 00:47:36.965
<v Joanne Lockwood>person Yeah. Around people who support them or their work colleagues, whatever.

755
00:47:37.770 --> 00:47:41.470
<v Mark Lee>I have a friend friend of a, friend of a friend,

756
00:47:42.330 --> 00:47:44.590
<v Mark Lee>who was an identical twin,

757
00:47:46.775 --> 00:47:50.615
<v Mark Lee>and his his identical twin sadly passed at in

758
00:47:50.615 --> 00:47:52.315
<v Mark Lee>his, I think, mid fifties,

759
00:47:55.700 --> 00:47:59.300
<v Mark Lee>but had I had identified as trans and was

760
00:47:59.300 --> 00:48:02.980
<v Mark Lee>planning to transition before he suffered a brain brain

761
00:48:02.980 --> 00:48:06.365
<v Mark Lee>tumor. And for a

762
00:48:06.845 --> 00:48:10.605
<v Mark Lee>this was long long before I knew the friend of a friend, but

763
00:48:10.605 --> 00:48:14.050
<v Mark Lee>apparently for some time, the perception amongst the

764
00:48:14.050 --> 00:48:17.730
<v Mark Lee>family was the brain tumor must have been affecting

765
00:48:17.730 --> 00:48:21.170
<v Mark Lee>him, and that's what caused it. It was a big

766
00:48:21.170 --> 00:48:24.145
<v Mark Lee>concern. The the friend of the friend

767
00:48:24.765 --> 00:48:28.065
<v Mark Lee>who's the surviving twin couldn't

768
00:48:28.205 --> 00:48:31.920
<v Mark Lee>grasp and understand this because they were identical twins. How could they

769
00:48:31.920 --> 00:48:35.520
<v Mark Lee>have different feelings? There's such different feelings in this

770
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<v Mark Lee>regard when apparently and everything else, their feelings were so similar.

771
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<v Mark Lee>It's fascinating, but it's it's very close. Yeah.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>But if you look at a lot of the language, a lot of the way

773
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<v Joanne Lockwood>people see the world, you know, if you're not disabled,

774
00:48:50.210 --> 00:48:53.970
<v Joanne Lockwood>if you're straight, you're not gay, if you're not trans, if

775
00:48:53.970 --> 00:48:57.665
<v Joanne Lockwood>you're all these things, what you're not

776
00:48:57.665 --> 00:49:01.445
<v Joanne Lockwood>tends to be wrong, bad, evil, needs to be fixed.

777
00:49:01.665 --> 00:49:05.400
<v Joanne Lockwood>So non trans people want to fix trans people Jo we

778
00:49:05.400 --> 00:49:08.920
<v Joanne Lockwood>need to put methods in place so that trans people don't be trans. Well why

779
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<v Joanne Lockwood>don't we make it so that trans people can be trans? There's no big deal.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Then in this time when we talk about the social model of disability, I also

781
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<v Joanne Lockwood>talk about the social model of discrimination that is decided that puts the barriers

782
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<v Joanne Lockwood>in place based on this normality that we've propagated,

783
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<v Joanne Lockwood>the social cross section of normality.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>You know, you see people doing DNA or sequencing or research and say, well, we

785
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<v Joanne Lockwood>found what causes Down syndrome, we can stop ever having Down syndrome

786
00:49:33.375 --> 00:49:36.975
<v Joanne Lockwood>children in the future. Whilst I accept from my normal

787
00:49:36.975 --> 00:49:40.039
<v Joanne Lockwood>brain kind of perspective is that I can see the advantage of not having Down

788
00:49:40.039 --> 00:49:43.720
<v Joanne Lockwood>syndrome people, not putting people through that, but that means denying that

789
00:49:43.720 --> 00:49:47.315
<v Joanne Lockwood>child the opportunity to life, denying that child the opportunity to have great parents,

790
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<v Joanne Lockwood>parents look after them. And why do we see Down syndrome as being

791
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<v Joanne Lockwood>wrong? Bad, evil needs fixing. Someone who's

792
00:49:54.360 --> 00:49:56.840
<v Joanne Lockwood>deaf, do we need to fix someone who's deaf or do we need to make

793
00:49:56.840 --> 00:49:59.560
<v Joanne Lockwood>sure they can celebrate their life in the way they want to leave it? So

794
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I'm very very wary sometimes that we end up framing it Jo

795
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<v Joanne Lockwood>anyone who's not typical needs to be fixed or needs to

796
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<v Joanne Lockwood>be helped or there's some benevolence out that we need to stop ever happening again.

