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Joanne Lockwood: Today is episode 189 with the
Joanne Lockwood: title Raising Vibrations Together, and I have
Joanne Lockwood: the absolute honour and privilege to welcome Dariya Krasnova.
Joanne Lockwood: Dariya is a holistic health advocate and co founder dedicated
Joanne Lockwood: to empowering others to heal, grow and embrace
Joanne Lockwood: their unique path to well being. When I asked Dariya to
Joanne Lockwood: describe her superpower, she said that it is championing others
Joanne Lockwood: authenticity and curiosity to follow, foster real human
Joanne Lockwood: connection and change. Hello, Dariya, welcome to the show.
Dariya Krasnova: Hi, Joanne, thanks for having me. So pleased to be here. And
Joanne Lockwood: we were chatting before we went live here. You found this podcast
Joanne Lockwood: using ChatGPT. That's fascinating. That's
Dariya Krasnova: correct. That's correct. That's the first time probably. I've used ChatGPT as a kind of
Dariya Krasnova: Google and I've asked it to find me podcast where it can be guessed.
Dariya Krasnova: And you were at the top, believe it or not. And I was like, that
Dariya Krasnova: sounds amazing. I know, it's incredible. I
Joanne Lockwood: suppose most of us who've run businesses and things, we spend so much time
Joanne Lockwood: think about Google search rankings and keywords and things.
Joanne Lockwood: And when you told me that, it made me think, hang on a minute, I've
Joanne Lockwood: got to think about AI as being my new search engine and
Joanne Lockwood: making sure I appeal. So it's fascinating to know that the
Joanne Lockwood: Inclusion Bites podcast is ranking top of ChatGPT.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah, absolutely. And I think there is a good kind of tendency or trend now
Dariya Krasnova: to be on the podcast. People would like to share their voice,
Dariya Krasnova: their opinions and kind of help other people empower them with
Dariya Krasnova: their own storeys. So I think it's great that your
Dariya Krasnova: podcast was actually, well, top one was the first one, so
Dariya Krasnova: I'm sure you get lots of great guests. Thanks, dude.
Dariya Krasnova: I. Yes, yeah, it's fascinating, it's fabulous. So
Joanne Lockwood: judging by your accent, you're not in Portsmouth, where I'm based in the uk.
Joanne Lockwood: Whereabouts in the world are you? So I'm based in Glasgow, Scotland
Dariya Krasnova: and I'm trying to integrate as much as I can, trying to put those
Dariya Krasnova: wee Scottish words in my accent. But originally I
Dariya Krasnova: was born in Soviet Union, kind of end of Soviet Union,
Dariya Krasnova: Russia. I'm almost 10,000 miles away here and
Dariya Krasnova: beautiful town called Vladivostok on the sea, near Japan and
Dariya Krasnova: Korea. So yeah, that's, that's where my roots are from. Right over the
Joanne Lockwood: East. East of Russia. That's. You're right, that is a. Well, a
Joanne Lockwood: long way away. 10,000 miles, as you say. The other side of the world. Almost.
Dariya Krasnova: Absolutely, yeah. Very, very far away. How
Joanne Lockwood: does. I'm fascinated. You don't mind me just diving and asking a few
Joanne Lockwood: questions about. So we. Do you remember your life
Joanne Lockwood: there very well? Yeah, yeah. I was born there
Dariya Krasnova: and I grew up there. So I spent the 20 years of my life
Dariya Krasnova: before I moved to Germany where I spent 10 years of my life
Dariya Krasnova: and then I've been here for just over six years. So I'm very
Dariya Krasnova: multi culty and I kind of don't consider myself
Dariya Krasnova: to belong to any race or any nationality.
Dariya Krasnova: I'm just thinking myself as a citizen of planet
Dariya Krasnova: Earth. Literally this is kind of embracing everything and everyone.
Joanne Lockwood: I love that. Yeah, I do consider myself a citizen of the, of the world
Joanne Lockwood: as well. I think life's too short really, to sort of put these artificial boundaries
Joanne Lockwood: on yourself and say, well, I, I'm this, I'm that. And sometimes it's, it's nice
Joanne Lockwood: to escape that definition. But also it's nice to have your cultural
Joanne Lockwood: heritage that anchor about where your roots are. If you like your family
Joanne Lockwood: or your heritage. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I
Dariya Krasnova: think, I think it's super important to have those cultural things
Dariya Krasnova: and like people embracing their culture and honouring their culture because
Dariya Krasnova: every culture is unique. But at the end of the day I believe that
Dariya Krasnova: we're actually all one. So we're all very interconnected.
Dariya Krasnova: So we should all be creating, co creating and
Dariya Krasnova: collaborating and just accept and embrace everyone's
Dariya Krasnova: uniqueness. So this is how I see the world. So
Joanne Lockwood: again, I'm not that familiar with Russia.
Joanne Lockwood: So right on the east coast, as you say, towards Japan,
Joanne Lockwood: how does that part of Russia differ from maybe the bit we hear on the
Joanne Lockwood: news all the time? The more western side of Russia, the Moscow, the St
Joanne Lockwood: Petersburg, the Baltic Russia? Good question. Well,
Dariya Krasnova: I left more than 13 years ago now. And I think
Dariya Krasnova: obviously Moscow is more kind of cosmopolitan. I've only been
Dariya Krasnova: a couple of times and that was like a transit journey and big cities
Dariya Krasnova: were never for me. I kind of never liked that kind of crazy lifestyle. And
Dariya Krasnova: so I was born in end office and were kind of
Dariya Krasnova: deemed to be criminal era. Well, it's always been, but it's kind of
Dariya Krasnova: deemed to be a bit crazy after the Soviet Union broke. And
Dariya Krasnova: so my childhood was kind of. Yeah, it was interesting
Dariya Krasnova: experience that only made me stronger actually. So yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: I can't really compare both sides of Russia because I've
Dariya Krasnova: never lived in Moscow and I've never lived in that part of the world
Dariya Krasnova: from. I know very little of what's happening right now. I only.
Dariya Krasnova: I don't have. Even my parents are here, so I don't have anyone in
Dariya Krasnova: Russia. I have like a couple of people that still keep in touch. I mean
Dariya Krasnova: they're just having a normal life because they're very far away
Dariya Krasnova: from all the nonsense that's happening that I obviously do not
Dariya Krasnova: support. Neither do they, but they,
Dariya Krasnova: yeah, they just leave their life as good as they can, you know.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. So why Glasgow? Was it just
Joanne Lockwood: put a pin in the map or you had something to draw you there? No,
Dariya Krasnova: no, no. I was dating a Scottish guy
Dariya Krasnova: for almost eight years. It was a long distance relationship. I met
Dariya Krasnova: him when I was in Germany and he was visiting Germany and
Dariya Krasnova: it didn't work out. That was a great lesson as well. So we split
Dariya Krasnova: up during COVID and then I met my fiance
Dariya Krasnova: and we've been together for almost four years now. And
Dariya Krasnova: it's all great. I'm always grateful for
Dariya Krasnova: every experiences, whether they're bad or good. There's always lessons learned.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. Basically a typical storey, a guy brought me to
Dariya Krasnova: Scotland but I didn't want to move. I kind of felt that Germany
Dariya Krasnova: was over for me. I kind of exhausted it and I wanted to
Dariya Krasnova: move somewhere and I did like Scotland because I visited a few times. So
Dariya Krasnova: I was like, yeah, why not? Even this is not going to work out. I'll
Dariya Krasnova: just stay in Scotland and see how it goes, you know, here I am. So
Joanne Lockwood: you travel for love and that sounds. That's fantastic. Even though the love didn't work
Joanne Lockwood: out but you found love again, which is the important thing,
Joanne Lockwood: if you don't mind me saying. Your English is really good with a really
Joanne Lockwood: beautiful Glaswegian accent as well. And you've obviously.
Joanne Lockwood: Did you speak English before you came to the UK much? Thanks. Thanks for the
Dariya Krasnova: compliment. First of all, well, yes and no. I
Dariya Krasnova: did learn English at school, but this is your basic one.
