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<v Joanne Lockwood>Welcome to Inclusion Bites, your sanctuary for

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<v Joanne Lockwood>bold conversations that spark change. I'm Joanne Lockwood,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>your guide on this journey of exploration into the heart of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>inclusion, belonging and societal

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<v Joanne Lockwood>transformation. Ever wondered what it truly takes to create a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>world? Remember, everyone not only belongs, but thrives.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>You're not alone. Join me as we uncover

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the unseen, challenge the status quo and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>share stories that resonate deep within. Ready

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Don't forget, you can be part of the conversation too. Reach out

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to share your insights or to join me on the show.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>So adjust your earbuds and settle in. It's time to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>ignite the spark of inclusion with Inclusion

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And today is episode 144

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<v Joanne Lockwood>with the title Breaking Barriers, Building

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Futures. And I have the absolute honour and privilege to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>welcome Sandeep Amar Guppta.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Sandeep is a transformational coach and speaker

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<v Joanne Lockwood>who empowers leaders and professionals to overcome

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<v Joanne Lockwood>growth barriers and create meaningful futures through an

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<v Joanne Lockwood>integrated approach blending spiritual insight,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>human potential and economic strategies.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>When I asked Sandeep to describe his superpower, he

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<v Joanne Lockwood>said it is his ability to bridge ancient

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<v Joanne Lockwood>wisdom and modern thought in order to unlock

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<v Joanne Lockwood>human potential. Hello, Sandeep, welcome to the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>show. Hi, Jo. I'm very excited to be here. Thank

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you very much for inviting me and I love

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>being here. Thank you. We were chatting in the green

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<v Joanne Lockwood>room before we went live that I'm based in the UK and you're

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<v Joanne Lockwood>based in which part of India? I am based in the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>northern part of India, the capital of India. That's New

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Delhi. And at present it is cold and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>getting colder, but nothing like what you experience in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>UK. This is about 10 degrees where I am in the south of the UK.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>What's New Delhi like at this time of year in December? New Delhi this

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>time would be something like 14, 15, goes down

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to approximately 8, 9 in the early morning hours.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>But this is the pattern, you know, which continues while

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>where you are, the temperature will continue to fall.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>It won't fall so much as far as Delhi is concerned,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>but we do have the Himalayas where it's snowing. It goes to minus

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>30, 40. But Delhi, where I am,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is quite comfortable, you know, in the winters. India itself is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>almost a continent in its own right. It's a massive country.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>We often don't appreciate it when we're in the northern hemisphere. Just think about it,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>it's down there somewhere, but really It's a massive

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<v Joanne Lockwood>place in its own right with a massive population. Was

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<v Joanne Lockwood>it 23, 20 something states within, in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>India? Well, 32 states,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you're right. India is a very

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>ancient country, one of the oldest traditions it

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>has and it has everything right from the mountains to the seas to the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>deserts to the forest to the rainforest.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Diversity of culture. All colours are here. And

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>surprisingly, let me tell you one thing, you know, India

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>became a hotbed for clinical trials, you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>know, a couple of years back. Why? The genetic composition

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of India has got genes from virtually all the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>races across the globe in India.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So if you, you know, evaluate a drug

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in the Indian subcontinent and in, in, and in India in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>particular, you can be rest assured it is going

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to work at least in 60, 70% of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>world population. So India is a fantastic

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>country. A lot of history, a lot of colour, a lot of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>romance, a lot of movies. You name it and we have

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>it. Well, I'm not necessarily a fan of the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Bollywood, but I'm well aware of the Bollywood culture,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the dance, the colour, the vibrancy.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I'm a great fan of Indian dancing. That's the way people move their fingers and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>their arms and they get with the rhythm. And I'm

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<v Joanne Lockwood>transfixed sometimes watching Indian dancing because it's so

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<v Joanne Lockwood>culturally different to Western dancing

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and move. It's a, it's a very deliberate dance, isn't it? I think

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<v Joanne Lockwood>very rhythmic and transfixed sometimes.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Well, I've seen dance anywhere in the world is transfixing

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>if done inherently. We are

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>made to move inherently. Excuse me. As

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>for the ancient Indian wisdom, what is flowing inside us? It

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is the sound waves. And why do we dance?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>When we align or the sounds in the external world, they

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>align with our internal sounds. Dancing is automatic, I

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>believe, world over, be it in the Africa or

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>UK or anywhere, dancing is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>transfixing if done properly. Yeah, I

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<v Joanne Lockwood>agree. Even as long as you in your head when

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<v Joanne Lockwood>you're dancing, you have this vision. I think it doesn't

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<v Joanne Lockwood>matter what you look like when you dance, it's how you feel on the inside

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<v Joanne Lockwood>when you dance. If you let yourself feel for that freedom,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>let go of the shackles of expectations. Dancing is a way of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>losing yourself into the rhythm of the music or the mood, isn't

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<v Joanne Lockwood>it? You're absolutely right, Jo. And let me share a recent experience.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You know, when I was young, I was fond of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>dancing and I would dance at the every opportunity, you know,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>but as our societies are, when you grow up, you say,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>oh, you should not dance, you should not do this, you should not do that.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>That was very much prevalent in a certain segment in India.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So every time I would go to a party, every time I would hear good

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>music, internally, I felt like dancing, but something

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>used to hold me. So despite wanting to dance, I

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>was not dancing. And I think this happens to a lot of people.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>On the 29th of the last month,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I was invited to a party. There was a dance floor and the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>host said, you got to dance. And I was wanting to dance, but something was

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>holding me back. Inhibitions. And then I said,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I got to do it and I went and danced and people said, you danced

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>well. So, you know, I. I'm going to write a post on this thing. I

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>just got the photographs today. What does it take to break

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>inhibitions? One thought and one step.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>That is all. Yeah. Thinking and then take action effectively, isn't it?