797
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<v Joanne Lockwood>I think we went through these conversations when people were

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<v Joanne Lockwood>gay, people who were black, people with disability, people with deaf, we have

799
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<v Joanne Lockwood>and we're having the same conversation about people who are trans saying we need to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>fix people so they don't become trans rather than saying let's embrace people.

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<v Mark Lee>-Absolutely. -Make it a choice Jo you

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00:50:29.300 --> 00:50:32.020
<v Joanne Lockwood>could live your life if that's who you are, go and live your life and

803
00:50:32.020 --> 00:50:35.620
<v Joanne Lockwood>there's no barriers. Is it was it another

804
00:50:35.620 --> 00:50:39.395
<v Mark Lee>speaker who we we both know gave a talk a

805
00:50:39.395 --> 00:50:42.455
<v Mark Lee>couple of years ago at, PSA annual convention

806
00:50:43.235 --> 00:50:46.855
<v Mark Lee>and talked about was it Indian culture that has

807
00:50:57.035 --> 00:51:00.734
<v Joanne Lockwood>England, Spain, etcetera etcetera, exported Catholicism,

808
00:51:01.595 --> 00:51:05.240
<v Joanne Lockwood>Protestant faith, religion, Christianity

809
00:51:05.780 --> 00:51:08.760
<v Joanne Lockwood>around the world and with that came prejudice, bigotry

810
00:51:10.100 --> 00:51:13.780
<v Joanne Lockwood>and the white way with a w the white way of doing

811
00:51:13.780 --> 00:51:17.225
<v Joanne Lockwood>things, our social construct, our hierarchy,

812
00:51:17.365 --> 00:51:21.205
<v Joanne Lockwood>our government, which I'm not saying some of that didn't benefit the cultures, but

813
00:51:21.205 --> 00:51:25.050
<v Joanne Lockwood>it also left a legacy of racial racism,

814
00:51:25.910 --> 00:51:28.730
<v Joanne Lockwood>sexism and straight

815
00:51:30.070 --> 00:51:33.290
<v Joanne Lockwood>homophobia and transphobia Jo still a lot of the Commonwealth

816
00:51:34.194 --> 00:51:37.875
<v Joanne Lockwood>still have anti LGBT laws which we exported to them. Which is

817
00:51:37.875 --> 00:51:41.720
<v Mark Lee>very sad. You mentioned India, the Hijra

818
00:51:41.720 --> 00:51:45.500
<v Joanne Lockwood>in India were kind of revered sort of third

819
00:51:45.560 --> 00:51:49.340
<v Joanne Lockwood>gender that were celebrated and now they're kind of marginalized,

820
00:51:49.400 --> 00:51:53.224
<v Joanne Lockwood>they live in their own little corralled houses, bought out

821
00:51:53.224 --> 00:51:56.984
<v Joanne Lockwood>to initiate ceremonies, it almost like packs back off, so

822
00:51:56.984 --> 00:52:00.720
<v Joanne Lockwood>they're still stigmatized, that they're not mainstream, they're still they're still kind of

823
00:52:00.720 --> 00:52:04.400
<v Joanne Lockwood>seen as outsiders. Whereas several 100 years ago

824
00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:08.145
<v Joanne Lockwood>before we before the British arrived, they were kind of part of society

825
00:52:08.145 --> 00:52:11.745
<v Joanne Lockwood>in the same way that other trans or third gender or or

826
00:52:11.745 --> 00:52:15.250
<v Joanne Lockwood>dual gender or fluid people in other in other

827
00:52:15.250 --> 00:52:19.089
<v Joanne Lockwood>civilizations are still celebrated. If you look at the Aboriginals and you

828
00:52:19.089 --> 00:52:22.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>look at the Maoris, you look at some, some of the,

829
00:52:23.155 --> 00:52:26.515
<v Joanne Lockwood>North American native, First Nation people in North

830
00:52:26.515 --> 00:52:30.250
<v Joanne Lockwood>America, they have this sort of concept of multiple genders, there's no

831
00:52:30.330 --> 00:52:34.170
<v Joanne Lockwood>fixed binary, how they talk about gender is is not

832
00:52:34.170 --> 00:52:38.010
<v Joanne Lockwood>in this binary malefemale sense, there's probably 5 or 6 different ways

833
00:52:38.010 --> 00:52:41.734
<v Joanne Lockwood>of expressing yourself and none of those are male or female. So

834
00:52:41.734 --> 00:52:45.515
<v Joanne Lockwood>yeah we, we have this invention that we created.