Dariya Krasnova: Always say that what you get taught at the uni or at school,
Dariya Krasnova: it's nothing compared to when you go into real life and you
Dariya Krasnova: kind of facing all the accents and different
Dariya Krasnova: pronunciations and words, they do not exist in the dictionary. And even
Dariya Krasnova: grammar is like slightly different from what you used to hear. It's
Dariya Krasnova: calls. So, yeah, I've kind of. Yeah, well,
Dariya Krasnova: I've always been drawn to languages. I speak three of three
Dariya Krasnova: languages. So, yeah, I think it's kind of one of the things that I actually
Dariya Krasnova: can learn and absorb and I'm quite good at. But
Dariya Krasnova: there's other things that I can process or my brain can't process at all,
Dariya Krasnova: which is absolutely fine. But, yeah, as I said, we're all. Unique because
Joanne Lockwood: the Glasgow accent is very distinct as a
Joanne Lockwood: regional dialect, isn't it? And some of the words and phrases within
Joanne Lockwood: Glasgow, again, very Glaswegian centric. And
Joanne Lockwood: it's. So I could tell your accent was probably from there.
Joanne Lockwood: I think I said to you at the beginning of the show, I was in
Joanne Lockwood: Edinburgh recently and that's a different accent again, it's a lot smoother and richer. Whereas
Joanne Lockwood: Glasgow. A hard accent, isn't it?
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. Oh, I've got a funny storey. Aggressive.
Dariya Krasnova: Totally, totally. And I have a funny storey about it. When I first started to.
Dariya Krasnova: Actually, when I first started to date the Scottish guy, he was.
Dariya Krasnova: Kept seeing that word I, but the I meant yes.
Dariya Krasnova: And I thought he was trying to start a sentence like I
Dariya Krasnova: was going on I something. So I thought it was like, I is me,
Dariya Krasnova: right? And I was like, he's weird. Like, why is he constantly saying I and
Dariya Krasnova: then nothing after that? It's like he's starting a sentence. So that
Dariya Krasnova: was weird. And then I remember being like in a taxi, first few times
Dariya Krasnova: and that guy would speak to her taxi driver and I would understand
Dariya Krasnova: nothing. I could probably understand, like, what word? Like football. Like, okay, they must
Dariya Krasnova: be talking about football. I was at like, God, like.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah, but now I can speak to a taxi driver, no problem.
Joanne Lockwood: You sound. Your accent is very class weighted and it sounds, you know,
Joanne Lockwood: very, very, very easy to listen to. So, yeah, now you've. As long
Dariya Krasnova: as you can understand me. As long as you can understand me. I can understand
Joanne Lockwood: it, yeah, perfectly. You have very little.
Joanne Lockwood: It sounds very native and I don't know if that's a compliment or not, but
Joanne Lockwood: it does, it sounds, it sounds really, really. I suppose, because Claspesian
Joanne Lockwood: dialect is very Strong, you say you've got the I and the
Joanne Lockwood: Ms. And there and all the other and the sort of. The Scottishness of the
Joanne Lockwood: enrichments of the. Of the. So, yeah, no, you've.
Joanne Lockwood: You've done well to become Scottish. Thanks. Integration.
Joanne Lockwood: Integration, yeah. Yeah, but that's not. That's another question, if you don't mind. Before we
Joanne Lockwood: get onto the. What you do. How. How did you find. So you obviously moved
Joanne Lockwood: from. From Russia to Germany, from Germany to Scotland. How.
Joanne Lockwood: How do you find it integrating? And you use the word integration. How did you
Joanne Lockwood: find that? Being a stranger and being. Finding. Belonging, I suppose, is the
Joanne Lockwood: word phrase I would use. Well, first, obviously, the biggest shock
Dariya Krasnova: was moving at the age of 20, just parking my suitcase and moving to
Dariya Krasnova: Germany, to Munich. And then Munich got a very strong
Dariya Krasnova: Bavarian accent. Although I did learn some German. Yeah, that
Dariya Krasnova: cultural shock. I first gravitated. It was
Dariya Krasnova: really, really hard. And I started to gravitate towards people from
Dariya Krasnova: Eastern Europe and people who spoke Russian, whether they were
Dariya Krasnova: from Russia, Ukraine, White Russia or anyone who would
Dariya Krasnova: speak Russian. You know, I was trying to kind of do this, but then I
Dariya Krasnova: quickly realised that this is just me trying to create a
Dariya Krasnova: safety bubble that's not gonna get me anywhere.
Dariya Krasnova: So I've actually integrated myself into that. Skinner
Dariya Krasnova: met someone who was studying at the uni and at that time was just still
Dariya Krasnova: studying, and I started to go out with students and they were all
Dariya Krasnova: very mixed. So it was Japan, Greece, Italy, Netherlands, St
Dariya Krasnova: States. And that was great to be kind of submerged in that kind of
Dariya Krasnova: lovely community of people from all over the world. And
Dariya Krasnova: we were all kind of watching football together. But if. If,
Dariya Krasnova: for example, Germany were playing German football team, we would
Dariya Krasnova: just all root for Germany, you know, and it's just. It was all
Dariya Krasnova: really nice and diverse and inclusive, you know, and
Dariya Krasnova: that helped a lot. And then just kind of trying not to think
Dariya Krasnova: where I'm from, to be honest. It's like, I don't think
Dariya Krasnova: it said, I don't think that, oh, I'm Russian and that means X, Y, Z.
Dariya Krasnova: No, I'm. I'm just a human living on planet Earth and just
Dariya Krasnova: trying to be authentic, you know. So, yeah, I've kind of
Dariya Krasnova: gradually managed to integrate. I obviously did have sometimes
Dariya Krasnova: people being silly or assuming things about me, but I never took it
Dariya Krasnova: personally because at the end of the day, that's. That's not my problem. If someone
Dariya Krasnova: wants to then kind of put badges and
Dariya Krasnova: labels on me, that tells nothing about me. That just tells that that person,
Dariya Krasnova: for some reason wants to label Me as X, Y, Z. And that's not my
Dariya Krasnova: problem. So if that's uncomfortable, I would remove myself. Yeah.
Dariya Krasnova: But I would never take it personally. Well said. Well said. Yeah, well said. That
Joanne Lockwood: is. That is. That is what I would agree with. So, yeah,
Joanne Lockwood: absolutely. So, so what do you do these days? I mean, we
Joanne Lockwood: titled this podcast Raising Vibrations Together. So,
Joanne Lockwood: yeah, what gets you up in the morning? What gets you excited?
Dariya Krasnova: The business I'm building together with my fiance, so we're kind of ying and
Dariya Krasnova: yang in this one, which is funny, actually, because he's got
Dariya Krasnova: loads of kind of feminine energy and I've got quite a lot of masculine energy,
Dariya Krasnova: but I'm a female and he's male, but it's really, really kind of
Dariya Krasnova: cool how it works. And he's bringing food on the table whilst
Dariya Krasnova: I'm building Vibe Insight. Vibe Insight is going to be a
Dariya Krasnova: platform that educates people about holistic health, complementary and alternative
Dariya Krasnova: treatments, and helps people find the right treatment and
Dariya Krasnova: the right practitioner, but also self help and self tips
Dariya Krasnova: with the immediate things that people can do, literally from today
Dariya Krasnova: to improve their health. And that goes from anything from
Dariya Krasnova: neurodiverse. Enter any conditions, heart,
Dariya Krasnova: high blood pressure, Parkinson's, any condition you can
Dariya Krasnova: think of. And we want to create also a community that's based on
Dariya Krasnova: love, compassion, kindness and gratitude. And, yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: everyone to be authentic, everyone to be included and
Dariya Krasnova: celebrated and support each other, you know, so that's kind
Dariya Krasnova: of a bit of a further step. But, yeah, so we're building the
Dariya Krasnova: platform at the moment and I'm submerged into that in a
Dariya Krasnova: beautiful world of holistic health and kind
Dariya Krasnova: of spirituality, but also intertwined with quantum physics, which
Dariya Krasnova: sounds scary, but it's not. It's actually beautiful. I've got to ask
Joanne Lockwood: quantum physics, so in what way? So you talk about the
Joanne Lockwood: vibration, so it's about the atoms, is it? At the quantum
Joanne Lockwood: level? Yes. So basically everything is energy, frequency and
Dariya Krasnova: vibration. We are 99.99999
Dariya Krasnova: empty space. Like I'm an empty space. So when someone says, you're
Dariya Krasnova: nothing, I totally agree. I am nothing because I'm an
Dariya Krasnova: empty space. Basically,
Dariya Krasnova: you are the energy that you know how people come into the room and you
Dariya Krasnova: either feel better or you feel worse. Like, this is all real. This is not
Dariya Krasnova: a bull stuff. This is all quantum physics. So the
Dariya Krasnova: reality we see around us, this is all based on energy, frequency and
Dariya Krasnova: vibration. So it's very powerful tools that we can have on a daily
Dariya Krasnova: basis, make conscious decision and prove our life of our health
Dariya Krasnova: and physical and mental and spiritual. So quantum
Dariya Krasnova: physics got some amazing discoveries. Such as we've got trillions of
Dariya Krasnova: atoms in our body and each single atom contains
Dariya Krasnova: all the information in the universe. So you've got all the information
Dariya Krasnova: in the universe contained in your body. So if you maybe think of the
Dariya Krasnova: movie Matrix, how they could like quickly access the
Dariya Krasnova: skills and the tools they needed, right, that says in theory
Dariya Krasnova: possible, we just kind of forgotten the power we have within.