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Yeah, yeah. And you know, when you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>said thinking and taking action. Let me share another very

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>important example which I give. I'm using the word important,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the relationship between knowledge and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>action. It's the relationship of a bullet and a gun. If you're in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>danger, I give you a bullet, it has got no value.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>If I give you a gun, don't give you a bullet. Again, it has got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>no value. But the moment I give you the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>gun and the bullet, it becomes. Becomes powerful.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>It changes the skill to fire it and the skill and knowledge

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<v Joanne Lockwood>to fire it as well. That goes. Yes, that is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>true in the skill. But what I'm trying to say

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and why was I drawn to your podcast or this

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>talk? Inclusiveness. And this is one

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>example of inclusiveness where you bring knowledge and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>action together, you make them inclusive, you become

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a powerhouse. Yes. Yeah, I think you're right.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Without action, they're just thoughts, they're just dreams,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>they're just want to be. Action turns them from those

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<v Joanne Lockwood>inaction into something tangible, something that can change,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>create, develop. And I think we see that too much.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>Everyone wants. Without the action, it just becomes a

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<v Joanne Lockwood>dream. That is true. That is true. And in my work, in my

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>practise as a breaking growth barrier or a transformative

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>coach, this is the main thing. I find that

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>people are capable, they have all the potential,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>but something is holding them back.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And when you help them to remove what is holding them

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>back, they unleash their potential. But the question is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>identification of what is holding them. And I find

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>that most of the people, or majority of the people, and even the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>coaches to a large extent, falter over here. They don't

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>realise we live in two worlds simultaneously. The

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>external World, which is the world in which we are born, we

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And our inner world, our inner world of love, our inner world

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of aspirations, our inner world of beauty,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Our inner world drives that external world. A lot of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>what you're saying there relates to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>spirituality, doesn't it? It's the inner sense of self, our

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<v Joanne Lockwood>inner peace, our inner happiness. And something that I think is lost in the Western

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<v Joanne Lockwood>world often is spirituality. We get confused between

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<v Joanne Lockwood>religion and spirituality and being in connection with

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<v Joanne Lockwood>ourselves, with our surroundings, with the people around us. How do you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>start to understand that aspect of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>your culture? And how do you use that cultural element to sort

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<v Joanne Lockwood>of develop your thinking in terms of business? First of all,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I would like to make a small correction. The west has not

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>lost spirituality. West is equally spiritual

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>like the East. Only thing is, spirituality is a spectrum.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You might be standing on a starting station, I might be

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>standing on a station which is much more advanced. But you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>are also journeying. So am I. That is the east and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the West. Spirituality is an inherent part of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>human existence. Now why do I say

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Suzhou? There are three words.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Spirit, spiritual

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and spirituality. You agree with me. We all have

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>souls. Yeah, I'm not religious, but I believe that I have a soul.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Yes, you have a soul. I'm not talking of religion, I'm just not

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>talking of religion. And spirituality and religion, they're two different things.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You have a soul. That is the spirit. That is the spirit

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in whatever. It gets

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>poured, it's got poured in the human body. So the human

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>body becomes spiritual. And when we humans with

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the soul in our body, we start walking

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>from gross selfishness. Me, me, me,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I, I, I to gross

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>selflessness. We are us.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>This journey is called spirituality. Why? Because what are the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>characteristics of the spirit? Love,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>mutuality, refulgence, intelligence, wisdom,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>good for all. And what are the characteristics of the body?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>multiplication. The body does not know a fourth thing. This is the way

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>nature has made us. And in between the body and the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>soul is our mind. The thought

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>process which keeps on oscillating between

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>your reaction would be selfish. And if the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>selfless. So if you map your thoughts and actions for

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>24 hours, you will find inconsistency

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in them. I think you can tell when an organisation or

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<v Joanne Lockwood>an individual as a soul operate

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and it's, I think for me a soul goes beyond the content,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>a restraint. It's soul is a bit, it's about your inner self, your inner truth,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>out of your soul. And I often see this where I'm dealing with people

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And I see great examples when people do that and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I feel rewarded by interacting with those people. Jo,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>an organisation like the human body is divided in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>three parts, the soul, the mind

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and the body. Similarly, an organisation

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is divided in three parts the people. They are the soul of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>organisation. On top of the people is the culture of the organisation

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and on top of the culture is the business, the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>transactional business which we do buying, selling,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>reporting, controlling relationships.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Now the people, their

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>values, their thoughts, they drive the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strategies are ethical or so the challenge arises, you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>know, in modern day management is they

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>don't integrate the three, you got to integrate the three,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you got to look at the larger picture, the whole picture. You've got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to apply systems thinking, see what is impacting

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>what and then take actions in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>business also know the chaos theory equally applies. But then

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>today, unfortunately, our managers and leaders are so short

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>sighted, they're so impatient,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>they want profits, they don't want to create value

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>for society. And if you're ethical, which means you got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the right culture and the right culture means if you have the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>team, then you start building value for