835
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<v Mark Lee>And it's always helpful being reminded of

836
00:52:49.980 --> 00:52:52.560
<v Mark Lee>that because I think we have a tendency

837
00:52:53.660 --> 00:52:57.495
<v Mark Lee>to assume that what we know is

838
00:52:57.495 --> 00:53:00.855
<v Mark Lee>right. As you said before, anybody who's different is is

839
00:53:00.855 --> 00:53:04.690
<v Mark Lee>wrong. And I'm more as I said before, I'm more aware of

840
00:53:04.690 --> 00:53:07.910
<v Mark Lee>that because there's an element of me that is is different.

841
00:53:09.970 --> 00:53:13.535
<v Mark Lee>And it's very frustrating when you hear

842
00:53:13.915 --> 00:53:17.755
<v Mark Lee>nonsense being spoken by those in power who don't

843
00:53:17.755 --> 00:53:19.935
<v Mark Lee>understand these things and have never experienced,

844
00:53:21.289 --> 00:53:24.270
<v Mark Lee>any form of bias or discrimination

845
00:53:25.210 --> 00:53:28.945
<v Mark Lee>and perpetuate the idea that we

846
00:53:28.945 --> 00:53:32.305
<v Mark Lee>should all be the same and we should all do things the way it's always

847
00:53:32.305 --> 00:53:35.845
<v Mark Lee>been done. I'm fascinated to have my mind being

848
00:53:35.905 --> 00:53:38.710
<v Mark Lee>opened to a broader awareness

849
00:53:40.050 --> 00:53:43.650
<v Mark Lee>of diversity within the world in all ways,

850
00:53:43.650 --> 00:53:46.905
<v Mark Lee>shapes, and forms and to reducing

851
00:53:47.765 --> 00:53:51.235
<v Mark Lee>the discrimination. Bottom line is we're

852
00:53:52.300 --> 00:53:56.060
<v Mark Lee>still gonna choose to spend time with people we can relate to. You

853
00:53:56.060 --> 00:53:59.420
<v Mark Lee>know, I don't spend much time with people who are into football or cricket or

854
00:53:59.420 --> 00:54:02.965
<v Mark Lee>rugby, and that make marks me out as

855
00:54:02.965 --> 00:54:06.805
<v Mark Lee>being that that marks me out as being more different to most

856
00:54:06.805 --> 00:54:10.185
<v Mark Lee>blokes than anything else about me.

857
00:54:11.190 --> 00:54:14.950
<v Mark Lee>But, equally, it means I relate better to those other blokes and

858
00:54:14.950 --> 00:54:17.269
<v Mark Lee>women and who

859
00:54:19.190 --> 00:54:22.994
<v Mark Lee>and, people of no preferred gender.

860
00:54:23.855 --> 00:54:27.295
<v Mark Lee>There we are. I'll try I'll try and get the terminology right, but I don't

861
00:54:27.295 --> 00:54:30.869
<v Mark Lee>always succeed, but at least I've tried. But it but it

862
00:54:31.030 --> 00:54:34.410
<v Mark Lee>yeah. I'm I'm more likely to find something in common

863
00:54:34.630 --> 00:54:37.369
<v Mark Lee>with people who are not heavily sports orientated.

864
00:54:38.725 --> 00:54:42.165
<v Mark Lee>That doesn't make me wrong. Yeah. I

865
00:54:42.165 --> 00:54:45.385
<v Mark Lee>I I I wanted to talk. I was not into sports.