Dariya Krasnova: So we can tune in and lots of things. I'm not saying it's going to
Dariya Krasnova: be like in the movie Matrix, but as it is a movie, but that just
Dariya Krasnova: gives you an idea how actually powerful we are as human
Dariya Krasnova: beings. So this is what quantum physics is about. And
Dariya Krasnova: it's not an empty space around us, it's actually filled with energy. So
Dariya Krasnova: zero point energy was kind of considered to be
Dariya Krasnova: nothing like zero point. It's just static, nothing's happening. But
Dariya Krasnova: actually new discovery is showing us that it is teeming of
Dariya Krasnova: energy. So absolutely everything is energy, nothing is
Dariya Krasnova: empty. So it's just fascinating. And it
Dariya Krasnova: can be broken down to easy things, easy steps that can, we can
Dariya Krasnova: implement to kind of have a better life, you know, that's what we all want,
Dariya Krasnova: I guess. So what, what are the challenges that
Joanne Lockwood: society is facing right now from a health
Joanne Lockwood: epidemic problem, if you like, you know, holistic health problem. What are people,
Joanne Lockwood: what's going on in the world? I think what happened
Dariya Krasnova: is we over relying on western medicine.
Dariya Krasnova: Western medicine is amazing. Saving lives as we speak. Someone
Dariya Krasnova: in a car crash, I don't know, giving birth, broken leg, anything.
Dariya Krasnova: Absolutely fantastic, amazing. But as humanity, we
Dariya Krasnova: decided to over rely on it. Something happens, we run to gp,
Dariya Krasnova: gp, they don't have time, they give you a tablet, you're just
Dariya Krasnova: fighting the symptom. It gets worse and worse.
Dariya Krasnova: Before you know you're on five medication a day and you're not healthy.
Dariya Krasnova: You're dismissing the absolutely simplest steps that you could take to
Dariya Krasnova: prevent things. There's some stats they've seen
Dariya Krasnova: as 70% of the UK are on prescribed drugs,
Dariya Krasnova: 57% of adults are eating
Dariya Krasnova: highly processed foods and 64%
Dariya Krasnova: of kids are eating highly processed foods. I mean
Dariya Krasnova: what we eat, what we put on our skin and
Dariya Krasnova: what we process in terms of the news that we've been
Dariya Krasnova: fed, the kind of gossip and negative thoughts
Dariya Krasnova: like all that stuff is just penetrating us and it's
Dariya Krasnova: just making us sick. So I think, yeah, we kind of over relying
Dariya Krasnova: on what's in the supermarkets and we're trusting blindly
Dariya Krasnova: and we're not doing our due Diligence and we just became lazy
Dariya Krasnova: and not kind of interested in actually doing
Dariya Krasnova: things ourselves because no one's going to fix anything for us. We are the ones
Dariya Krasnova: who can fix things, you know, and we have this enormous power that
Dariya Krasnova: we've forgotten. This is I believe one of the problems and that caused,
Dariya Krasnova: yeah, that caused a lot of debate in the humanity. As a species
Joanne Lockwood: we've become, I'm going to say lazy
Joanne Lockwood: or we latch on to convenience. I think it's a human
Joanne Lockwood: trait that lazy people are more efficient because they
Joanne Lockwood: don't do things the hard way, do the things the easy way. And we
Joanne Lockwood: live in a world, we're certainly in the UK world where
Joanne Lockwood: we have to work, most of us have to work to put and both of
Joanne Lockwood: us, if we're in a relationship, both people have to work. So having a family,
Joanne Lockwood: taking time out, we find ourselves working all
Joanne Lockwood: hours, maybe one job, two job gig,
Joanne Lockwood: multi gigs, running a business on the side of employment.
Joanne Lockwood: We don't have the luxury, I call it a luxury that maybe my parents
Joanne Lockwood: had back in the 1960s, 1970s, where my mum
Joanne Lockwood: stayed at home raising three children. My father went off to
Joanne Lockwood: work. Even though it was tight, they could afford to have one
Joanne Lockwood: owner and one permanent house person.
Joanne Lockwood: But women want to work, women want to work, women want their place in life.
Joanne Lockwood: We don't want it with be the primary caregiver all the time.
Joanne Lockwood: So food is convenient, isn't it? Ready
Joanne Lockwood: Meals, McDonald's fast food. We've developed a
Joanne Lockwood: lifestyle around it 100%. Yeah, yeah. I think we've trapped
Dariya Krasnova: ourselves a bit. And I totally agree with you that earlier, not that long time
Dariya Krasnova: ago it was possible for a mother to dedicate time
Dariya Krasnova: to her kids. So what happened? Now we have kids
Dariya Krasnova: and then we need to work to earn money. So we give our kids
Dariya Krasnova: for someone to raise our kids like this is just
Dariya Krasnova: weird. That doesn't make any sense. And then I know lots of people
Dariya Krasnova: who are so overwhelmed with parenting just because we lost the
Dariya Krasnova: sense of community. It's like there is no people around you who
Dariya Krasnova: can just support and just keep an eye on a kid. You know, it's just
Dariya Krasnova: like I think we really need to go back to the roots of this community,
Dariya Krasnova: of this people kind of knowing each other and supporting each
Dariya Krasnova: other and kind of collaborating and co creating rather than this
Dariya Krasnova: constant competition. And you know, people think they need
Dariya Krasnova: to live in a certain postcode to, to have a successful life.
Dariya Krasnova: You're like what? Like to have a certain car and then they walk overtime and
Dariya Krasnova: then I mean the stress levels, it's ridiculous. And I
Dariya Krasnova: cannot stress enough when I speak to people about
Dariya Krasnova: neurodiversity and the conditions we've got. This is
Dariya Krasnova: like the influence of factors of. Are dependent
Dariya Krasnova: on what we eat. So what we eat and the lifestyle we've got in terms
Dariya Krasnova: of stress. Like, for example, you've got a kid whose parents
Dariya Krasnova: are constantly working, they can't see the kid
Dariya Krasnova: enough. And then the fifth kid, some, yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: food that is not that great, but they just don't have time to cook as
Dariya Krasnova: well, you know, and then it's all that stress. Kids can feel
Dariya Krasnova: stress, we all can feel stress again, everything is energy, frequency and vibration. So
Dariya Krasnova: they absorb all this stress. They have been traumatised and
Dariya Krasnova: poor parents, they just don't know what they're doing. They're trying to survive it and
Dariya Krasnova: survival. What? Yeah, they're gonna traumatise their kids? Obviously not
Dariya Krasnova: intentionally. And then the food and then everything around us, what we put
Dariya Krasnova: on our skin and then we've got ADHD and autism and
Dariya Krasnova: like. Well, let's not blame the genes. Many people are saying, oh,
Dariya Krasnova: this is genetic condition, this is genetic condition. No, what can we actually
Dariya Krasnova: do, do to feel better? The studies are
Dariya Krasnova: amazing and I speak to people all the time and as really great
Dariya Krasnova: examples of kids improving. So the symptoms are going away
Dariya Krasnova: by from 50 to 75% of the symptoms are away
Dariya Krasnova: kids who just changing by changing their diet, they couldn't speak and
Dariya Krasnova: then all of a sudden they speak. And that is just by changing the diet.
Dariya Krasnova: So. But yeah, the pace of life and the
Dariya Krasnova: expectations from the humans, it's just I don't think we can go on
Dariya Krasnova: like this for any long. I think we need change. Definitely
Dariya Krasnova: don't know what you think. Yeah, completely. When I was growing up,
Joanne Lockwood: let's say I've just turned 60, so I grew up in the 60s and 70s.
Joanne Lockwood: That's when I was a kind of a kid. I would get up, go to
Joanne Lockwood: school, I'd do a paper round, I'd deliver newspapers. Before I went to school, I'd
Joanne Lockwood: be up at half five, deliver newspapers, come back seven o', clock, have a breakfast
Joanne Lockwood: and then I'd cycle or walk to school and I'd get home in the evening,
Joanne Lockwood: I'd do another paper round, I get back in, I'd maybe go play football with
Joanne Lockwood: my friends in the park or running around, get my bike out, cycle around,
Joanne Lockwood: do stuff, play marbles. And then I'd eat my tea and then
Joanne Lockwood: crash by about nine. And at the weekends it was even or school
Joanne Lockwood: Holidays I was up, gone and out. I
Joanne Lockwood: very rarely sat around watching telly because back in those days don't
Joanne Lockwood: sound like dark ages. But television was only a short amount of time each day.