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the society. And now you'll agree with me,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Jo, there are no free lunches. If you give something to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>someone, they would respond. So when you add value to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>society, you enter a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>very different league of business. Look at Apple, they added value

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to society. Look at Disney, Walt Disney, he added value

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to society. Look at Google, they added value to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>society. How can leaders in

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<v Joanne Lockwood>organisations reconnect with this inner

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<v Joanne Lockwood>consciousness and awareness? Because I think sometimes

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<v Joanne Lockwood>what happens is we get caught up in our day to day

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<v Joanne Lockwood>activities. You mentioned becoming short sighted, becoming impatient,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>becoming target driven, becoming financial outcome

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<v Joanne Lockwood>driven and lose sight of the people. How do we

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<v Joanne Lockwood>step back? And when we, you know, hopefully we

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<v Joanne Lockwood>realise one day that we have lost sight, how do we stop

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and go back, figure it out again? Before I answer that question,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>let me share a very important empirical

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>research results. You see, because of physics, chemistry,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the science which we have been following for the last hundred years.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>We have become very data oriented in our thought

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>process. Anything subjective has taken

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a backseat. Now, to get that subjectiveness back, I would like

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to present this data. It's a research done by

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Sisodia Raj. Sisodia was

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a professor in Wharton School and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the research is called Friends of Endearment. Now what

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>he did was he selected around 60

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>odd groups across the world which comprised of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>S&P 500, the companies which were there on the S&P

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>500 and companies which also fell in the great to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>great Brit Greater index. And he shortlisted

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>them on the basis of the human

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>values they were following. If they were following human

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>values in their business strategies, he shortlisted

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>them. So he made a group of 60 odd companies who were

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>following human values and business strategies and then he

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>did an analysis of the valuation which they had

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>achieved. Visa, Wiz S&P 500 average

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and the good to great average. Jo, you'll

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>be surprised. These companies who were following human values, they

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>had grown by 15x over a period of 10

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>years in comparison. Why? I offer a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>simple explanation for that. We got to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>look at business differently. What is business? Business

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is a socioeconomic

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>relationship between three sets of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>people. Relationship between three sets of people.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And who are the three sets? The people

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>who establish the business, the owners, people who support

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the business, workers, banks, stakeholders.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>The third set, people who

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>consume the services and the products of the business.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>These are the three sets of people who come together and make a business

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>successful. And why does a business become

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>successful when these three sets are together?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Because they are helping each other to help themselves. This is very

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>important. They're helping each other to help themselves.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And since business is a socioeconomic

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>relationship between three sets of human beings,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>so anything and everything which applies to a human being would also

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>apply there. I ask everyone a simple question. You go to Harrods, it's

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the world renowned store, right? You buy

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>something from there, you say, I've got it from Harrods. If

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the sales girl or the sales man

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>misbehaves with you, shows you up,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>says, this is not a store for you, will you go back to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Harrods? You will not. It's happened in India,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>like the Indian kings, you know, they were very rich

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>when they used to go to England or Europe. Like this is a case

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of, I think the Collier king of Collier. He went to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Europe, went to the Rolls Royce showroom, he was shooed

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>away. Hey, hey, man, brown skin, go away, go away, you can't afford

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>it. He was insulted. Then he said, buy all

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the cars in the showroom and tells us, ADC

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>make the payment in cash. The salesman was taken aback. The manager

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>was taken aback. They used to sell one car a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>month. Now here's a man standing saying, okay, buy 50

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>cars. And in front of them he says, now use them to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>pick up the waste in my kingdom.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So obviously the Rolls Royce guys got disturbed. They said, what

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>are cars which are supposed to be the premium cars, luxury

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>cars, only the who's who use them

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and they are going to be used as municipal vans to pick up the trash

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of the city. They came and said, sorry and all that stuff, you know,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and he said, okay, okay, I'll not do it. But this was an example of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>relationship going bad or making a relation, not

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>focusing on the relationship. So personally, I believe whatever

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>applies to human beings equally applies to businesses. Anecdote

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<v Joanne Lockwood>story it's basically saying that you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>have to value people and the relationship

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<v Joanne Lockwood>because that is your brand, what your organisation stands

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<v Joanne Lockwood>for and how it will be judged. And if you treat people

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<v Joanne Lockwood>badly, you treat your customers without respect,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>then that sets the value of your brand. So when we

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<v Joanne Lockwood>talk about these various initiatives in business, diversity, inclusion, all

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<v Joanne Lockwood>these buzzwords we talk about, it's about how

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<v Joanne Lockwood>we treat people, how we make people feel about

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<v Joanne Lockwood>ourselves as an individual and ourselves as a brand, as an

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<v Joanne Lockwood>organisation. And it's what we stand for, which is part of what

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<v Joanne Lockwood>you're saying there. Because if a Rolls Royce is

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<v Joanne Lockwood>treated as a rubbish collection, it shows that's the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>value you associate with that brand. And that came from the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>way you were treated by the person you dealt with, not by the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>organisation, but by the person you dealt with. Because they set face off

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the brand, don't they? You're absolutely right. You're absolutely right. And the other thing

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>which leaders got to recognise,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>are they playing a game for immediate results or

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>are they playing a game for long term results? If they're playing the game

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>for immediate results, they could win,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>they could be rewarded, awarded, everything. But what happens tomorrow?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You know, surprisingly, I was reading somewhere, Google,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>when they have the meetings, they don't talk on the numbers, they don't talk

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>about money, they talk of what value would they be adding in the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>coming year to the product and