866
00:54:46.230 --> 00:54:50.070
<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah. But that's one thing that makes it a professional speaking association, for as an

867
00:54:50.070 --> 00:54:53.910
<v Joanne Lockwood>example, or Toastmasters or other interest clubs, if

868
00:54:53.910 --> 00:54:57.724
<v Joanne Lockwood>you like, organizations because you do cut through a whole cross section

869
00:54:57.724 --> 00:55:00.845
<v Joanne Lockwood>of society, you could be a football supporter and a cricket supporter or a rugby

870
00:55:00.845 --> 00:55:04.180
<v Joanne Lockwood>fan, but our common interest is speaking, educating,

871
00:55:04.240 --> 00:55:07.920
<v Joanne Lockwood>training, standing up in front of people, using our voice

872
00:55:07.920 --> 00:55:11.200
<v Joanne Lockwood>and brain to earn a living, not our hands or things, that's kind of what

873
00:55:11.200 --> 00:55:15.025
<v Joanne Lockwood>binds us together. Yeah. We're quite a diverse bunch. We we

874
00:55:15.025 --> 00:55:18.625
<v Joanne Lockwood>we have people from lots of different sectors, a fair gender

875
00:55:18.625 --> 00:55:22.430
<v Joanne Lockwood>balance, maybe we're still a little bit too white, we need to

876
00:55:22.430 --> 00:55:26.190
<v Joanne Lockwood>work on our ethnicity balance, and make sure that we

877
00:55:26.190 --> 00:55:29.695
<v Joanne Lockwood>are being open to that and also maybe looking at younger

878
00:55:29.695 --> 00:55:33.235
<v Joanne Lockwood>generation about how people are earning money through YouTube and online but yeah

879
00:55:33.455 --> 00:55:37.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>2020 has given us an example now of how we can earn

880
00:55:37.135 --> 00:55:40.849
<v Joanne Lockwood>money online, there's maybe professional speakers we're seeing the stage speaking, wasn't it? But

881
00:55:40.849 --> 00:55:44.609
<v Joanne Lockwood>now we I think we're more open to the concept that speaking is

882
00:55:44.609 --> 00:55:48.225
<v Joanne Lockwood>a is an activity can happen online or face to face. So

883
00:55:48.225 --> 00:55:52.065
<v Joanne Lockwood>maybe we'll open up to to more more than modern YouTubers and the

884
00:55:52.065 --> 00:55:55.665
<v Joanne Lockwood>online marketers. So It's true. It's also true for local business

885
00:55:55.665 --> 00:55:59.200
<v Mark Lee>networking events as well. It's all it's all too easy to

886
00:55:59.760 --> 00:56:03.240
<v Mark Lee>yeah. I I like to be a welcoming person whenever I'm at an event where

887
00:56:03.240 --> 00:56:06.675
<v Mark Lee>I'm whether I'm a host or not, I go and talk to people I don't

888
00:56:06.675 --> 00:56:10.435
<v Mark Lee>know, people who are there for the first time. There's

889
00:56:10.435 --> 00:56:14.195
<v Mark Lee>a temptation to go up to people who you feel you're gonna get on

890
00:56:14.195 --> 00:56:17.890
<v Mark Lee>with, and relate to and have something in common with.

891
00:56:18.190 --> 00:56:21.970
<v Mark Lee>And to step out your comfort zone sometimes and go and talk to somebody

892
00:56:22.109 --> 00:56:25.585
<v Mark Lee>less likely. And I'm I'm thrilled at some of the

893
00:56:25.585 --> 00:56:29.265
<v Mark Lee>relationships that I've developed over the years because I've stepped out of

894
00:56:29.265 --> 00:56:33.105
<v Mark Lee>what historically might have been my comfort zone. I encourage others to do

895
00:56:33.105 --> 00:56:36.770
<v Mark Lee>the same. That reminds me of I was speaking at a

896
00:56:36.770 --> 00:56:40.609
<v Joanne Lockwood>conference in London last year, and the organizers have put

897
00:56:40.609 --> 00:56:44.455
<v Joanne Lockwood>on some graffiti artists making a graffiti wall

898
00:56:44.455 --> 00:56:48.135
<v Joanne Lockwood>with big you know the big spray paints and spray can and they're inviting the

899
00:56:48.135 --> 00:56:51.910
<v Joanne Lockwood>delegates to go and spray and fill it in different bits then

900
00:56:51.910 --> 00:56:55.510
<v Joanne Lockwood>sign the name of the bit they filled in. And I saw these these 2