Joanne Lockwood: It used to go off, you'd have the children's programmes, then it was the news
Joanne Lockwood: and that was bedtime, something. But I think today
Joanne Lockwood: there's too many sedentary ways of
Joanne Lockwood: occupying children. You know, computers, nothing wrong with them, nothing wrong with phones, nothing
Joanne Lockwood: wrong with gaming, but most of them are mental activities
Joanne Lockwood: or stress activities, not exercise activities. And people
Joanne Lockwood: build relationships online, which is great, they connect with the world, but they're not
Joanne Lockwood: actually, you say, just hanging out and chatting face to face.
Dariya Krasnova: Yep, totally, totally. Yeah. Well, that's that. And I did meet my fiance on
Dariya Krasnova: Tinder, but that's
Dariya Krasnova: fine, you know, but as long as we're not sitting on our night dates like
Dariya Krasnova: that, it's like on the phone constantly and not chatting to each other because people
Dariya Krasnova: take it to extreme and it's like.
Dariya Krasnova: Interesting topic that I actually wanted to bring, if you don't mind me,
Dariya Krasnova: which is they kind of contro. Might be controversial, but
Dariya Krasnova: we've got this neurodiversity then we've got people with neurodiverse
Dariya Krasnova: conditions and I believe we are all, to a degree, neurodiverse. Some
Dariya Krasnova: less, some more, some struggle less, some struggle more.
Dariya Krasnova: The problem we've got here is that some people use
Dariya Krasnova: it as an excuse, like they don't work on themselves, they
Dariya Krasnova: don't work to realise, understand what this condition,
Dariya Krasnova: where is it coming from, how to cope, how to make their life
Dariya Krasnova: better and how can they integrate in the society
Dariya Krasnova: and understand, understand their patterns, understand what's happening. For
Dariya Krasnova: example, because I don't know, I had, for example, I'm. I'm
Dariya Krasnova: neurodiverse myself, for example. I can absolutely not process
Dariya Krasnova: numbers, like talk me about numbers. I have not. I just like. It, like, feels
Dariya Krasnova: like you're talking Chinese to me and I don't know Chinese. So, yeah, German,
Dariya Krasnova: English, Russian. I've had an interesting kind of.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. Thing happen to me. The person basically didn't treat me well at all,
Dariya Krasnova: like just quite rude. And I brought it up, I said, look, I
Dariya Krasnova: don't know what this person is going through. Maybe this person is not
Dariya Krasnova: feeling well or overwhelmed by something. I would like to bring it to attention because
Dariya Krasnova: I don't think people should be treated like this. Let's figure out what's happening so
Dariya Krasnova: it doesn't happen again to anyone else or me. And the response I get,
Dariya Krasnova: this person is neurodiverse. It's not an excuse in terms of
Dariya Krasnova: like, we can't just hide behind being neurodiverse. How can we all be
Dariya Krasnova: kind to each other? You know, whether we neurodiverse, whether we. On age
Dariya Krasnova: or whatever. Even. Even if you've done something, be brave
Dariya Krasnova: enough to. Enough to apologise. I have horrible days sometimes and I can
Dariya Krasnova: lash out on my fiance, but I recognise that I'm like,
Dariya Krasnova: look, I was overstimulated, my brain couldn't process. Yeah, I said, I didn't mean
Dariya Krasnova: this. You know, it's just like understanding how we can.
Dariya Krasnova: How can we be kind to each other in those things? And
Dariya Krasnova: there's lots of things that can be done. Because if, let's say someone has a
Dariya Krasnova: really bad neurodiverse condition and they really kind of. Yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: they're struggling a lot. And then let's say over the weekend they were
Dariya Krasnova: partying and fueling themselves with alcohol and horrible food,
Dariya Krasnova: which can only make their condition even worse. And then come Monday, this person
Dariya Krasnova: came to work and. And was horrible to everyone. Surely this is
Dariya Krasnova: not a nice thing to do. Like, I think that.
Dariya Krasnova: I believe that everything starts with self love. So if you
Dariya Krasnova: are kind to yourself, if you work on yourself and you aim to become the
Dariya Krasnova: better version of yourself, the healthier and the more kind you are, you feel
Dariya Krasnova: better. And then everyone around you will feel better
Dariya Krasnova: because you'll be kinder to them and you also. You'll react
Dariya Krasnova: less. Like, I was reacting to people, but now
Dariya Krasnova: I'm like, whatever, that's not my problem. You know, someone. I will
Dariya Krasnova: raise it. I will raise it and I will protect my peace and I will.
Dariya Krasnova: I will remove myself from situations, but I'm not gonna react
Dariya Krasnova: that just. Yeah, I would love to help people and
Dariya Krasnova: make them understand what's happening. And the other thing is, we've
Dariya Krasnova: got. It's kind of the part the neurodiversity. And then I group it in
Dariya Krasnova: three. So neurodiverse people, then the
Dariya Krasnova: sexual orientation and then the social, ethnic background.
Dariya Krasnova: So there is an interesting thing that I think we dismiss. There is
Dariya Krasnova: a percentage of people who got confused about their
Dariya Krasnova: sexual orientation because of the trauma.
Dariya Krasnova: And those people are actually deeply suffering. I knew a few cases
Dariya Krasnova: of people being abused in a childhood
Dariya Krasnova: and that created them to pick a certain sexual orientation.
Dariya Krasnova: But they're broken and they're suffering, they're depressed, they're anxious, they're
Dariya Krasnova: on medication. And I think we need to be very careful
Dariya Krasnova: and understand where this person was
Dariya Krasnova: born. That way, you Know, yeah, because we're all unique. But where.
Dariya Krasnova: But that group of people who are actually deeply suffering.
Dariya Krasnova: I think it's important to recognise this and address
Dariya Krasnova: and help those people because it's.
Dariya Krasnova: They'll. They're making choices based on their trauma and it only
Dariya Krasnova: hurts them more and more. I had a certain perspective about
Dariya Krasnova: sex for example because over certain things that happen in my
Dariya Krasnova: childhood but once I realised I was like, okay, it's
Dariya Krasnova: actually fine, there's nothing wrong with sex, you know. So yeah, I don't
Dariya Krasnova: know what your take on it because obviously you've got your own storey.
Dariya Krasnova: So what do you think? Do you believe that some people, there is a percentage
Dariya Krasnova: of people that we need to be mindful of and think like
Dariya Krasnova: this is prob. Yeah, what I've just described, what do you think? My
Joanne Lockwood: starting point is always each of us have a personal responsibility for
Joanne Lockwood: how we show up in the world then acknowledging that each of us
Joanne Lockwood: may well need additional help and support based on
Joanne Lockwood: whatever, whoever we are in society. So call that equity if you
Joanne Lockwood: like. But yeah, I'm a great believer that I have to take personal responsibility
Joanne Lockwood: for being the best me I can be and not pushing
Joanne Lockwood: it onto somebody else or society
Joanne Lockwood: straight away. What can I do first? And so I
Joanne Lockwood: think it's important that we try and create that balance where I take responsibility.
Joanne Lockwood: I can then advocate to somebody else for what
Joanne Lockwood: I need help with and then that person can tell me how
Joanne Lockwood: they're showing up and tell me how they want to interface with me and then
Joanne Lockwood: we have a conversation because you both sit there and say, well, we're both
Joanne Lockwood: neurodiverse. You don't do numbers, I don't do numbers. Either one of us has to
Joanne Lockwood: do numbers. So between us we have to figure out the numbers. So
Joanne Lockwood: I think somehow we've got to develop this, a better technique for
Joanne Lockwood: negotiating our communication with somebody else and finding
Joanne Lockwood: a common language, a common ground, a common perception where
Joanne Lockwood: we can communicate effectively.