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<v Joanne Lockwood>what we often do is we focus on the wrong output.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>What are we trying to add? Is it just shareholder value

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<v Joanne Lockwood>or as you say, about

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<v Joanne Lockwood>creating something that's valuable to the world, the human species? It's

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>actually both, you know, within the organisation, you've got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to Create value for each other. Values you see, like a house.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You don't. A stack of bricks does not build a house.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You need cement or glue to put the bricks

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>together and then it becomes a house. So in the team

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>environment, you need ethics and values

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to bind people together into a team. You see, a person who

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is straightforward, believes in honesty, believes in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>truthfulness, believes in transparency. Do you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>think the person can work with someone

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>who believes in nothing of these? Not really. Even if he or she takes

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the job, that will only be temporary because the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>needs might be surpassing, their needs might be surpassing, must be

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>so pressing that they accept the job, but they leave

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the company at the first option. And leaders got to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>realise one thing, that losing a million

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>not so bad into losing a good worker. Yes,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>yes. It's like the military thing, isn't it? A plane is replaceable

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<v Joanne Lockwood>but the pilot is not right. Exactly. This is a brilliant example.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I remember hearing one of the top

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>industrialists of India in our management conference,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>he said, when I make a loss of 10 million,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I don't sleep for 10 nights. But when my senior manager

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>leaves me, I don't sleep for 10 months. People said,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>why? He said, you're forgetting one thing. He was the guy who

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>was producing the results for me. He has left

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>me and joined someone else with him. He has

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>taken all the trade secrets of mine. He knows exactly my

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>weaknesses and strengths. To retain my position, I will need to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>work double and triple because now I also need to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>counter what he could do, which makes the situation more complex and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>difficult. So the system, you know of the pink slip.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I don't like your face. Here's the pink slip. It's

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>having its own repercussions. I'm a great believer that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>inherently human beings are

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<v Joanne Lockwood>positive, want to contribute, want to do a great job, want to

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<v Joanne Lockwood>do great work. And it's often down to how they're

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<v Joanne Lockwood>treated, how they're interacted with. It sets the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>tone of their own sort of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>commitment and how they interact with organisations. I often feel that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>whilst the person has a knowledge that is valuable,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>I always see it as a personal failure if I'm not

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<v Joanne Lockwood>able to work with that person for a positive result.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>And it's not, as I say, it's not selfishly about what they. Their

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<v Joanne Lockwood>skills and knowledge. It's about the human side. I want that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>person to succeed and if they're not succeeding, what can I

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<v Joanne Lockwood>do to change that? It's kind of the attitude. I Now let me take it

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>as if a leader was asking Me this question, right? What

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>can I do to change that thing? The question is, how are you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>connecting with the person? Now let me get some neurobiology. The

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>prefrontal cortex, which is the executive brain, the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>amygdala, which is the emotional brain. Now what happens?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I am entering the cabin and I know my boss shouts

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>at me, it causes pain. Now,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>since we are hardwired to avoid

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>pain in any and every circumstance,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the prefrontal cortex shuts off, amygdala takes

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>over. That's the emotional brain. And the emotional

422
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>brain knows only three things. Fight,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>flight or freeze, turn on. My boss is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>going on for half an hour. You did this, you did that. You should have

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>done this, you should have done that. You are a fool. Blah, blah, blah, blah,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>blah, blah, blah, blah. Nothing is registering because

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>my prefrontal cortex is shut down.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>If the leader realises this thing,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>recognises this thing and says, okay,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>come in, let's have a talk, as you rightly said

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>earlier and says, okay, Sandeep, the target

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>was this. You could not achieve it. But whatever you have achieved,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>that's great, tell me the reason of how can I help

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you? What should we do so that the next time you will achieve

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the target? Because his ranting was also to achieve the target.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>The goalpost is not shifting. Only the style of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>interacting with me is shifting. Let me share a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>life example with you. There was a company, they hired

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>me to help them to bring the right energies into the right place. They

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>were at 800 million.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>That was their turnover. They wanted to increase the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>turnover to 1600 million in one

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>year. And there was a market, there was a market,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>but this 100% growth had rattled the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>entire team. Because this team was coming from a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>government setup where 5 to 10% growth was

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a growth to celebrate and party. So when we went there, so

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>what they told us, me and my team, that

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>look, the energy is very low. You do something,

450
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>give them a motivation, talk, do this, do that, et cetera, et

451
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>cetera, and make sure that they are full of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>energy. So we went there, we used

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>certain techniques and then we realised the power. The problem is not the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>energy is low, the power is. The problem is something else.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>People are not feeling

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>wanted, people are not feeling a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>part of the organisation. People are not feeling being

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>heard, they are not feeling important. So we got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>them into a room, used a lot of techniques

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>where we got them to define their

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>vision, their mission, their

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>values, as a collaborative team where each

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and every member of the 32

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>people, 32 people team participated.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Now, this thing did three things. Jo Number one,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>it created a bond between the 32 people. And since the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>bond was created and sub teams were created and they were helping each

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>other, so the probability of something slipping between two chairs

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and no one bending to pick it up got eradicated.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Since the values, vision and mission were created by

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the entire 32, they became committed to it. And I did a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>very simple thing. I said, okay, you guys tell me, what are the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strengths of your organisation? So 5, 6, 7,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>8, 9, 10 strengths came. I said, okay, brilliant.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Every day you come to office. Yes, Sir. Give me three strengths which

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you bring to office. So now 33 people into