901
00:56:55.510 --> 00:56:58.869
<v Joanne Lockwood>guys looking like typical you know your your prejudiced sort of

902
00:56:58.869 --> 00:57:02.605
<v Joanne Lockwood>stereotype graffiti artists with with beanie hats and and

903
00:57:02.605 --> 00:57:06.365
<v Joanne Lockwood>sort of boots and shaggy trousers and and all this kind of sort of

904
00:57:06.365 --> 00:57:10.050
<v Joanne Lockwood>as you'd imagine sort of like your graffiti artist stereotype to be. And I sort

905
00:57:10.050 --> 00:57:13.730
<v Joanne Lockwood>of started having a chat with him it turns out that one had run

906
00:57:13.730 --> 00:57:17.170
<v Joanne Lockwood>£1,000,000,000 businesses and he got tired of it and decided to get out of it

907
00:57:17.170 --> 00:57:20.625
<v Joanne Lockwood>and he started finding he found street art and he said

908
00:57:20.625 --> 00:57:24.225
<v Joanne Lockwood>they've decided to legitimate to legitimise what they're doing because they found it a bit

909
00:57:24.225 --> 00:57:28.049
<v Joanne Lockwood>tricky. They kept every near misses of getting arrested for doing it on

910
00:57:28.049 --> 00:57:31.730
<v Joanne Lockwood>public wall. So now they set up this this business to corporates where they they

911
00:57:31.730 --> 00:57:34.950
<v Joanne Lockwood>turn up graffiti walls and and create an event graffiti

912
00:57:36.485 --> 00:57:39.525
<v Joanne Lockwood>and invite delegates and so they were proper business people and I know I've probably

913
00:57:39.525 --> 00:57:42.565
<v Joanne Lockwood>spent about an hour and a half talking to them and I was I chatted

914
00:57:42.565 --> 00:57:45.260
<v Joanne Lockwood>some people at the end of the conference because I was talking about diversity and

915
00:57:45.260 --> 00:57:48.619
<v Joanne Lockwood>inclusion and I just happened to say, has anybody else in the room had a

916
00:57:48.619 --> 00:57:52.385
<v Joanne Lockwood>chat with a graffiti artist yet? And there was no hands on them, I said

917
00:57:52.465 --> 00:57:55.985
<v Joanne Lockwood>well you should do, they're fantastic people, why have we chosen to network with

918
00:57:55.985 --> 00:57:59.825
<v Joanne Lockwood>ourselves and not with them because they're seen as the hired help, they're seen as

919
00:57:59.825 --> 00:58:03.590
<v Joanne Lockwood>different whatever. So often by talking to

920
00:58:03.590 --> 00:58:06.890
<v Joanne Lockwood>people that are not the obvious choice in your network

921
00:58:07.270 --> 00:58:10.975
<v Joanne Lockwood>actually could meet some fantastic people. And I've had some really really

922
00:58:10.975 --> 00:58:14.655
<v Joanne Lockwood>enlightening conversation with people that I I've just got up and said

923
00:58:14.655 --> 00:58:18.015
<v Joanne Lockwood>hello to. No. I me me the same, and I

924
00:58:18.015 --> 00:58:21.619
<v Mark Lee>encourage everybody to do it. Overcome your

925
00:58:21.619 --> 00:58:25.240
<v Mark Lee>personal prejudices and and bias, and it's like anything.

926
00:58:26.233 --> 00:58:29.559
<v Mark Lee>Jo before practice makes permanent, practice

927
00:58:30.025 --> 00:58:33.625
<v Mark Lee>can certainly make an improvement and, change things for the for the

928
00:58:33.625 --> 00:58:35.485
<v Mark Lee>better if you if you give it a go.