Joanne Lockwood: It becomes frustrating when people push it back to everybody else to deal with. So
Joanne Lockwood: yeah, it's just trying to find that balance. I read something the other day
Joanne Lockwood: and someone's identified that
Joanne Lockwood: one of the reasons people are growing up into adulthood with more
Joanne Lockwood: anxiety, with more stress, with more poor mental health,
Joanne Lockwood: is we haven't maybe spent enough time as a younger person with our
Joanne Lockwood: parents, with our mum, learning resilience, learning about
Joanne Lockwood: failure, learning about things not working where
Joanne Lockwood: people are maybe being brought up in a world now where
Joanne Lockwood: things have to work first time or someone's going to fix it for you,
Joanne Lockwood: there's cartoons showing that in the old days, I sound
Joanne Lockwood: like. I sound like an old person. Well, I am an old person. When you,
Joanne Lockwood: when you went to parent parents evening, the parent will be putting it back on
Joanne Lockwood: the parents. This teacher would put it back on the parents about how you bring
Joanne Lockwood: your child up. And our own parents, even the parents are pushing it to the
Joanne Lockwood: teacher and saying, what are you doing for my child? Why is my child failing?
Joanne Lockwood: Being the other way around to parents taking responsibility. Maybe it's. There's a
Joanne Lockwood: different relationship now where people are growing up in a world where
Joanne Lockwood: they're not getting the resilience, they're not getting the parental love, they're not getting
Joanne Lockwood: their support to grow their personality,
Joanne Lockwood: become resilient. I think, I think
Joanne Lockwood: we're lacking resilience in our adult life today. Yeah, absolutely.
Dariya Krasnova: On one side, it's everyone's own responsibility to grow up
Dariya Krasnova: and then address the things that happened. And
Dariya Krasnova: it's not really the things that happen, it's how we reacted to them.
Dariya Krasnova: Because the coping mechanism can turn into
Dariya Krasnova: neurodiversity, can. It can turn into disease, it can turn
Dariya Krasnova: into anxiety, depression, it can turn into hatred towards a
Dariya Krasnova: specific sex, for example, just because something horrible happened. Right.
Dariya Krasnova: Which is, which is not right. So it becomes. We get, we get toxic femininity
Dariya Krasnova: and toxic masculinity. You know, we push each other apart.
Dariya Krasnova: We're just creating so many groups and communities and it just grows and
Dariya Krasnova: grows and grows. So I'm questioning myself, well, where is the diversity and
Dariya Krasnova: inclusion if we all gonna have so many groups and
Dariya Krasnova: there's only specific people are allowed in those groups? How
Dariya Krasnova: do we come together? How do we embrace the masculinity and femininity
Dariya Krasnova: in its beautiful shape and form and all the aspects. It's
Dariya Krasnova: like a. It's a spectrum of a rainbow. You know, some
Dariya Krasnova: people, like yourself, I'm more of a masculine energy, but I'm female
Dariya Krasnova: and I still like my, my female stuff. But
Dariya Krasnova: I've got this leadership and whatever, you know, so it's. We, we. We're so
Dariya Krasnova: different. So I think it's about. Yeah, recognising your own
Dariya Krasnova: power. Recognising that you can heal from things that
Dariya Krasnova: defined you because of that traumatic experience that happened to
Dariya Krasnova: you. And then help each other, you know, just be there for each other. Because
Dariya Krasnova: I believe that everyone is just another version of me.
Dariya Krasnova: Which just sounds crazy, but according to quantum physics, we are
Dariya Krasnova: all one. So you're just another version of me, and I'm just another
Dariya Krasnova: version of you. So I cannot get angry at you because
Dariya Krasnova: you're just another version of me. I will accept you the way
Dariya Krasnova: you are. And it's just we
Dariya Krasnova: obviously tend to gravitate to some people more and
Dariya Krasnova: some less. And this is based on our uniqueness, you know. But
Dariya Krasnova: I will never hate anyone because of anything. You
Dariya Krasnova: know, I've been treated horribly. Horribly. I've been hated by all
Dariya Krasnova: kids at school and by all teachers. There was a teacher who was telling me
Dariya Krasnova: that my name does not exist. So she was calling me a different name.
Dariya Krasnova: Like, this is just. I was obviously hating this
Dariya Krasnova: teacher. But I grew up and I've worked through my traumas and I'm still
Dariya Krasnova: working through them. And I've realised this teacher was really traumatised
Dariya Krasnova: as well. This woman was unhappy. And then I was
Dariya Krasnova: bullied by males as well at work, like, really
Dariya Krasnova: bad stuff, you know, I was told things. I was told I'm thick and I'm
Dariya Krasnova: stupid and whatnot, you know, And I forgave them all.
Dariya Krasnova: And why? For my own sake. Because there's no need
Dariya Krasnova: to hold on to anger because we're all. I believe we're all one,
Dariya Krasnova: you know, and if. See, if the people who hurt me will come over
Dariya Krasnova: to me and say, daria, I need help, I'll help them. Not, not
Dariya Krasnova: to. Obviously, if. Obviously if I can and if they open to it. But I'm
Dariya Krasnova: not going to hold any anger. I just. I just refuse. So this.
Dariya Krasnova: This is the world I want to see. You know, that's really interesting. I like
Joanne Lockwood: what you said there. You don't hold onto the anger, you know, you have to
Joanne Lockwood: bring it back to fundamentally, we are all one. We're one species.
Joanne Lockwood: At your quantum level, all parts of the
Joanne Lockwood: universe together, just a different assembly of atoms, aren't we?
Joanne Lockwood: As you say, lots of gaps between us. Well, it's the
Dariya Krasnova: universe. I would say it's the universe experiencing
Dariya Krasnova: itself according to the teachings of kindness, spirituality. Like
Dariya Krasnova: a funny fact. Not a funny fact, actually, but that's quantum physics as
Dariya Krasnova: well. We are drinking the same water molecules as Jesus was drinking.
Dariya Krasnova: So this is just mind blowing, you know, but it's
Dariya Krasnova: science, you know, and yeah, I'm not. I'm not religious
Dariya Krasnova: belief system based more on spirituality. Everything is everyone and
Dariya Krasnova: we're all one. Yeah. And this is what we've forgotten. And
Dariya Krasnova: then we forgotten until that, that we're all one. And we
Dariya Krasnova: created divide borders, wars and trying to
Dariya Krasnova: figure out who's better, you know, you are who you are. You're not better or
Dariya Krasnova: worse than Anyone? That's the thing, I believe.
Dariya Krasnova: Don't know what you're thinking. It's just a collection of atoms that's formed a molecule.
Joanne Lockwood: If you go back to the formation of the universe, whatever your theory
Joanne Lockwood: on that is, it was all just dust or atoms
Joanne Lockwood: of, I guess the primaeval atoms, hydrogen, helium, carbon,
Joanne Lockwood: those sort of kind of the fundamental building blocks of the universe. Yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: absolutely. And we are about 55 or 50%, we share
Dariya Krasnova: DNA with banana and then we are like 85%
Dariya Krasnova: sharing DNA with DNA with dogs and cats and
Dariya Krasnova: I don't know, 40% some kind of fruit fly or something. We
Dariya Krasnova: are really everything. Like that's another thing that we've forgotten that we are
Dariya Krasnova: nature. I'm sorry, but Oxford Dictionary is
Dariya Krasnova: saying that we are separate from nature. But I disagree with that. This is
Dariya Krasnova: my belief system, take it or leave it. But I believe we are
Dariya Krasnova: nature and it's kind of, yeah, the science backs it up, you know, so that's
Dariya Krasnova: the other part we've forgotten and then created that divide and that
Dariya Krasnova: went into health problems and mental health problems and just kind of a bit
Dariya Krasnova: broken at the moment. Let's see. Yeah, I'm, I'm a
Joanne Lockwood: great believer that our DNA is effectively just
Joanne Lockwood: a computer code. And you know, if you look at most computer programmes,
Joanne Lockwood: computer code, it has core blocks as a beginning, a middle and end, it has
Joanne Lockwood: subroutines, it has this. So it's not surprising that our core code,
Joanne Lockwood: if you like, is very related to other living organisms that are
Joanne Lockwood: based on a carbon based ecosystem. So we're all going to be
Joanne Lockwood: processing oxygen, light. If we were silicon based
Joanne Lockwood: culture, we would have different ways of processing things. But fundamentally, because
Joanne Lockwood: we're all growing up in a very similar ecosystem, our DNA and
Joanne Lockwood: how we process things in this planet is going to be very similar. So, yeah,
Joanne Lockwood: I completely, completely agree. And all our, all our programming is doing is
Joanne Lockwood: telling how our atoms and molecules and, and, and,
Joanne Lockwood: and cells in our body, how to configure themselves.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. But the beauty is that we are responsible for that. We can change.