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>three was 99 strengths were above.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Well, some would be duplicate, et cetera. Or earlier they said

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>10 and now they were unique for 35 or 40

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strengths. Say look guys, if you join hands, it's not 10, it's

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>35 strengths you have. And with 35

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strengths, can you achieve the 100% growth?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Yes, we can. And they achieved 90%

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of that. That's a huge, huge thing

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to celebrate. This assignment was done around two years

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>back. I was talking to the CEO

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the other day. The energy is still high. So when

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you bind people together, you show them a path. You don't

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>micromanage, you treat them well,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you give them a good culture, a good atmosphere. People perform.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And the manager's got to understand when someone commits a mistake, he

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>or she knows that they have committed a mistake. So don't

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>rub it in. You mentioned in some of the notes you put together before the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>show about you called it total worldliness

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<v Joanne Lockwood>as opposed to un worldliness. How do you frame that

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<v Joanne Lockwood>about? There are three words.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Worldliness, gross worldliness. You only think of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>material, nothing else than the material. And you can go to any

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>extent to achieve that material. So

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>values, love, mutuality, nothing

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>comes into play. If need be, you could kill, you could rob, you could do

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>anything to achieve the material. That's the gross

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>worldliness. On the other hand is gross

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>unworldliness. Now what is that unworldliness? Hey, I don't

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>want it. You first. You. No, no, no, no. I'll

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>sacrifice, I'll sacrifice, I'll sacrifice. No, you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>got to protect your self interest. So that is gross

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>unworldliness. And the third thing is a better

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>worldliness where you balance both the things. You come to the centre

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>point, the midpoint, where you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>apply the principle of self

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>preservation, self protection, self

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>defence. When I say this thing, it does not allow me to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>harm anyone, to protect myself and create a world on the basis of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>love, mutuality, where there's an opportunity

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>for everyone to educate themselves, to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>live healthy, to work, to unleash their

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>potential and live peacefully and happy. I

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>know this might sound like a utopian idea,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>but then we got to have a goal to move

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>towards to do something. So this is the reason I say better.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Worldliness is my goal. The problem we face as a human

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<v Joanne Lockwood>species often is these. You mentioned the,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>the amygdala, the fight, flight, freeze, the vagus

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<v Joanne Lockwood>nerve. Our human psyche is geared up

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<v Joanne Lockwood>against self protection and when we feel threatened or

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<v Joanne Lockwood>when we experience things that are outside of our control,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>we retreat back into this defensive mode.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>In our business world, in society,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>ourselves, before we become. Before the

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<v Joanne Lockwood>amygdala kicks in basically before. Or we become emotionally driven.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Well achieving a hundred percent state is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>impossible. But yes,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>controlling yourself is possible. And the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>entire Indian ancient wisdom

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>focuses around this thing, you know, they are, it's a four

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>step formula, you know, which I propose.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Number one, attention management. Learn

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to manage your attention. Learn to manage your attention. Because without your attention,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>without focusing on anything, you cannot do anything. Attention

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is fundamental. Once you learn to manage your attention, learn to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>observe properly. Now Jo, you would say we are

543
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>observing properly. I know there's a book over there and there's a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>cat over there. When I say observe properly,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>observe externally and internally. Because whenever

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>there's a thought, there's a stimulus, there's something

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>first. It manifests and reacts internally. It's an internal

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>bodily reaction which manifests externally. For

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>example, if you don't, you don't like someone and that person

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is approaching, is coming towards you, you'll have a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strange feeling, some part of your body would twitch or would get,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>what should I say, might just get agitated,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>your heartbeat might start running fast, whatever it could be. And

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>then you greet that person with us

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>with a grumpy face. Now

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>so this is the observation part, right? Or you know you're going to blow up,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you're going to shout because your heart has started beating.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Now between the beat, between the beating of your heart and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>shouting, there is a small gap. So the third

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>stage is pause. Put your finger on the gap. If you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>observe between the internal reaction and the external

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>manifestation, there's a small gap, that is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>pause, practise pause. Now the pause could be for

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a fraction of a second, 100th of a second. Catch that

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>point and when you catch that point,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>amygdala opens the doors, lets go of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you and the prefrontal cortex receives the stimulus.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And now you say, okay, now you say that look,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I was angry with this guy for what he did in 1960.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>But today is 2024. The man could have

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>changed, the woman could have changed. She might be coming with

572
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a proposal for me. That is the prefrontal cortex thinking, the fight is

573
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>not over over here. The fourth point is

574
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>acceptance, which is the mother of everything

575
00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:51.023
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>except reality as it is without any riders, without

576
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>any justifications, without any excuses. For example,

577
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I have failed in an exam and Jo says, sandeep, tell

578
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>me, how was the result? I cannot lie

579
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to Jo. Right, that's a Jo, I failed.

580
00:36:06.295 --> 00:36:09.535
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You know, it was bad luck what had happened. I'll cook up a

581
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>story and tell Jo, this is the way we accept reality.

582
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>99.9% cases, I say,

583
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Jo says, what's the result, Jo? I have failed.