929
00:58:37.440 --> 00:58:40.960
<v Joanne Lockwood>For sure. I've got to ask you. You you've got a a

930
00:58:40.960 --> 00:58:44.195
<v Joanne Lockwood>nickname of bookmarkly. Do you wanna do you wanna tell me what was that

931
00:58:44.835 --> 00:58:48.615
<v Mark Lee>Yeah. When when I thank you for asking. When I first,

932
00:58:49.155 --> 00:58:52.860
<v Mark Lee>went freelance, and I was thinking about what domain name to

933
00:58:52.860 --> 00:58:55.760
<v Mark Lee>choose. My my name, Mark Lee, is

934
00:58:56.220 --> 00:58:59.935
<v Mark Lee>amazingly common. There was an

935
00:59:00.015 --> 00:59:03.695
<v Mark Lee>actor, Motley, who appeared in the film Gallipoli with Mel Gibson. He's

936
00:59:03.695 --> 00:59:07.155
<v Mark Lee>now an actor director. There are

937
00:59:07.550 --> 00:59:10.370
<v Mark Lee>various American sports stars. There's a Philippine,

938
00:59:12.110 --> 00:59:15.810
<v Mark Lee>Philippine comedian, a Chinese rap

939
00:59:15.870 --> 00:59:19.515
<v Mark Lee>artist, just to name a few. The first

940
00:59:20.135 --> 00:59:23.895
<v Mark Lee>astronaut to go into space with his wife, whatever that

941
00:59:23.895 --> 00:59:26.810
<v Mark Lee>means, was also Mark Lee.

942
00:59:27.430 --> 00:59:31.030
<v Mark Lee>So I wasn't gonna get a domain name for my for

943
00:59:31.030 --> 00:59:34.815
<v Mark Lee>myself. The first idea was to go with ask Mark Lee

944
00:59:35.915 --> 00:59:38.815
<v Mark Lee>dot co dot uk. And then a friend remembered

945
00:59:39.275 --> 00:59:42.990
<v Mark Lee>that some years previously, I'd been thinking of creating a flyer

946
00:59:43.530 --> 00:59:47.369
<v Mark Lee>promotional flyer for entertaining at, gigs for

947
00:59:47.369 --> 00:59:50.675
<v Mark Lee>for for grown ups in the days when I did that sort of thing. And

948
00:59:51.615 --> 00:59:55.395
<v Mark Lee>that he'd include the designer had included a tear off

949
00:59:55.775 --> 00:59:58.650
<v Mark Lee>magic wand that could also be used as a bookmark.

950
01:00:01.190 --> 01:00:04.890
<v Mark Lee>And that idea evolved to become well, how about bookmarkly?

951
01:00:05.430 --> 01:00:09.255
<v Mark Lee>Because that's what I wanted people to do. So I took the book name I

952
01:00:09.255 --> 01:00:12.855
<v Mark Lee>took the website bookmarkly.co.uk. For the

953
01:00:12.855 --> 01:00:16.500
<v Mark Lee>benefit of those listening in color, I'm holding up a colored

954
01:00:16.560 --> 01:00:20.240
<v Mark Lee>bookmark, which, is my business card in the days when we used to give

955
01:00:20.240 --> 01:00:23.415
<v Mark Lee>out business cards in the shape of a bookmark,

956
01:00:24.295 --> 01:00:27.915
<v Mark Lee>and that's been through various evolutions over the years. And

957
01:00:29.095 --> 01:00:32.540
<v Mark Lee>my name on LinkedIn on

958
01:00:32.940 --> 01:00:36.780
<v Mark Lee>in terms of my, my my

959
01:00:36.780 --> 01:00:40.265
<v Mark Lee>personalized URL on LinkedIn is Bookmarkly. Facebook

960
01:00:40.265 --> 01:00:43.325
<v Mark Lee>business page is bookmarkly. Twitter handle, bookmarkly.

961
01:00:44.585 --> 01:00:48.345
<v Mark Lee>So it hasn't happened recently, but every now and again, I used to get emails

962
01:00:48.345 --> 01:00:51.970
<v Mark Lee>addressed, dear book. Dear book. And then

963
01:00:51.970 --> 01:00:55.650
<v Mark Lee>and then it if there was an assistant, it would come back and apologize 2

964
01:00:55.650 --> 01:00:59.465
<v Mark Lee>minutes later Jo go, sorry. It's Mark, isn't it? Which, frankly, I

965
01:00:59.465 --> 01:01:03.245
<v Mark Lee>always prefer that to when somebody addresses me as Lee by mistake because,

966
01:01:03.305 --> 01:01:06.840
<v Mark Lee>again, the name switches backwards and forwards as as well.

967
01:01:07.380 --> 01:01:11.140
<v Mark Lee>So that's that's the origin of why some people refer to me as bookmarkedly. It

968
01:01:11.140 --> 01:01:14.705
<v Mark Lee>makes me more memorable. So I like so I I It does.