Dariya Krasnova: There is another science that, called epigenetics that tells it that your
Dariya Krasnova: environment, the environment you live in and how you treat yourself
Dariya Krasnova: and what is the world around you, including what you eat and what you consume
Dariya Krasnova: mentally as well, your thoughts, your emotions, that all defines your
Dariya Krasnova: genes. So the new studies that are actually showing, I've just seen it recently
Dariya Krasnova: and that's. I can't remember the name. I think it's a German scientific journal
Dariya Krasnova: that's 150 years old. Seeing the new studies are showing
Dariya Krasnova: now that cancer is not a genetic disease, it's rather
Dariya Krasnova: metabolic. And this is amazing because that gives us
Dariya Krasnova: more power as every single person is
Dariya Krasnova: responsible and can be responsible in a good way and has the power
Dariya Krasnova: to actually prevent and yeah,
Dariya Krasnova: have less chances of having cancer and not just playing a victim.
Dariya Krasnova: I've met people who were just playing a victim and saying, oh, nothing I can
Dariya Krasnova: do. Everyone had cancer in my family. No, no, no, no.
Dariya Krasnova: This is just you having you. You're actually installing this belief
Dariya Krasnova: system in your head. So you're gonna more likely to have
Dariya Krasnova: cancer if you're gonna constantly believe that you're gonna have cancer.
Dariya Krasnova: But if you act on your lifestyle and improve it, then you're less likely
Dariya Krasnova: to have cancer. So why not to go this route? There's no need to
Dariya Krasnova: fall into this. We always kind of tend. And it's very tempting
Dariya Krasnova: to become a victim of the things around us, you know, like
Dariya Krasnova: blaming everything and everyone and not taking responsibility and
Dariya Krasnova: thinking what can we do? Like things happening with
Dariya Krasnova: me, not to me, because if they're happening to me, I have no control,
Dariya Krasnova: you know, but if they're happening with me, I'm like, okay, I can do
Dariya Krasnova: something about this. I can change things, you know, whether it's health or
Dariya Krasnova: the people who are around me. But I believe there's enormous power we've got within.
Joanne Lockwood: I mean, what about your, your vision for your Vibe platform?
Joanne Lockwood: How do I listen to what you're saying? I think this
Joanne Lockwood: sounds, I love your wisdom here. Where does Vibe come into my life?
Dariya Krasnova: So Vibe inside. Yeah. First of all,
Dariya Krasnova: if someone lands on Vibe Inside, which we're currently building, as I said, is to
Dariya Krasnova: educate yourself about the holistic health and how important it
Dariya Krasnova: is body, mind and soul. And the first immediate
Dariya Krasnova: steps that you can do to improve your health, improve your
Dariya Krasnova: lifestyle and then to discover the
Dariya Krasnova: treatments and the practitioners and book, book and pay
Dariya Krasnova: and if it's online, attend the treatment.
Dariya Krasnova: We would like this to be part of Western like integration,
Dariya Krasnova: integrate with western medicine and be a part of gp. And this is a very
Dariya Krasnova: long term goal. But we want to empower people
Dariya Krasnova: to take responsibility, accountability for their own
Dariya Krasnova: mental, physical and spiritual health. We want to encourage them
Dariya Krasnova: and give them tools and help them to
Dariya Krasnova: basically build their own reality and then create a community
Dariya Krasnova: around it. And also almost like potentially a
Dariya Krasnova: social media platform where everyone can be authentic,
Dariya Krasnova: not pushy, you know, not like there is law in social media that is
Dariya Krasnova: obviously good but equally toxic. People are pushing the
Dariya Krasnova: way like buy My book, this is the way, this
Dariya Krasnova: is the product. We don't want any of that. So we want
Dariya Krasnova: to encourage people to find their own unique way because at the end of the
Dariya Krasnova: day, everyone will have their own unique way. You can just say, well, this
Dariya Krasnova: is definitely going to work, you know, and this comes from this
Dariya Krasnova: uniqueness that each and everyone's got and support supportive community
Dariya Krasnova: where people can share knowledge and. Yeah. Just kind
Dariya Krasnova: of the opposite of. The opposite of the toxic part of the
Dariya Krasnova: social media that we can see nowadays, you know, and.
Dariya Krasnova: Yeah. Which is sometimes sad to see. Like you look at the people and the
Dariya Krasnova: broken, you know, and the confused. Yeah. Bringing everyone together back
Dariya Krasnova: and going back to the roots and it's simple, you know,
Dariya Krasnova: and we would love to see Western medicine to integrate and we've got plans
Dariya Krasnova: to. Yeah. To try and suggest this to western medicine
Dariya Krasnova: because I think we should work together again, collaboration and co creation.
Dariya Krasnova: You know, if someone's broke a leg, obviously they're not gonna go and have a
Dariya Krasnova: Reiki session. This is obvious. But now
Dariya Krasnova: we've got loads of studies that prove, for example, the Reiki is very helpful
Dariya Krasnova: for cancer patients while they're having a chemotherapy. It really,
Dariya Krasnova: really helps people feel better, you know, so that support and
Dariya Krasnova: integration. So vibe inside again. Vibe inside.
Dariya Krasnova: From inside to the outside, you know, so the vibration you've got
Dariya Krasnova: inside, the energy you've got inside, get it on the outside,
Dariya Krasnova: align yourself and then spread the love, spread all
Dariya Krasnova: the good stuff. And actually, I believe we are going
Dariya Krasnova: into kind of golden age. We just need to come through turbulent
Dariya Krasnova: times where it's all messy and confusing and there's lots
Dariya Krasnova: of kind of horrible stuff happening. But at the end of the day, I
Dariya Krasnova: think we're gonna come out on the other end where it's gonna be a beautiful
Dariya Krasnova: world. I might be sounding too optimistic, but that's my belief
Dariya Krasnova: system, you know? Yeah, no, I, I get it. And we talked about some
Joanne Lockwood: things earlier about, you know, what's going wrong in terms of
Joanne Lockwood: the food we're eating, stress levels, we have the cortisol levels in
Joanne Lockwood: our heads. We're always on, we're always doing stuff. We never have time to
Joanne Lockwood: relax. Our, our pulse is always high. We're, we're rushing, we're not
Joanne Lockwood: relaxing, we're not getting is. Obesity levels are high,
Joanne Lockwood: has an impact on health and wellbeing. Where does someone like me
Joanne Lockwood: start? I've just turned 60 and I'm thinking, I want to live a
Joanne Lockwood: healthy Life for another 15, 20 years if I can. So
Joanne Lockwood: I've Gone. Right, I need to do something. What's my first thing I need to
Joanne Lockwood: start thinking about? How do I do an audit of my life?
Dariya Krasnova: Well, first of all get curious about things about
Dariya Krasnova: so your body, mind and soul, everything that you consume, start from your
Dariya Krasnova: body and what you eat. Educate yourself on what are the
Dariya Krasnova: good ingredients, what are the bad ingredients. Unfortunately, supermarket's got
Dariya Krasnova: loads of carcinogenic food but we still have got a
Dariya Krasnova: choice to between a carry out, lazy carry out
Dariya Krasnova: and cooking something from scratch. And I can tell you
Dariya Krasnova: more, not everyone loves cooking but if you try and integrate
Dariya Krasnova: cooking, it can be as good as meditation because you're
Dariya Krasnova: very in the zone. So you're killing two birds with one stone.
Dariya Krasnova: You can be relaxing and trying to cook something you're creating and we
Dariya Krasnova: all here on this planet to create. So
Dariya Krasnova: educating yourself about food, educating yourself about what
Dariya Krasnova: you put on your skin. Please, please, please
Dariya Krasnova: don't be scared of the sun. This is like one of the
Dariya Krasnova: worst things I've been put in our head. I'm not saying you should be basking
Dariya Krasnova: in the sun for like hours and burning to crisp. No, but there is
Dariya Krasnova: no need to put a sun cream, sunscreen, whatever you call it. If you just
Dariya Krasnova: 10, 15 minutes outside, get the sun if you
Dariya Krasnova: can, please. It's 10, 15 minutes of your day. I guarantee
Dariya Krasnova: it's not going to do you any harm. It can only do you good. Ground
Dariya Krasnova: yourself, do simple things. Take time to go to nature,
Dariya Krasnova: pub, to nature. That might sound really
Dariya Krasnova: hard for some, but every drop
Dariya Krasnova: of alcohol is a toxin. If we've been tricked into thinking
Dariya Krasnova: that it's good for us, just reduce your alcohol
Dariya Krasnova: consumption. If you do drink alcohol. I'm talking about everyone here because your
Dariya Krasnova: advice I'm giving to you is applied to everyone who's, I don't know, 18 plus,
Dariya Krasnova: you know, so and start integrating the
Dariya Krasnova: small things in your life like what you consume, food wise, what you
Dariya Krasnova: put on your skin. Nature is extremely important because we are nature. Just get your
Dariya Krasnova: foot on the ground again, 10 minutes a day if you can. If you've got
Dariya Krasnova: a wee garden on the beach, anywhere you are super important.