584
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Be real now. The act of failing is causing me

585
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>pain. I'm not hardwired for pain. So

586
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>automatically I start thinking of

587
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>why did I fail? What can I do so I don't fail again? Whereas in

588
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the first case, bad luck, I met with an

589
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>accident. I slept, I was having fever. I am shifting

590
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>my attention from the act of failure

591
00:36:46.455 --> 00:36:49.911
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to something else and I never find the

592
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>solution. So therefore I call this thing

593
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>AOPA formula. And

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I've learned it from life. I've learned it from life. So if

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a person follows this thing, practises this, I can assure the

596
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>person 60 to 70% catch of the

597
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>amygdala. What Cease. I'm a disciple of

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<v Joanne Lockwood>that thinking as well. So I would. I'm a great believer that I

599
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<v Joanne Lockwood>haven't failed an exam. I've learned what I didn't

600
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<v Joanne Lockwood>know. And I also the personal

601
00:37:21.329 --> 00:37:25.073
<v Joanne Lockwood>accountability. I could, I could do, do better, I can learn better, I could be

602
00:37:25.089 --> 00:37:28.665
<v Joanne Lockwood>more prepared, I can learn more. So, yeah, I always think of as

603
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<v Joanne Lockwood>humans, we don't learn through getting things right,

604
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<v Joanne Lockwood>we learn through mistakes, we learn through trial and error, we learn through

605
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<v Joanne Lockwood>situations. And as I often say as a young

606
00:37:40.009 --> 00:37:43.721
<v Joanne Lockwood>child, we don't learn to walk the first time we stand

607
00:37:43.753 --> 00:37:47.569
<v Joanne Lockwood>up, we have to fall over, we have to bang our head,

608
00:37:47.617 --> 00:37:51.177
<v Joanne Lockwood>we have to hit our knee, we have to cry and scream and be picked

609
00:37:51.201 --> 00:37:54.923
<v Joanne Lockwood>up by a mother. And then we learn about balance.

610
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<v Joanne Lockwood>Then we learn about moving on a foot in front of the other foot. And

611
00:37:58.547 --> 00:38:02.203
<v Joanne Lockwood>then we become proficient enough to be able to run. And we don't run

612
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<v Joanne Lockwood>first time. So everything we do in life should be seen as

613
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<v Joanne Lockwood>continual learning and enhancement. If we see failure as a

614
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<v Joanne Lockwood>setback, we should see failure as an opportunity. And I know that's

615
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<v Joanne Lockwood>very cliche and very easy to say but we have to make

616
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<v Joanne Lockwood>mistakes to learn, to grow. I totally agree with you. You don't have to

617
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>make mistakes. You make mistakes. You see, because you intentionally. You never

618
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>make a mistake, Jo. It's only in hindsight you

619
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>say that was a mistake because at that point of time, when you took that

620
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>decision, it was the best decision which you

621
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>could have taken based on the facts. Available at that time. That was the decision

622
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<v Joanne Lockwood>you made. So it's not a mistake. It's only when

623
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you have grown in wisdom, you have grown in intelligence, you have grown

624
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in experiences, you look back and say, hey, I committed a

625
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>mistake. Mistake is a wrong word. No, you never made a mistake. You will

626
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>make a mistake. If by looking back you don't learn

627
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the lesson, that will be a mistake. Because

628
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>that time you did not have the resources. Today you have the resources,

629
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>resources of experience. This is what I mean. I agree. Yeah,

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<v Joanne Lockwood>it's. I think if we all were able to frame it that way,

631
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<v Joanne Lockwood>because one of the other things I find in the work I do is that

632
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<v Joanne Lockwood>one of the biggest barriers is the fear of getting it wrong or the fear

633
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<v Joanne Lockwood>of upsetting somebody or the fear of not having all the answers.

634
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<v Joanne Lockwood>And it can hold us back, create limiting beliefs. But also from an

635
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<v Joanne Lockwood>inclusion, from a culture perspective, people are so worried

636
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<v Joanne Lockwood>about upsetting somebody else that they're not.

637
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<v Joanne Lockwood>They almost back away rather than engage and have a conversation. I think

638
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<v Joanne Lockwood>that's, that's a challenge we've all got to try and overcome is put ourselves

639
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<v Joanne Lockwood>into that stretch zone or put ourselves into a position where

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<v Joanne Lockwood>we, we can deal with discomfort. What you're saying is absolutely right.

641
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>You know, as coaches, right,

642
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>we know that we need to

643
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>connect with the heart. And you can connect

644
00:40:02.793 --> 00:40:06.233
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>with the heart only when you discard. The element of

645
00:40:06.289 --> 00:40:09.855
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>judgement in your judgement is a product of the brain,

646
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of the mind. So first of all, we got to. That's the, that's what

647
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I do. Discard judgement. Open your heart.

648
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>No one has done any mistake. They've experienced certain things

649
00:40:22.763 --> 00:40:25.963
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>which might have worked for them in the long run, might not have worked for

650
00:40:25.979 --> 00:40:28.667
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>them in the. A lot of things I did didn't work for me. When I

651
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>look back, everything worked for me because those mistakes were

652
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>what gave me the insight what I should do, what I should not do.

653
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So. Okay, now coming back to your question. As coaches,

654
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I always say, open your heart, connect with the person, be a

655
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>good listener, just listen and listen to them. And

656
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>there have been times, Jo, where my client

657
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>has spoken to me for an hour and

658
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>all I'VE done is five, six times. Tell me

659
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>more or that's all. But let me share a case with

660
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you. There was a client, that girl called me for one hour. She kept on

661
00:41:06.215 --> 00:41:09.903
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>ranting on the phone, this is this, this is this, this is this, blah blah,

662
00:41:09.919 --> 00:41:12.875
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>blah, blah, blah, blah blah. I kept on saying.