969
01:01:14.705 --> 01:01:18.542
<v Joanne Lockwood>And that's magic, as I say. Absolutely. Find find the magic. Find the

970
01:01:18.542 --> 01:01:22.379
<v Joanne Lockwood>magic. I'm gonna use that. I haven't used it before, but I'm going

971
01:01:22.379 --> 01:01:26.190
<v Mark Lee>to. Yeah. Find the magic. Yeah. Well, it's just the point in the in the

972
01:01:26.190 --> 01:01:28.710
<v Joanne Lockwood>in the episode where nobody say how do people get in contact with you, but

973
01:01:28.710 --> 01:01:32.085
<v Joanne Lockwood>I think we've established that BookMarkLee.co.uk

974
01:01:32.385 --> 01:01:35.925
<v Joanne Lockwood>is a very good way or search for Bookmark Lee on Google. They'll

975
01:01:36.305 --> 01:01:39.205
<v Joanne Lockwood>come across you. You're the inspiring founder

976
01:01:40.920 --> 01:01:44.600
<v Joanne Lockwood>of the Tax Advice Network, author of the The Bachelor

977
01:01:44.600 --> 01:01:48.280
<v Joanne Lockwood>of Success. Is that a weekly, mail shop? Weekly mail

978
01:01:48.280 --> 01:01:51.675
<v Mark Lee>shop primarily for accountants, bookkeepers, and tax advisers. The the Tax

979
01:01:51.675 --> 01:01:55.275
<v Mark Lee>Advice Network, about a year ago

980
01:01:55.275 --> 01:01:57.380
<v Mark Lee>now, we, I also have the domain

981
01:01:57.440 --> 01:02:01.200
<v Mark Lee>findataxadviser.online because

982
01:02:01.200 --> 01:02:04.824
<v Mark Lee>that makes it clearer what it actually is. Jo,

983
01:02:05.065 --> 01:02:08.744
<v Mark Lee>if you go to find a tax adviser dot online, if you want to find

984
01:02:08.744 --> 01:02:12.510
<v Mark Lee>1, then it's a great place to do that. And I'm chairman of the

985
01:02:12.510 --> 01:02:16.110
<v Mark Lee>chairman of the network. Fantastic. That's

986
01:02:16.110 --> 01:02:19.950
<v Joanne Lockwood>absolutely amazing. Well, it's been an inspiration talking to you. We've had a bit

987
01:02:19.950 --> 01:02:23.495
<v Joanne Lockwood>of a laugh and a giggle as well, and you're certainly not a

988
01:02:23.495 --> 01:02:27.255
<v Joanne Lockwood>boring old accountant as, you're you're far

989
01:02:27.255 --> 01:02:30.960
<v Joanne Lockwood>more fun as a magician. Social

990
01:02:30.960 --> 01:02:34.800
<v Joanne Lockwood>media your presence on social media you're quite big on

991
01:02:34.800 --> 01:02:38.240
<v Joanne Lockwood>Linkedin at the moment, people can find you there. So there's much to take

992
01:02:38.240 --> 01:02:41.935
<v Joanne Lockwood>inspiration from Jo a huge thank you to the listeners for tuning in

993
01:02:41.935 --> 01:02:45.535
<v Joanne Lockwood>and listening always to the end. Please do subscribe to

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01:02:45.535 --> 01:02:49.359
<v Joanne Lockwood>keep updates on future episodes of the Inclusion Bites podcast, that's

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<v Joanne Lockwood>sure they'd love to listen to because I've got a number of exciting guests. Are

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<v Joanne Lockwood>they more excited? No, it can't be more exciting but we've got more guests lined

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<v Joanne Lockwood>up that I'm sure you'll be inspired by over the next few weeks months.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And remember also if you'd like to be a guest, if you're if you think

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<v Joanne Lockwood>you're exciting, think you're inspirational then please do drop me a line and tell

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<v Joanne Lockwood>me your story. I welcome any feedback and suggestions you may have, how we

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<v Joanne Lockwood>can improve the show to jo.lockwood@seechangehappen.co.uk.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And finally, my name is Joanne Lockwood, It has been an absolute pleasure to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>host this podcast for you today. Catch you next time. Bye.