Dariya Krasnova: Try and find ways to relax your body. And people say I can't
Dariya Krasnova: meditate and I just hate that saying I'm sorry but start
Dariya Krasnova: small. Put the music of nature like who hates music
Dariya Krasnova: of nature? Does anyone hate the birds chirping and the waves
Dariya Krasnova: crashing? I don't think so. I mean there may be, but just put
Dariya Krasnova: that music on and just try and lay down for 10 minutes,
Dariya Krasnova: relax, just Try not to think of anything. Don't be hard on yourself.
Dariya Krasnova: Start painting if you like. Find something that you can dedicate time
Dariya Krasnova: and be creative. Just be curious in what's around
Dariya Krasnova: you, you know, and there is, there's different ways again, it's fine about
Dariya Krasnova: finding your way and don't be afraid of facing
Dariya Krasnova: your demons. We all got them. We all got things from the past
Dariya Krasnova: that hurt us really badly. And
Dariya Krasnova: it's really necessary to get them out if you didn't yet.
Dariya Krasnova: And I'm still digging some out and I'm like, oh, that hurts, you
Dariya Krasnova: know, but that hurts. If you address it and you feel it and you release
Dariya Krasnova: it. Complementary alternative treatments. It's amazing what
Dariya Krasnova: it can do. People don't believe, many people don't believe. But I'm leaving
Dariya Krasnova: proof of that because I was taking antidepressants for almost
Dariya Krasnova: 20 years. I had severe anxiety and panic attacks. I couldn't leave the
Dariya Krasnova: house. I was calling ambulance to just get injected
Dariya Krasnova: some stuff so I can come down. Horrible, horrible, horrible. I came up
Dariya Krasnova: and understand that the power is within you are
Dariya Krasnova: absolutely unlimited human being.
Dariya Krasnova: You can do anything you want in your life. You can be
Dariya Krasnova: happy. It's really your choice. It's really how you look
Dariya Krasnova: at the world. Yes, if you're 60, you might not
Dariya Krasnova: going to be a gymnastic or, I don't know, the first one,
Dariya Krasnova: the best swimmer in the world or something, and that's fine. But you have
Dariya Krasnova: passion and talents and values that you can align. And in your case, I
Dariya Krasnova: believe you are aligning them. So you're definitely doing a great job
Dariya Krasnova: here. But yeah, the mind, try not to
Dariya Krasnova: consume all the garbage that surrounds us. There is
Dariya Krasnova: no need to read those news all over again and gossip about them.
Dariya Krasnova: Can you do something about it? Then go and do it. If you
Dariya Krasnova: can't. There is no need to just constantly
Dariya Krasnova: gossip about things because there is this thing
Dariya Krasnova: people talk about politics and people they hate. But what you do,
Dariya Krasnova: you're giving away your power to them. You're getting all this adrenaline rush
Dariya Krasnova: and you're getting really stressed like all these politicians and this and that.
Dariya Krasnova: But what you do, you're just stressing your body.
Dariya Krasnova: So it's rethinking those patterns as well. Do they actually.
Dariya Krasnova: Do they deserve your time? I don't think they do, you know,
Dariya Krasnova: so positive mind. Yeah.
Joanne Lockwood: Everything you said makes perfect sense. Be mindful about what you're eating.
Joanne Lockwood: Be mindful about your stress levels. Be mindful about how you interact with people.
Joanne Lockwood: Take personal responsibility. We've lost a lot
Joanne Lockwood: of that art as a society. So I think you're saying you probably find that
Joanne Lockwood: most people will agree with you fundamentally, it's a secret of a happy
Joanne Lockwood: life. We're quite lazy, we're quite habitual. We've got sucked into this
Joanne Lockwood: lifestyle. And it's not just our own
Joanne Lockwood: self we're worried about, it's how we interact with everybody else around us. Everybody else's
Joanne Lockwood: lifestyle has an impact on us. Instead, we'll connect. It's really
Joanne Lockwood: hard to buck the trend and get off the conveyor belt and say stop.
Joanne Lockwood: I've got to. Most people just get sucked along in this life
Joanne Lockwood: of doing stuff until, until they have a,
Joanne Lockwood: a crossroads, an impact, a diagnosis or something's
Joanne Lockwood: happened in their life that nudges them into, into waking up.
Joanne Lockwood: How, how can, how could people start to be curious
Joanne Lockwood: without, without having, having to have a life changing
Joanne Lockwood: epiphany? Well, do you want to suffer? Some people actually do want to
Dariya Krasnova: suffer. This is sounds bizarre, but I came across people
Dariya Krasnova: who would like. Nope, I like my suffering. I generally do.
Dariya Krasnova: And not everyone's meant. And that's fine. You know, it's, it's. I
Dariya Krasnova: accept people's belief systems and if they want to suffer, let them be.
Dariya Krasnova: But you need to want, you need to want to change and it's.
Dariya Krasnova: You need to. I don't think there is a magic formula here. How,
Dariya Krasnova: how to, you know or like again that way. How do I do this?
Dariya Krasnova: It's. Well, ask yourself, do you want to suffer for the rest of your life
Dariya Krasnova: by being in this comfortable zone
Dariya Krasnova: that you're in? Your ego, it's keeping you in this comfort
Dariya Krasnova: zone where this pain is familiar. You know
Dariya Krasnova: how to deal with this pain. You're still suffering, but you still, but you still
Dariya Krasnova: look at how to deal with this pain. Or do you want to embrace
Dariya Krasnova: the change? Because I can tell you one thing, that nothing
Dariya Krasnova: new is gonna happen in the known.
Dariya Krasnova: Nothing exciting is gonna happen in the known. You're not gonna find
Dariya Krasnova: good life in the known. If you're not happy with your life right now,
Dariya Krasnova: it's gonna come from the unknown, something new,
Dariya Krasnova: something you've never tried. You need to come out of your comfort zone,
Dariya Krasnova: trust the process, you know, And I always recommend people to
Dariya Krasnova: try and write down their values, passions and
Dariya Krasnova: talents and literally write them down. What are
Dariya Krasnova: your values in life? What you're passionate about and
Dariya Krasnova: what you're good at. And if you act on that as long as you can,
Dariya Krasnova: as good as you can, you will arrive at
Dariya Krasnova: where you feel better. Because Everything that's in our
Dariya Krasnova: head is a belief system. That's it. And if it's just a belief
Dariya Krasnova: system, it can be changed. I believe
Joanne Lockwood: I'm a subscriber to emotional intelligence as a concept.
Joanne Lockwood: And the first, the first step of emotional intelligence is
Joanne Lockwood: understanding that self awareness. So everything you're talking about here is around
Joanne Lockwood: trying to unpack who you are.
Joanne Lockwood: You've mentioned core values, how you interact with people, how you
Joanne Lockwood: communicate, the personal responsibility, how you show up in the world.
Joanne Lockwood: And you cannot influence yourself until you
Joanne Lockwood: become aware of who you are and all those dynamics. Because the second
Joanne Lockwood: stage of self information intelligence is that self regulation, how to develop
Joanne Lockwood: that better interaction with society. So everything you're saying really resonates
Joanne Lockwood: from an emotional intelligence starting point. And that self
Joanne Lockwood: awareness, that sentience, that connecting yourself to the
Joanne Lockwood: world and your interfaces, it's gotta be the first step. For me,
Dariya Krasnova: absolutely. Yeah, I agree. It can be. I think people are afraid of the
Dariya Krasnova: pain that they can cause the process to
Dariya Krasnova: actually become free and to become who you are and to become
Dariya Krasnova: authentic. Because people will live your
Dariya Krasnova: life and sometimes it can be your closest
Dariya Krasnova: people, it can be your friends and family, unfortunately.
Dariya Krasnova: But again, do you want to be yourself or do you want to just
Dariya Krasnova: suffer and be a people pleaser? We do have sometimes
Dariya Krasnova: situations where people have to, to lose everything, to become
Dariya Krasnova: free actually and regain kind of
Dariya Krasnova: the authenticity and find their real tribe,
Dariya Krasnova: you know, people who actually accept them for who they are.
Dariya Krasnova: And it's beautiful once you find those people because they're out
Dariya Krasnova: there, they are like, I guarantee you they're out there. But you need
Dariya Krasnova: to be yourself because if you're not yourself then I lost two friends
Dariya Krasnova: last year because I'm becoming more and more of who I am.