663
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And she said, sir, what is your assessment? I said, you don't have a

664
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>purpose in life. She got very angry, she banged the

665
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>phone down, okay, after 10 days she calls

666
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>me sir. I was thinking, you are right, I don't have a purpose in life.

667
00:41:28.215 --> 00:41:31.991
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Would you help me to work on my purpose?

668
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And today I think I must have done a

669
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>number of sessions with her. She's a changed person. And I'm also

670
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>helping her in setting up a business because I'm a chartered

671
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>accountant, right? So I understand the business dynamics. And she has become a sort of

672
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>say permanent client of mine as on date. So somewhere, you know, we

673
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>coaches need to get out of that

674
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>fear of displeasing the client because

675
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>truths are hard to swallow. But at the same time we got to be

676
00:42:02.405 --> 00:42:05.909
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>polite, we got to be diplomatic and all

677
00:42:05.957 --> 00:42:09.269
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>truths need not be told at the same time or at the wrong

678
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>time. We got to be mindful. Is the

679
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>client prepared way to

680
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>listen to that truth at this point of time or no? I know

681
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>probably certain coaching philosophies would say no, this is not done. But

682
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>then whatever serves my client,

683
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>whatever helps my client, I think that's the best philosophy. Eventually

684
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<v Joanne Lockwood>you're a charged accountant by profession of law, due

685
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<v Joanne Lockwood>respect, a long standing, you've been in the game a fair while.

686
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<v Joanne Lockwood>How have you seen the world of

687
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<v Joanne Lockwood>commerce and work evolve over the last 20 or

688
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<v Joanne Lockwood>30 years? Okay, let me give the story of last 40

689
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>years. I became a chartered accountant in 79. The world was

690
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>very different. We didn't even have the calculators then. So you can,

691
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in today's terms, it was very primitive. I used the word primitive. You know, when

692
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I became a chartered accountant, I asked myself, why have you become a

693
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>chartered accountant? The traditional practise does not enamor you, does not interest

694
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you. Those were the days in India when management consultancy was coming

695
00:43:13.499 --> 00:43:16.695
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and I jumped at it. I'll answer your question also, right? And

696
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>soon I realised while working with the best,

697
00:43:20.755 --> 00:43:24.579
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>that the best of projects, best of strategies, best of

698
00:43:24.627 --> 00:43:28.435
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>everything fails. Why? Because of one man

699
00:43:28.475 --> 00:43:31.731
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>who's driving the project or the problem. So that got me

700
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>interested into the human dimension. Now when we come to the human

701
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>dimension, there are two things very important. Excuse me, there Are two things very

702
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>important for the human being to unleash its

703
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>full potential or live by his or her full potential.

704
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>One of the values, aspirations, dreams, self

705
00:43:50.391 --> 00:43:53.823
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>management tools and techniques which come from

706
00:43:53.879 --> 00:43:57.671
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>spirituality. Because human beings are a

707
00:43:57.703 --> 00:44:01.463
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>microcosm of the macrocosm that's on one side, on the other

708
00:44:01.519 --> 00:44:05.271
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>side, yes, it knocks. You

709
00:44:05.303 --> 00:44:09.119
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>need money to survive. And this is the reason

710
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I say we live in two worlds simultaneously. If our inner world

711
00:44:12.935 --> 00:44:16.591
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>grows without a support of

712
00:44:16.623 --> 00:44:20.335
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the external world, we become lame ducks.

713
00:44:20.415 --> 00:44:24.071
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Anyone can come and kick us and kill us. And if our

714
00:44:24.183 --> 00:44:27.437
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>external world grows without

715
00:44:27.591 --> 00:44:30.965
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>corresponding growth of the inner world, we become

716
00:44:31.785 --> 00:44:35.569
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>man eaters. We'll do anything for survival.

717
00:44:35.657 --> 00:44:39.165
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So now this is where the spirituality, human potential,

718
00:44:39.665 --> 00:44:43.241
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>economics came together. And I being a chartered accountant, that made it much

719
00:44:43.273 --> 00:44:46.337
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>easier for me. So I say, okay, I understand the top line, I understand the

720
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>bottom line and what happens between the two lines,

721
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>right, I can help you in that. So spirituality

722
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and economics, when they come together, that is the time

723
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>human beings flourish. If the church,

724
00:45:01.717 --> 00:45:05.109
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the temples, the everyone priests, they want

725
00:45:05.157 --> 00:45:08.853
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>money because that is the way life functions. Now

726
00:45:08.869 --> 00:45:12.181
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the question is whether they're greedy or not, that's a different thing. So I'll not

727
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>bring that into it, otherwise I'll keep going on and on. Now coming to

728
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the transition, the journey, how the businesses have changed. The way I'm looking at

729
00:45:19.829 --> 00:45:23.305
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>it, 80s, it was all about the bottom bottom

730
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>line. How much profit have you made, period?

731
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>This was a year of turmoil because subjective thought,

732
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>subjective thinking, consciousness, awareness was all thrown out

733
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>of the window in the 80s, 70s, 80s, 60s.

734
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And if you go back to the 1960s, there

735
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>was an article in Harvard Business Review, it

736
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is okay to cheat in business. So that was the

737
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>scenario that then the repercussions came.

738
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Then I saw the triple profit line coming in.

739
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Planet people profits. Then came

740
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the technology age, the 90s,

741
00:46:04.540 --> 00:46:08.257
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>2000s. So we have, we moved from the industrial era to

742
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the information era. Everything changed, started changing. Computers

743
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>came in, SOPs started being developed, SAP came into

744
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>picture. Big organisations came in to produce

745
00:46:18.899 --> 00:46:22.723
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>computers. And after the computers

746
00:46:22.899 --> 00:46:26.255
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>came the information, they came the knowledge age.

747
00:46:26.915 --> 00:46:30.215
<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Today knowledge is the most important and whenever a new wave comes,

748
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>it comes like a tsunami. It disrupts a lot of things, but at

749
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>the same time it also constructs a lot of things. So I've seen the

750
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>transitioning from the industrial era to the IT

751
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>era, to the knowledge era

752
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and now to the virtual reality. When I started my practise,

753
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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I had to count the numbers, run my finger

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>on the line of numbers and count manually Today,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>AI gives me the power to cheque the way Jo is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>counting his numbers while he is 7,000, 8,000 miles

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>away from me. Yes, now the question comes. 70% of the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>people suffer from the ostrich

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>syndrome. When changes happen, they fail to end. Why?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>They love their comfort zone and their mind says, come on,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>sleep. It'll pass, it'll pass. Nothing is permanent

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in the world. It'll pass. Mind doesn't tell them that. Look, gentlemen, you are

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>standing on step one and what this wave is doing is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>taking you to step two. Step two will pass, but then it'll

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>take the person to step four and you'll be left behind.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And to catch up, you've got to get out of your comfort zone, you've got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to shun the ostrich syndrome. You've got to look around, accept

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>reality as it is. And now let me come to the present

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>day thing. This, all this mental challenges

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>which we are facing is I believe, who has said this is a

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>century of mental challenges,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>mental issues, mental epidemic.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Why? Because 90% people

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>are dissatisfied with themselves. I'll say they are dissatisfied with

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>themselves because they don't know who they are, what they want.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>They are just copying what their friends do,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>what their icons do, what the rich do and

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>they're emulating. They got to recognise who they are. And let me tell you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>one thing is that every human being

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>is absolutely unique and will

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>always be unique. Do you know the reason, Jo? From the moment

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<v Joanne Lockwood>we're born, our lived experiences, the people we interact with, our

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<v Joanne Lockwood>DNA, everything diverges.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Exactly. The set of parents, right? The set of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>parents are unique. Their set of

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>parents were unique. Their set of parents were unique. Their set of parents

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>were unique. If you keep going back

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>and this uniqueness will not replicate going forward, there might

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>be people like you, but not

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>identical to. They will not be your clones.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>That takes us back to what we said at the beginning around our

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<v Joanne Lockwood>spirituality, our soul. Our soul is unique.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Yes. Who we are. Yes.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I usually ask people, I said, what is. What is something absolutely

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>unique about you? I can do this. I said, okay, if you can do this,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>so can I. How come you're unique or I got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>this strength? Okay, if you have, so does Jo, so

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>does, so does Jo has. So what is so unique about it?

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>So does Sally has, so does Rita has. I say

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>your strengths and weaknesses are unique and you've got to keep

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>on upskilling your strengths and reducing

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>your weaknesses. They say, why? I said, all

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>opportunities are in the external world. They're constantly going up,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>up, up. Becoming more complex, more complex, more complex. They got

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>a. They got a certain demand of strengths and weaknesses. Now your

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>strengths and weaknesses are not matching those demands.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>What is going to happen? Either you'll fail,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you'll not succeed, or your business

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>will slow down or your growth will slow down or totally cease if you

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>want to restart it. You got to work on yourself. You've got to

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>enhance your strengths, upskill yourself so you can stretch

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>your hand and capitalise on the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>opportunity which exists, which is offering itself

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to you. And deep. What an amazing conversation that I can

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<v Joanne Lockwood>carry on talking to you all day. How can people contact you? How do people

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>contact me? Okay, you see, till that time, till Covid had not come. Okay,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I'll be very honest. I had my own circle. I've been

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>practising for 40 years. So people knew about me

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>today, my old contacts, they contact me,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>they contact me through LinkedIn, they contact me through my

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>website and they contact me through word of mouth. And

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I believe that the word of mouth is the

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>most potent and the most important. I agree. I

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<v Joanne Lockwood>agree. Because it only means if someone is saying, okay,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you can go to Sandeep or rely on Sandeep. It means I have

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>made an ambassador. What of that person? An ambassador for me.

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>And this boy or girl, or man or woman would speak

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>to as many people as possible without

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>I pushing them to speak. So yes, definitely you got to be

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>visible on social media, which I am. Slash in

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>slash. Sandeep Guppta. Delhi

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>Slash. I got a YouTube channel

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>by Sandeep Guppta Live. My website is

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>guptasandeep.com and as you rightly sit

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>in the morning, I speak, I, I coach and I train

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>on growth and transformation and I help business leaders,

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>businesses and individuals in identifying

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>barriers, breaking them and creating meaningful futures for

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>them, their families and society. Nadeep. Thank

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<v Joanne Lockwood>you so much for your time and it's been an inspiration listening to you

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<v Joanne Lockwood>and sharing time with you today. Thank you. I really loved it. Thank

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<v Sandeep Amar Gupta>you very much. You were a brilliant host.

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<v Joanne Lockwood>As we bring this conversation to a close, I want to express

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<v Joanne Lockwood>my deepest gratitude to you, our listener, for lending

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<v Joanne Lockwood>your ear and heart to the cause of inclusion.

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