Dariya Krasnova: Those people just disappeared from my life and I'm like, whatever, I wasn't aligned with
Dariya Krasnova: them anyway. So yeah, I think
Joanne Lockwood: in today's modern age we collect friends, we collect likes, we collect
Joanne Lockwood: reactions, we judge ourselves on how people see us.
Joanne Lockwood: And it's getting back to the fundamentals. And I think you're right. We have to
Joanne Lockwood: let go of the prisoners of our beliefs. Ten years
Joanne Lockwood: ago, when I changed my life, I
Joanne Lockwood: lost people. When I say lost, we drifted apart.
Joanne Lockwood: I didn't lose anybody. We drifted apart. We no longer had the thing in
Joanne Lockwood: common that once held us together. And we do it throughout our lives. You
Joanne Lockwood: know, we go to our first school, when we go to our next school, we
Joanne Lockwood: don't bring everyone with us when we go to the school after that, we don't
Joanne Lockwood: Bring it then. When we get into our career, we keep in touch with some
Joanne Lockwood: people from school, some people from university, and over our life we
Joanne Lockwood: drift apart and we form new connections and new bonds. But
Joanne Lockwood: I've got a friend who I've known since I was about 6 years old, so
Joanne Lockwood: that's 54 years. We lost contact for about 20 years in the middle,
Joanne Lockwood: but we're still friends now. So where relationships
Joanne Lockwood: are meant to be and there's a mutual benefit for that relationship,
Joanne Lockwood: then you'll hang onto it. But as soon as it's one sided or it
Joanne Lockwood: serves neither any purpose, of course you're gonna drift apart.
Joanne Lockwood: And I think allowing yourself to be able to move on and not hold
Joanne Lockwood: onto your past, hold onto what's holding you back,
Joanne Lockwood: it's part of that self awareness, part of that emotional intelligence. It's what makes you
Joanne Lockwood: happy. Yeah, totally. Because we're afraid. Because
Dariya Krasnova: when we change and become more authentic, our family and friends are saying like, what's
Dariya Krasnova: wrong with you? Nothing, I'm just
Dariya Krasnova: actually finding myself. But to them it's like shock to the system
Dariya Krasnova: because actually we bond connections on a chemical level. The,
Dariya Krasnova: the people, your, your family and your friends, it's like that chemical bond
Dariya Krasnova: and they can sense it on an energetic level that you've changed.
Dariya Krasnova: And they started panicking, like, oh my God, oh my God, you were better when
Dariya Krasnova: you were on the meds or something. You know, you were better when you were
Dariya Krasnova: this or that. You're like, well, I was suffering by the way, when I was
Dariya Krasnova: this and that. You know, now I'm free. Like now I'm feeling better and.
Dariya Krasnova: But they panicking, they're like, oh, oh no, that's not you anymore. No, this is
Dariya Krasnova: actually starting to become more like me. So. And this
Dariya Krasnova: is, yeah, it can be painful, but it's worth it. Honestly,
Dariya Krasnova: it's worth it. But that's the hard thing about family is because
Joanne Lockwood: those bonds are not transient. They're kind of our social construct of
Joanne Lockwood: family is that these bonds are permanent. So that
Joanne Lockwood: when we drift apart, when we grow, when we age, when we have different lived
Joanne Lockwood: experiences, we keep coming back to our family. But our family,
Joanne Lockwood: those bonds don't evolve, they're kind of static. And what we find is that
Joanne Lockwood: we get together at Christmas, we get together for family reunions, at a wedding, we
Joanne Lockwood: have arguments, we have fights, we fall out. Because we've
Joanne Lockwood: never evolved the bond. We've always been stuck in that time
Joanne Lockwood: lock of where we were when that bond was formed. And parents always
Joanne Lockwood: see us as a child. Brother always sees us as a
Joanne Lockwood: younger person or an older person, whatever it may be. Whereas friendships, those
Joanne Lockwood: bonds stretch and evolve, families never do. And there's a great
Joanne Lockwood: saying called chosen family. If you hang out with your chosen family rather than your
Joanne Lockwood: biological family for. Want a better way of describing it, then those relationships are
Joanne Lockwood: better because they're more authentic. Yeah. And that's
Dariya Krasnova: totally agree. And there is this funny thing that I can see across all cultures
Dariya Krasnova: and I've been introduced to three. It's like your family, for some reason
Dariya Krasnova: we have that feeling that we can. Can it
Dariya Krasnova: be rude or something to each other
Dariya Krasnova: within the family? It's like, it's like family members can call
Dariya Krasnova: each other names and I don't know, it's just like be more of a.
Dariya Krasnova: Abusive in a way. And you're like, well, you would never say that to your
Dariya Krasnova: friend. Why are you saying this to me? You know, things like that, it's like.
Dariya Krasnova: And this is. I'm kind of. Yeah, I don't, I don't quite understand. I
Dariya Krasnova: don't have an answer yet for that. But it's, it's a bit weird in certain
Dariya Krasnova: situations. Not all families, obviously, but it's. There's a weird tendency, you
Dariya Krasnova: know, I don't know. What do you think? Would you agree that bond
Joanne Lockwood: is, is inherent between you? You know, you know that you can
Joanne Lockwood: get angry, get upset, say things you shouldn't say, but you're always
Joanne Lockwood: going to be a brother, you're always going to be a mother, you're always going
Joanne Lockwood: to be a child. So maybe what it is, is, is that bond
Joanne Lockwood: allows you to be more blunt or ruthless.
Joanne Lockwood: Whereas with a friend, with a friendship, you're maybe more.
Joanne Lockwood: You value that transient maybe nature of it. And maybe
Joanne Lockwood: if you've got close friends, maybe you're more brutal with your closer
Joanne Lockwood: friends because again, that bond is very, very tight. But then it
Dariya Krasnova: hurts more family. If your close family members would tell you
Dariya Krasnova: that you're stupid, that's gonna, that can. That alone can cause trauma. And you might
Dariya Krasnova: believe for the rest of your life that you're stupid. So it's
Dariya Krasnova: like, you know, or like you've made the wrong decision or like, oh, what are
Dariya Krasnova: you doing? You're taking the wrong path. And then you start questioning yourself and you're
Dariya Krasnova: like, oh, my God, oh my God. And you're taking the wrong. And you're starting
Dariya Krasnova: to take the wrong path by going backwards and not taking those decisions that
Dariya Krasnova: you wanted to make. And then you're unhappy. And it just all
Dariya Krasnova: gets. So if a stranger were to come over to me and say, daria, you're
Dariya Krasnova: stupid, I'll be like, whatever, you know. But then if it's some close
Dariya Krasnova: family member were to see this, I. It wouldn't be more hurtful,
Dariya Krasnova: obviously. Yeah, I get that. I get that. Yeah, it is.
Joanne Lockwood: I think it's probably down to the bond of trust as well. We have a
Joanne Lockwood: belief that our family should be there to amplify us and protect us. And when
Joanne Lockwood: it. When it lets us down, it hurts more because we have a higher, higher
Joanne Lockwood: expectation. Maybe, Maybe. Who knows? Who knows?
Joanne Lockwood: Dariya, it's been absolutely fascinating. I've loved. I've left chatting away with you and
Joanne Lockwood: I'm sure we could just. We could carry on. So next time I'm in Glasgow,
Joanne Lockwood: I'll. I'll drop you a message. So how can people get ahold of you? How
Joanne Lockwood: can people find more about your Vibe platform? Thanks.
Dariya Krasnova: Thanks, Jan. It was a pleasure as well. And please, please let me know if
Dariya Krasnova: you're in Glasgow. Yep. Would love to go for a cupper. Yes. So
Dariya Krasnova: obviously my name Dariya Krasnova. I'm on Instagram
Dariya Krasnova: trying to share some lovely stuff and
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Dariya Krasnova: and yeah, love, kindness, compassion,
Dariya Krasnova: gratitude, diversity, inclusion and,
Dariya Krasnova: yeah, peace. That's all I want to see, you know, And I'm open to chat
Dariya Krasnova: to anyone who wants a personal advice to help find
Dariya Krasnova: their own way. I will never, ever show you the way, but
Dariya Krasnova: I might help you find your own unique way. So
Dariya Krasnova: feel free to get in touch. Brilliant. That's a great definition of helping people find
Joanne Lockwood: their own unique way. Love that. Thank you, Dariya. It's been a
Joanne Lockwood: pleasure. Thank you. Thank you. As we
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